So I used to be motivated and driven and shit. Now, I just lay in my bed all day and do literally nothing - been like this for years. Just now, I walked 10 minutes to a convenience store in the middle of the night and bought a bottle of wine even though it was prohibited to buy liquor at this hour. I somehow was able to buy the liquor at the store using my looks and charms. But I think this is going downhills. I don’t want to be a “charming guy” anymore. I want to be a guy who is responsible and a guy who is disciplined. How can I compose myself? I have been using my looks to get away with lots of stuff but I want to stop relying on my looks. I want to be like other people. I want to be disciplined.
I have contacted some psychiatrists to get some pills. I used to be always against the pills and I know pills aren’t the solution so I will use them only for a short period of time and start incorporating alternative cures.
I want to be working hard and be great based on my productivity- not on my looks. Thank you very much for even reading my shitty text... Thank you..
RedKnightTime 5y ago
Surely it had nothing to do with stores doing this all the time anyway.
Most other people aren't disciplined. You aren't asking to be normal. You're asking to be a monster.
BGisTheOne 5y ago
Elaborate please.
What do you mean? Why a monster?
RedKnightTime 5y ago
Just giving you shit to see if you would bite.
Because being disciplined is not a natural human trait.
Project_Zero_Betas 5y ago
TIL!
EvolvedVirus 5y ago
I'm not so sure about this, being disciplined is what separates us from animals. Animals have discipline sometimes too due to lessons they learned the hard way. Humans seem to be better at learning lessons the easy way.
But either way, this thread has gone off the rails into trivial philosophy. It's just a really funny and bizarre thread.
BGisTheOne 5y ago
Nice.
Justify this claim of yours, u/RedKnightTime
RedKnightTime 5y ago
Nah. It's plainly fucking obvious to anyone with fucking eyes. If you can't see that, then there's nothing myself or anyone else could ever do to help you.
BGisTheOne 5y ago
Nice, strawman.
https://yourlogicalfallacyis.com/strawman
RedKnightTime 5y ago
I'm not going to play Internet debate footsies with you. You're the one unhappy with your life. If you want to change it, then change it. If not, no skin off my ass. There's a whole fucking sidebar right there waiting for you. Good luck.
Project_Zero_Betas 5y ago
Just described nearly all of reddit.
NabroleonBonaparte 5y ago
I was in your situation a few years ago..
I was that charming asshole that would enter your group, win them over, then smile at you once they all start talking about how cool I am.
First, good on the psychiatrist. I waited way too late to visit one and could’ve saved time had I went sooner. He’ll help you unpack any baggage that your family might’ve given you.
The key to discipline is goals. Start small so you don’t burnout.
For 30 days make sure your gym routine, your diet, your finances (budgeting/savings), and your grooming are flawless. If you can do this perfectly then move to aiming for 3 months.
That will be your personal foundation to build your life on.
The next is find your mission. This is hard because you can’t just pick your mission. You have to find the thing that you love more than anything else. The thing that you’d do for free if you didn’t have to worry about food and shelter. You also have to be good at it.
You’ll know you’ve found your mission when you wouldn’t mind living a shorter life if it meant you got to do that thing all the time.
boy_named_su 5y ago
What is your intake of Omega-3, Vitamin D, alcohol, marijuana?
EvolvedVirus 5y ago
Your lack of appreciation for the gift you've been handed is frustrating everyone here. Reminds us of all the hot girls who do nothing with their meaningless lives. Hot white girls could easily do so many incredible things if they just had any brains (and some do, they get involved in things I've seen it; while other hot girls are just partying and drinking themselves to death). Saw that same pattern watching "The Dirt" (Motley Crue documovie on netflix) but at least they made great music.
Appreciate what you have. Create a mission to do something great for the people around you, for your country, for liberty, for humanity, for intellectual pursuits---find a cause for yourself. Even if it's just helping that one friend you have that isn't as lucky as you, try helping getting him laid or how to be charming..
Do you have a job? Pursue your career and try to help others there. Have a meaningless empty job? Try to find a more fulfilling one.
Be something greater to humanity. How would you leave your mark that people, even strangers, remember you for a positive reason?
If none of that helps, if none of that solves it for you... Join the military.
GlobalArachnid 5y ago
As long as you're in the top 20%, life's gonna be good. Only one person can be the best in the world, and you do not want to be that person. Ever heard of tall poppy syndrome? Google it.
If you're in the top 20%, you can bullshit to girls about how you're the best in the world and even though your "best in the world" moment will be brief, you won't suffer any of the drawbacks of actually being the best in the world.
ChadTheWaiter100 5y ago
Just imagine someone who is dying of cancer, someone who is blind, deaf, has an arm amputated, leg amputate or even just ugly. And here your bum ass is online whining and bragging that you can buy alcohol after hours. What do you even want to accomplish with your life?
isthisalreadyused 5y ago
Before you go the pharmaceutical route, try herbals first. They are more effective than you may think. I was on an SSRI for 17 years, tried many different herbal supps to help quit but nothing worked well enough until I found Tribulus Terrestris. Absolute game changer. Motivation, focus, sociability, confidence, etc. You have to megadose though, I take 7-8 grams a day. Only side effect is insomnia, but melatonin works okay for that, an even with the shitty sleep it just doesn't seem to effect me the next day.
Bulk Supplements has it cheap and works well. Also the Allmax pills at your local supplement shop is really good to, but more expensive.
It's worth a shot bro
OracleofFl 5y ago
That herbal shit did Steve Jobs a world of good. The OP has a condition that needs medical treatment. Self medication may prolong his suffering unnecessarily.
isthisalreadyused 5y ago
Your logic is way off. First of all, Jobs had cancer and should have got proper medical attention. Secondly, herbal shit can mean a lot of things, I don't recall reading Jobs taking what I recommended.
What you said is like saying "Heath Ledger died of a drug overdose, so how could you risk drinking a coffee? It contains caffeine, which is a drug" See how stupid that sounds?