Created a tinder account today, got very popular and got a lot of matches. I had the following conversation with a girlHere
After I got her number, I sent her a message on whatsapp with my address and the time when she could come. She didn't come. I waited 20 minutes and texted her asking her if she's having a problem finding my place. She says she changed her mind and blocked me on whatsapp. Then I replied on tinder with the text after the number.
First of all, I wanted to make sure she is a female and not some kind of stalker or guy trying to prank people. This was my first time receiving a message like this and wasn't sure if it's a real girl. Now I am pretty sure she is legit.
Probably I would have met her if I agreed to go to a bar. What do you guys think? Could I have said something better? I want to be better at tinder game with girls who are DTF.
In my tinder description basically I state that I am looking to fuck girls only if they earn it.
MilhouseShortPants 5y ago
Let’s assume this was a real girl actually looking to do this for a second... you completely cocked this up for yourself. Why not meet this stranger for one drink in a public place to make sure she’s not completely insane/hideous before bringing her in to your home? Also I get the whole “commanding alpha no-bullshit” demeanour you were trying to convey here, but damn man, you can be a little nicer and still get what you want. I’ve had situations like this with girls online and they have worked out well, just maybe play it a bit cooler next time, rather than being so demanding.
MilhouseShortPants 5y ago
Also like somebody else said, you gain absolutely nothing by going negative with her and “calling her out”. All that does is make you look like a whiney bitch, regardless of whether she deserves to be called out or not.
RedSkeller 5y ago
Uhhhh sounds like some sort of scam or someone fucking with you. I've never had some chick off tinder come straight over, and the ones that did, well I learned quick to meet them out first because they showed up haggard. Second, yes meet them in public. It's easier for them to feel comfortable and agree to meet up and they feel less like whores when you take them back 30 minutes later to your place to fuck. Also, never double message. If you're left hanging in a tinder convo you can try to jumpstart it with a low effort line but if it's in the middle or end of setting up logistics - she's not interested = next.
drakehfh 5y ago
I think this is legit because her university in her bio was from another country and the number prefix was from the same country. This is not enough sure but scammers usually wouldn't mess with sending numbers since that would likely backfire.
Yes, from now on I will not ask them to come to my home but meet for a drink first.
drakehfh 5y ago
Also I didn't double message. They were messages sent one after the other with a second in between. Usually this is how I text. The conversation was live.
Project_Zero_Betas 5y ago
You were being trolled. How do you not realize this?
drakehfh 5y ago
Probably. Since I have moved in this country a couple of months ago and I have seen some slutty behavior, I was not sure if it's real or not. Maybe it's common sense here, but the fact that she sent the number kind of made it more real for me.
That's why I asked to meet her at my place only. Also my question is if I could have done something else better so in the future, I can have a better tinder game.
I learned that it's best to have a drink in a bar first and then fuck them at my place.
Project_Zero_Betas 5y ago
It's best to have self-awareness and not fall for trolls.
gregoire_ 5y ago
You shouldn’t tell people you never met to come straight to your house. Dangerous for everybody and you never know if you like who shows up.
Calling her out on flaking won’t make her want to come. It just makes you look hurt and weak. Not doing you any favors
Block the girl (?), read up on frame.
That said, a girl who gets straight to talking about business on tinder without testing you is a MASSIVE red flag.
drakehfh 5y ago
1 is solid advice.
2 also is solid advice. Maybe it was just a rant. I knew I was not going to fuck her anyway.
Can you explain more about 3? Can't seem to understand it.
I think I held frame.
gregoire_ 5y ago
3 is about not letting it go. Calling her out about lying.
You got upset about it so I’d say you didn’t. You showed that you let her have a negative influence on your day
drakehfh 5y ago
Understood. Should have just unmatched and that's all.
RedLegendx 5y ago
I would have stopped replying after he/she/it asked for a dick pic.
Thunderfin 5y ago
Lol wtf, prob a bot. Kudos to you tho, if this was legit a girl that's longer than any convo I've ever had with my matches
drakehfh 5y ago
I have had some awesome conversations on tinder and I was slaying it with passing shit tests but this was kind of special because never had a girl come open like that.
Wert44 5y ago
Even if she wasnt a bot. Shes still a tinder whore of the lowest comment denominator. Dont take her seriously
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entrep4 5y ago
Sounds like a gay guy just wanted to get some nudes
Project_Zero_Betas 5y ago
LMFAO She (He?) was trolling you guy JFC.
drakehfh 5y ago
It could be. I don't explicitly say "fuck" in my bio but more or less that's what I mean. Still, my question is not if she's real or not. My question is did I do something wrong and if yes, how should I have done it?
Project_Zero_Betas 5y ago
You can't fix stupid. It was a fucking troll SMDH