I'm 25 and I've been in a relationship with lets call her Liz for 2 and half years now. I known her for a while before that and we started going out in my last year of college.

She was dropping hint before our 2 year anniversary about wanting to get hitched, so I proposed 3 months back. Have the date set in February.

Last week she suggest out of the blue we "open" up our relationship. I wanted to go wtf?! But I kept a poker face as she described this thing with a lot of benefits to me. I told her I'd think about it. She made it like it'll be my dream come true, thing is, work is my life right now. It's not like I'm watching porn night in night out or suggesting this is my fantasy in any way. I'm 12 hours minimum a day just working and too tired to even think about girls in the plural.

I didn't really reply to her, just a think about it, and a few days ago she's talking about how we could have a 3 some with some friend of hers I never even considered pretty. She mentioned some remark I made long time back that her friend was "cute" but I don't think I was serious at the time, it was nothing more than offhand.

She's assume once we had our little get together and played out my so called fantasy, that I can play out one of hers. She didn't mention what and this is fucking with my head so bad.

The thing is she wont tell me what it is, and I have a feeling if I confront her she'll bury it, and I don't want her to surprise me after we're married and everything. I can't even sleep anymore the past few days, it's fucking my mind what she wants.

I mean, she wants to tie the know 6 months back and now she wants to open things up? This is fucking stupid!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!