god i cant wait to be like one of your men

There are many posts about people's relationship problems on this sub, all you have to do is scroll half way down the page, it's just that this sub isn't exclusively an advice sub or a place to vent, it's a hobby/lifestyle sub as well. People go to r/relationships only when they have a problem.

Because y'all aren't dumb. You don't go for men who have nothing to offer. Of course you are happier, ladies! You have the intelligence to SELECT a male who's not a pain in the ass to put up with in the first place.

There must be something to it. Me and some of my friends who are traditional women are happily married to responsible and good men. Why some other friends who are into feminism are single and bitter about men. They always told me to be independent and to be power women. One friend had a mental breakdown recently where she screamed and hitting around because another guy dumped her again after sex. She said she is damaged for life because men using her. The next day she drove 300km to him even she got dumped (no joke). Another one break down sobbing that no man is helping her with her life. Geez aren’t you the one who told me to be strong independent women who needs no man ? I think deep down they do but won’t admit because our society shuns women who do. I don’t pretend to be someone I am not and I embrace my femininity but sometime i have doubts too

Selection bias........

When you act in a way that embraces delusion and lies over reality; when you willfully embrace what you want instead of what is, the cognitive dissonance will drive you insane over time. You can reconcile that dissonance by changing yourself, or by deflecting, or by attacking the truth.

Sadly, most people attack or deflect. Here at RPW, we try to embrace the truth and work with it, even when it is often uncomfortable and unpopular. On the flip side, being at peace with nature and reality, it is very relaxing to explore here. There are no delusions; no land mines where you have to worry what persons' imbecility you may trip over. (Trigger warnings. Pronouns. Etc.)

There is only what is feminine, what men want, and how to make a healthy LTR. It isn't complicated, and it DOES work. That's why they hate us. The mentally self-destructive often hate the peaceful sane.

Yep i really don’t understand why they see it as wrong? I have looked thru r/redpill and i have not seen nothing wrong there either.

Feminists are angry, bitter, and often ugly for a reason.

Rejecting truth, biology and reality unmoor you from what is good and necessary for living.

It might sound wrong to many but RPW are actually the happiest women I find around me unless someone brainwashes them to go against their natural desire of having a family. What could go wrong with a comfortable life where you are loved by your partner and your children, you don't have to do the heavy lifting unless of course when it is needed, also you have ample of time for your hobbies and don't have to deal with the brutal world out there.

Absolutely... now, where can I find a Red Pill Man?

So true. I have been so much happier in my marriage since I surrounded myself with other traditional women who honour their husband's. So many women groups are full of wives talking badly about their husband's and eventually it just feels normal to not respect your husband anymore.

This sub is explicitly not for complaining and it is for taking personal responsibility. Unhappy women are not welcome to mope around and blame others for their problems here.

What a relevant and insight comment you make about how valuable this sub is! So good to hear the positive comments about men, in light of all the negativity out there. When we place responsibility with ourselves to have great relationships and a great life, we find the key to real fulfillment on big picture level. Thanks for all the wonderful comments here!

I agree ,I definitely see a more well rounded perspective on this sub than others. Generally even when people complain is it less biased and they admit their part of the problem. On the other relationship subs it seems to be so one sided. It is always he is so mean to me,while not mentioning that they cause 50% of the problems and aren't interested in improving themselves. Then of course everyone says leave him because what else can you say , which is followed by but I love him and will never leave. It just goes on and on like this.

Almost never is something entirely one sided unless there is some sort of hallucinations or mental illness, it takes two people. With the exception of abuse (no matter how you act abuse is never ok) ,the only person you can change is yourself. I think red pill people are more open to the idea that there is more involved in a relationship than the message of men= bad women = victim. In the other subs if you suggest that maybe they could steps to improve themselves or offer graciousness to their husband's even if it is undeserved,you are torn apart and down voted for victim blaming.

There is this idea that men are wrong for having preferences about how they like women to look. That having expectations for how things are done at home while they are working to afford the home is somehow toxic. Yet women are allowed to have very strict standards of how men should look and they have no issues telling men how and when to do their jobs.

