Hello Gentleman,
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When LTR is being disrespectful the advice is to withdraw attention. Does it mean sex as well?
My LTR acts like a cunt every day although this has lessened since I started lifting, I typically just ignore her or have minimum possible amount of interaction. Now, despite that she keeps initiating sex, but sex for her is laying like a starfish and asking me to "service her". When I told her that this kind of sex is boring and tell her to change position she says she is good and is too tired to move or when I told her to do a blow job she kept asking if I am gay and only gay people do that. I also never seen her touching herself. When I put her hand on her vagina once, she took it away and said she is no a lesbian and that is disgusting.
She also doesn't even go to take a shower. So she just lies on the bed and begs to be fucked, but I tell her I am busy reading (and I read TRP stuff). So it's been like that for few months.
As I read more I see contradictory messages regarding disrespect.
Does it mean I should withdraw attention but still fuck her regardless?
Is it normal that it feels gross to me or should I "man up"?
If I withdraw attention, does it make me look butt-hurt? I typically just laugh it off or tell her to not talk to me like that.
Not sure how to set a boundary? If I go to my office to lift won't that make me look hurt?
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Thank you!
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IV-IVm-I 5y ago
why are you still with her?
forsaken_in_the_dark 5y ago
I responded to another comment.
SATHelpPlz 5y ago
u should break the fuck up with her. Why are u even putting up with her?
effyouasshole 5y ago
When your girlfriend stops bringing value to your life, that's when you end the relationship.
forsaken_in_the_dark 5y ago
This is very true and I will remember that.
Aptote 5y ago
break up with her
Glowv2 5y ago
Another autistic post. You cant be serious
forsaken_in_the_dark 5y ago
To be honest I consider myself being on the spectrum.
FereallyRed 5y ago
You're tolerating a shitty life because you're afraid of what life might be like without her.
That's beyond pathetic.
Sell the fucking house and get the fuck away from this monstrously negative influence.
Otherwise you deserve each other.
Fuck. It's up to you to control the direction of your own life.
Grab the wheel, pussy.
forsaken_in_the_dark 5y ago
Thank you. It is not easy but I am pulling myself together to get through it. I have decided that I will not go until I find my mission and have a plan for what I am going to do on my own. Now I have found my mission and almost everything I need to go.
civilizedfrog 5y ago
Buddy, talking and complaining about sex is not gonna turn her on and make her your personal slut. You need to take the initiative and just make her change position naturally while having sex. Don't ask her, just do it. She will follow your lead.
She is right when she says only that only faggots ask.
Startlivingfornow 5y ago
It trickles down from you.
Head over to the Ask MRP sub, a lot of info there could help you out
friendandadvisor 5y ago
This isn't disrespect, it is dysfunction.
Do you think that this will get better with time? Because it won't. Your changes will not change her.
Dump her.
forsaken_in_the_dark 5y ago
Someone wrote here that being in LTR whilst absorbing all this knowledge is like a golden ticket.
senna8585 5y ago
The single most powerfull thing a man can do to a women is just walk away actions speak louder than words
forsaken_in_the_dark 5y ago
I made a huge mistake buying a house with her, so one of the reasons I have not left is that it could be really ugly and I am not sure I am ready. I left once a couple of years ago (without knowing about TRP) and ended up in hospital failing at suicide. I am no longer that person though, so kind of I actually succeeded. I also don't want to do things based on emotions. I don't interact with her much so life is "alright", but if it is going to be tougher I'll definitely leave. Of course I had questioning like why did you change diet without asking me or why do you buy this and that. I just say to improve myself and don't engage in her efforts to make a fight. I think it is a good practice for me being almost whole life beta.
TheRedPillRipper 5y ago
u/forsaken_in_the_dark this must be a difficult situation to be in. It sucks. There are some positives though: She's initiating sex. Neither of you have left. Yet. There are reasons for this. What are they? Figure why you want to remain in this relationship. Why not. Then make a decision and act upon it.
The disrespect, the terrible sex(Don't have bad sex. You do yourself a disservice.) and poor hygiene are all red flags. Personally I don't tolerate any those things. Even now if my current slips in her attitude I enjoy icing her out for a week or more and being stone cold towards her. You don't have to enjoy it but she does need to know there are consequences to her actions(and lack there of). The sooner you make that clear to her the better you'll be.
Establish what you're willing to accept/not accept. e.g. cheating.
Work out what your actions will be when/if you're faced with that particular scenario. e.g. break up/leave/GTFO.
Boundaries are simply what you're willing to accept and what you are not. If someone tried to attack you physically with a knife would you fight back? What if someone tried to attacked you emotionally? With disrespect? Would you accept that and if not; how would you respond?
At the end of the day either you'll work this out or you'll continue to face it. The fun starts to happen when you start to take action.
Godspeed and good luck!
forsaken_in_the_dark 5y ago
Thank you for your wise words. I'll internalize it.