I know it is stupid and that women play with and friendzone men all the time, but I still can't get over the feeling that I am doing something wrong when I interact and flirt with women with the intention of only having sex with them or a fuck buddy type of a deal, nothing serious. I don't want to have anything serious with anyone for a long time
I know i dont owe anyone anything but I still feel bad dashing a girls expectations for no reason. How do you deal with this problem?
A bit of a background on me, I am a 20 year old who has had an oneitis for 3 years, the girl outright rejected a relationship with me and I've been doing a monk mode type of thing, improving myself. Now i am looking for banging 10 others chicks for recovery, as it is recommended ( and also because my notch count is way below that)
RedKnightTime 4y ago
That's not stringing them along.
If she brings up her expectations, then I make it clear that I'm not into it for a relationship. If she doesn't bring up her expectations, then I'm not a mind reader.
You're kind of assuming that women don't like sex, and that's weird and creepy.
shadofenrir 4y ago
Well, I kinda worded it strangely, but ofc course I know women also like sex (they have such an ease having it that it isnt anything special to them) and I know for a fact that they take way way longer than men to develop any romantic feelings of importance.
My problem is, I hated being strung along by my oneitis, who would give me many ioi but would back off the moment I escaleted. I know awalt but I would hate to something like that to someone
Still, thank you for answering, it made sense to me. But I have one question for you: How do you really define stringing women alone?
RedKnightTime 4y ago
You don't. It's not a thing. It's a conspiracy theory made up by women who are mad that they can't get the guy they want.
shadofenrir 4y ago
ahaha, ok, thanks man
FereallyRed 4y ago
Women like sex too.
It's arrogant and sexist of you to assume to know what's best for all those poor women out there.
Plus, trp is about doing what you want to do. Dump the white armor.
shadofenrir 4y ago
I must admit that in my core there still is a white knight...
Blackhawk2479 4y ago
I’d stay in monk mode for now then. You’ve obviously not been burned enough to see how women really operate, and why they don’t need your protection or honesty.
shadofenrir 4y ago
thanks mate!
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stripethrowaway 4y ago
It isn't your responsibility to not string a woman along. It's her responsibility to not get strung along.
Women want to be equals with men in every way possible these days, in many ways they wanted to be superior, so give them what they want, and don't give in when they cry about how unfair the world is.
Let go of the idea that women are fragile creatures. It's hard but you've calibrated your protective instincts wrong and the way you're thinking is putting her on a pedestal.
shadofenrir 4y ago
Thanks man!
stripethrowaway 4y ago
NP. Caring about a woman's expectations = outcome reliance. Who is leading who here?