There is a mutual friend who introduced us and i got her number from her.
Before the date this girl wants to invite our mutual friend and cites that she hasn;'t seen her in a while and some other bs for a reason.
So Instead of saying "No i want it to be just us" and giving her all the power, I did the takeaway and said "its cool you guys hang out, i have some other friends i wouldn't mind seeing who are in town, theres always next week"
aka i'm calling her bluff, the takeaway and can try again next week or see what happens, etc etc, thoughts?
she ended up replying saying "okie dokie, you better invite me to your party next week" or some shit, but ill ignore that and just try for another date in like 5 days
Shaman6624 6y ago
Wow I'm bad at this. How does "no I want it to be just us" gives her all the power?
DadOnDabs 6y ago
Good call.
fixzzz123 6y ago
I was in the exact same situation a while ago: http://imgur.com/7IzQCN4
Obviously it is very situation dependent, but I already was taking the piss with her that she always hangs out with her friend Jaimee.
Personally, I think your reaction is a bit butt hurt, but that might be just me. You made it sound as you were not seeing your friends because you wanted to see her. Friends over hoes always.
edit: just to clarify, date finished with a lay ;)
[deleted] 6y ago
I understand. I like your approach, might try that one next time to show her how silly she is being. I've never received so much praise from a red pill post about how I did so I don't think I was butt-hurt!
Also just for some insight, this girl is a virgin and her friend said she's never even been with a guy before so I think that's why she's scared
mdcrubengonza 6y ago
How about just say "no?"
mcr00sterdota 6y ago
Good response. Could of answered with a "threesome?" just to troll.
could-of-bot 6y ago
It's either could HAVE or could'VE, but never could OF.
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Olipyr 6y ago
Or have her come along, make them pay separately, have fun with them both, and flirt with her friend just a little bit more than her. If the friend is hotter, make out with her. If the date is hotter, have her sit next to you and make her give you a kiss. Judge the situation accordingly.
Shows you're not intimidated about entertaining two women at a time. Gives you social proof with her friend and you'll definitely be talked about. It will be good talk unless you're an autistic faggot who talks about hentai and your WoW character or whatever.
SkorchZang 6y ago
Textbook handling of a cute textbook shit-test.
Next time you can even be the charmer gruff and tease her about how she can't live without her friend, cuz they're attached at the hip and all siamese together. It sends a jolt of irreverent rule-breaker energy into it, makes the girl laugh at her own schemes and enjoy you all the more.
Savour completely ignoring her for about a week till its time to ask her out again, she'll be roasting in doubts and confusion: "I had him pegged as compliant and beta, but then what is this? What guy does this?". You'll probably have curious texts from her over the week.
BlackMisc 6y ago
pretty good solution. having a friend their will just ruin any sexual tension there is.
_the_shape_ 6y ago
Very good move.
Communicates that you're not desperate and that you don't need to take a deal you don't like and that doesn't suit your tastes.
Two possible outcomes: she "gets it" and accepts to a date involving you two exclusively, or she hamsters her way out of it and bails by telling you something stupid like "oh, I thought you just weren't interested", maybe even ghosts altogether.
The important takeaway is that you played it well. Focus on that. You have standards, and won't twist and contort them because women are "sacred".
[deleted] 6y ago
I like that answer. Soft ghost.
nomorebsever 6y ago
I think you got your message across. If she's interested, then she will come back around. If not, then she was just letting you know that "she's not into you" - why else ask to bring your cockblock friend?
Now be sure to move on and focus on other women - abundance, abundance, abundance.
beginner_ 6y ago
Yeah. OP did very well. Next point is, he should not get back to her at all. She cancelled the date so it's up to her to suggest an alternative day.
[deleted] 6y ago
Good response imo
chachaChad 6y ago
I think that works just fine. Doesn't sound needy at all. You're not bothered by slight changed in schedule and are a busy guy with plenty of other options besides her.
Of course, you could have just cock blocked yourself on a threesome but that's probably not what was going to happen. Probably...
HappyMexican 6y ago
Yeah this being the early stages, and you have no interest in her outside of dating her, then OP did fine.
If she does something weird like that when he asks her out again a 2nd time, then OP should just move on. Younger girls are queens of indirect ways to decline a date.
No point in getting your panties in a knot or wasting time doing something you really don't want to do if this girl doesn't want to be 1 on 1 with you.
RedKekistani 6y ago
This is when the Fear Of Missing Out kicks in, the poor lad
BusterVadge 6y ago
OP definitely did not cock block himself. The girl would have made an effort to get him out on that date if she were interested.
OP did the right thing and didn't go out of his way to accomodate her lukewarm interest.
chachaChad 6y ago
Absolutely agree that what OP did was the correct response.
My comment about the threesome was meant to be a joke. I should have put a smiley face or perhaps left out the comment. OP wasn't looking for humor. Please pardon my frivolously.
Peter_B_Long 6y ago
Pretty solid response. Can't think of anything better.
[deleted] 6y ago
should've replied: "threeway?"
Docbear64 6y ago
Well played and the correct answer is exactly what you did , to imply " no it is not ok to bring a third person on our date" without sounding insulted/ butt hurt.
Colt42O 6y ago
Good call, she knows what she is doing by bringing her friend. She might have been anxious about meeting up with you or whatever and wanted to bring her friend along for selfish reasons, and you handled it great. I would put money on the fact that they didn't even hang out that night, she was just using her as a scapegoat
Luis_McLovin 6y ago
Genius.
alphabachelor 6y ago
Like others have said, you played this well. I've had this happen before and my reply has always been:
"I want to see you, not your friend. We'll reschedule for next week."
Junted 6y ago
I had a girl that i invited over surprisingly ask to bring her friend. I hesitated to accept just like you, but said fuck it, bring her over. Ended up ignoring te one i invited and fucking her friend, that night, while my roommate took the original girl outside to smoke.
Was just confirmed by another girl that i was making out with that that chick is crushing on me.
Thing is though, i was in my house so that made things really convenient logistically. Your case not as much.
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Docbear64 6y ago
If you're having a party I would definitely invite her over but that's a judgement call . If you feel better waiting until after to hangout feel free , her suggestion to come to your party was a way to show that she's still interested .
BestSC86 6y ago
She wasn't really interested....doesn't like something or feel comfortable about something you have presented to this point?
At this time she is still deciding or is on the downhill side of 50% attracted...I guess you could use the party to see if you could flip that meter but it looks to be sliding down the hill for some reason....
quicklogaccount 6y ago
It struck as butt hurt to me man. I guess I'd just take some other guys.
PM_Your_8008s 6y ago
Maybe OP isn't butt hurt but someone clearly is if they're down voting you this hard for just saying that shit lol
quicklogaccount 6y ago
I guess I failed adding a trigger warning or something.
UteLawyer 6y ago
He's being downvoted because he is giving terrible advice. Apparently—according to quicklogaccount—the only way to avoid sounding butt hurt is to be completely compliant.
A man should have standards and he shouldn't waste his evening doing something he doesn't want to do.