I love my husband so much ,he is such an amazing friend after almost 30 years (we were married young). He isn't perfect and makes mistakes and I do too. That is why we are such a good team , we are both really good at giving the other person lots of opportunities to forgive!

For me red pill has made me feel empowered, when things go wrong I can step back and evaluate the situation to see how I can make a positive change and move forward.

You also have to take into account that the rules here about posting and commenting are very strict. It's not a space where you can really speak your mind freely, or even truly doubt and discuss red pill tenets. So some of these women seeming generally happier might be actually faking it, with all due respect. Just as there are women faking being happy on other relationship forums.

I personally have done the biggest mistake in my life by following red pill concepts. I ended up being manipulated and traumatized by a narcissist just because I fell in love and decided to surrender to him, as red pill women says. I highly doubt the mods will even let this comment exist here since it threatens the order or who knows what.

Here’s a point worth mentioning. Red pill women do more of what men want than other women. And if a relationship is what will make you happy, then it becomes easier to obtain the more you cater to the people you want to be with.

I agree, but I can't help but notice that rp women are kind of different from at least a group of rp men.

Some rp men only focus on having sex with as many women as they can, which I think is wrong for both men and women. One of the reasons people are so unhappy is that they are damaging their ideas and feelings towards their body and intimacy, which is important for making stable and happy relationships.

I often see a lot of posts there written by women in situations where they are being disrespected by their partner, or where boundaries are vague in their relationships. One misconception about the redpill philosophy is that women here are subservient or doormats. I follow this sub because I carry myself in a way that demands respect, but also have humility toward my partner and I think that attitude could rub off on some of the relationship-related subreddits. A lot of women there are looking for someone else to answer their questions regarding how to be treated or when to call it quits, and I don’t think they are being fair to themselves.

I first noticed that the other subs about women's issues and relationships are heavily negative places who focus on complaining and entitlement. This is the only sub that is solution oriented and it is such a breath of fresh air! And I am an atheist/agnostic who has been raised by a progressive family!

I'm a million times happier in my marriage after finding this sub. And so is he.

Eg I used to nag so much which made both of us miserable!

People with happy marriages don’t, in mass, go out of their way to post on relationship subreddits.

People who make happy lifestyle choices go out of their way to promote their lifestyle choices, especially if it’s a controversial choice to mainstream.

Red pill seems to work for many and it seems lots of folks here are happy...but I think the Reddit thing itself is a bit of a selection bias.

The first 4 years of my relationship my husband and I were very liberal/progressive and we fought consistently. Once we started rejecting all the things that ideology told us and falling into our natural roles we started getting along much better. We never fight anymore and could not be happier! I don’t think it is a coincidence.

I've noticed that most people posting in RPW are women who want to be in the same team with their male partner, writing about their challenges as something to improve, fix and find a solution in order to continue with a better and improved relationship.

We write in a way that does not discredit the hard work and good values of our partners, but r/relationships is flooded with hurt people who seek validation, want to feel good about being victims of miscommunication or toxicity. They often pit themselves against their partner and the comments naturally turn into 'team Girlfriend' vs 'team Boyfriend'. That, in its essence, is the reason they have problems in the relationship to begin with. It is not a teamwork.

I feel like this sub helps me be better. I see other posts and comments and it highlights things for me and how my approach is wrong.

For example, I am extremely spoiled by my family in that I never had to lift a finger or do anything. I am so entitled that it’s actually appalling. My SO bends over backwards to accommodate me and I only see the shortcomings. So many Me issues I need to fix before I start looking at the He issues.

He’s not perfect but you know what? The better I am, the better he is.

I feel other subs want perfect men and refuse to acknowledge that we (women) are flawed. It’s super egotistical because it’s like “why should you have to take these steps if he isn’t taking them first?”

I love the man why shouldn’t I take the first step, especially knowing that he follows me as I do? Taking these steps benefits me and the health of my relationship. Yes, he benefits too when I do some extra hard graft, but why not? I love him. I want him to be happy. Plus, I become a better version of myself either way.

I love the inward focus here.

PS I’m atheist / agnostic and my social values are quite liberal in relation to most things, including sexual liberation,