Met this girl online. Slid into her DM. She was pretty active replying back. We chatted during 1 week, a little back and forth. She initiated conversations a lot of times herself. Meaning started them.
Date: We went out in the evening, i just wanted to see how well she looks in real life. She's fine. Date went fine. We made out in the car after. I wanted to invite her over, but had family visiting, so there was no chance.
She said she had great time. Texted me first when she got home and all.
HERE is where it gets weird.
On the next or a second day, i followed up on a date idea that we thought of on a first date. She said yes, but that she is pretty busy right now. And not sure when she will make it. I said fine. Silence since then.
So i thought she is either not interested in me, or just wants to show that "she aint that easy to get" as it looks. I said, fine let me know when you'll be able to do it.
Couple days passes. My Tinder notification pops up. Someone SUPER LIKED you. I'm checking - and guess who that is? Yes its her. We chatted, back and forth a little, brought up the date idea, she said she is still too busy and not sure when.
I said fine. Again no contact.
I wake up today, to a message on TINDER(!) from her, which was sent today 4am in the morning, "hey cutie".
I replied "hey there" with an emoji. No reply since.
(This all has been going over for almost a 3 or 4 weeks already)
WHAT THE FUCK IS GOING ON?
CopperFox3c 5y ago
Classic attention whore stuff. Plenty of resources about it if you use the search bar.
You are doing things right. As Pook said: Men dominate the world of action, women the world of words. Focus on making her act on her "supposed" interest, otherwise, you show her none. Don't fall into her wordgames.
DeGENZerate 5y ago
If women dominate the world of words then how come there are no good female philosophers?
Project_Zero_Betas 5y ago
Nussbaum?
FREECRACK6 5y ago
Shouldve fucked her in the car the first day, thats where you fucked up
thrwy75479 5y ago
Yea, she was probably really into him, and wanted to get it on. He couldn't but she felt rebuffed, and now she's toying with him.
Women do not take rejection lightly, especially if it's sexual rejection.
Whatever you do OP, do not apologize, or start being needy. Take the L, move on.
stripethrowaway 5y ago
Congratulations. You just stepped into her frame.
BittahMaddman 5y ago
How exactly?
unorthodoxcowboy 5y ago
She was/is seeking validation and you gave it to her :)
stripethrowaway 5y ago
See what she's doing to you?
You're supposed to be the one doing that to her.
SubstantialBeanBoi 5y ago
she's just an attention whore and she's auditioning you to be an orbiter. should've tried to smash in the car.
SATHelpPlz 5y ago
congratz u r now her beta orbiter! The girl is 1000% an attention whore. Ghost her now.
wobbleelbbow 5y ago
Lack of options that's what going on
BittahMaddman 5y ago
Wow, great job, Sherlock. What about "Start Lifting" advice?
wobbleelbbow 5y ago
Also this.
BigDickEnergy123 5y ago
She was seeing if she could still get you.
She was right.
So, she lost attraction.
There ya go, bud. Unmatch her. Don't reply to her. She'll either leave your life or basically beg to hang out.
Either that, or she's a tease/attention whore which is insanely common.
htbf 5y ago
You seem surprised that your "hey there" wasn't a winner.
truthbomb999 5y ago
You just need to put sex on he table and if she says anything other than an unqualified yes, ghost
bigboxguy 5y ago
You aren't attractive enough for her
HurricaneHugues 5y ago
Dude do u still have family over? If not, stop trying to invite the chick to dates. You're making shit weird and too formal. She texts u at 4am to see if u were up and wanted to fuck. Just invite her over to your house and you'll see how her schedule magically frees up.
BittahMaddman 5y ago
dude yes, but i was sleeping. I saw her text in the morning. What was i supposed to reply?
HurricaneHugues 5y ago
I know you were sleeping. I'm saying the bird is ready to land. Clear the LZ. Invite her to your place, stop wasting time trying to go out.
BittahMaddman 5y ago
What is LZ ?
I am not. My next step is to invite her over for a cooking "session".
She actually texted me back - just an emoji.
I'm not sure is she a real attention whore or just wants to let me know she is free now.
HurricaneHugues 5y ago
Just invite her over for drinks n a movie dude. Don't overcomplicate shit.
BittahMaddman 5y ago
Man i think you didn't read the post. I DID that. And she said she is busy, both times. The SECOND date idea was an activity at my place
northernCAgrown 4y ago
Stop replying for awhile and see what she does.
You'll have your answer. In my experience a chick who wants to get up on your dick will MAKE time to do so.