I'm 27, she's 24. Been seeing this girl every other weekend this past month or so. It's mostly just hanging out and making out, but no f-closes. However last night happened like this:
Around 8:30ish I get a "Wyd?" text from her. I say "Hanging out with friends. You?"
"Same!" she responds.
"Cool. Wanna come over later"
Then she drops "Wanna fuck later?" At this point, I'm surprised. I don't remember the last time I've had a bitch be so forward with me without a prior f-close in the bag.
Here's where I think I may have fucked up my frame. I said, " Yeah. I'll let you know when to come by". She responds with "Cool".
Couple of hours go by, people at the party I'm at start dispersing and I decide to head out. I get home and hit her up with "You can come over".
"Now?"
"Mhmm"
"What"
"You can come over now"
"Yeah? Yeah"
"Yeah"
"Okay"
"Let me know when you get here"
Then silence. No show, or a reply back.
I worked on some music then went to bed.
So, fellas, where was the fuck up? Was it a shit test and did I jump too quickly at her words? Or this on her?
I already know to go no contact, but I know this girl most likely will text me sometime again soon (we have bit of a history), and when she does, what ought I say, if anything?
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atticusfinch1973 5y ago
Always strike when the iron is hot. Shouldn't have delayed it, it gave her a chance to hook up with someone else.
KaiSmashSmashSawmash 5y ago
This or she didn’t value you that you gave it up so easily. Should of been like “we’ll see, come by @...”
jy432 5y ago
Atticus, serious Q .I get strike when the iron is hot but dropping everything youre doing to fuck some thot ...?
I do agree with you as she probably wound up sending texts out to other guys & wound up fucking one of them
atticusfinch1973 5y ago
The guy hadn't fucked her yet and she offered it up on a platter. I'd jump on it.
jy432 5y ago
Makes sense... ya. Secure it.
0io- 5y ago
Opportunity may not knock twice. Get it while it's hot.
jon94 5y ago
Fuck that, if I’m having a good time, I’m not bailing on my friends for a plate.
“Please, may I have a crumb of sex?”
Garathon 5y ago
Yeah, why should you pull out from fucking your boys up their ass for a girl?
TurboEdition 5y ago
True.
Sexandswishers 5y ago
This made me lol...
I’m either tired, or really high cuz I had to word out laugh out loud to be able to spell lol
Pluglord 5y ago
Not all guys here are macho Chads who have bitches in line ready to drain their balls at a moments notice. Some dudes here are trying to develop plates/fwbs or just need to get one off. Hilarious how everyone in this subs a rockstar pussy slayer nowadays.
jon94 5y ago
If that’s how you feel, that because you’re not getting any you have to be at some girl’s beck and call, then you’ve completely missed the point of this sub.
Ballosaurus 5y ago
I’m with you. Pussy is plentiful. Quit acting like you’re starving
jon94 5y ago
Shits gone downhill around here lately. A lot of bad advice getting spread.
TurboEdition 5y ago
Yes that's what I'm seeing lately.
jon94 5y ago
It’s like we’ve been invaded by teenagers who think they understand RP, but still spout BP shit like “if she texts you she’s horny drop everything and run to her.”
TurboEdition 5y ago
More like fuckboys that probably do less than what they preach or brag. You can sense it. Maybe BP trolls too, since this sub has gotten alot of attention lately. So many shitty thirsty BP advices.
-earthmover 5y ago
I considered this, but why would she keep responding if she's hooking up with someone else?
Ubiquitous-Toss 5y ago
In case the someone else didn't work out
sebastianconcept 5y ago
Man... I was in a fuck marathon with a girl and while resting she was often on whatsapp and tinder making arrangements for her next days with other dudes.
BookyMcBooks 5y ago
TRP explanation every time a girl doesn't respond: she's getting banged by a football team.
TheEndOfCorruption 5y ago
Sometimes it's just laziness and they're like "I'm just gonna watch netflix instead and make him go nuts over me... he'll do something romantic in response ..." And then he doesn't and now she has doubts and is angry, and nothing makes any sense to her then the hamster is like "girrrl he doesn't deserve you!"
Red-Nerd13 5y ago
Porn & TPR taught me this is true.
red_matrix 5y ago
She was horny and wanted it at that moment. She either found someone else or lost interest in OP.
rexchan91 5y ago
Personal opinion, she in girl night out with her gf talk about other dude dick size, and then she play game with her bestie by random msg anyone in her phone list to see how many thirsty beta fall for that prank. And you are the unlucky guy
Bruchibre 5y ago
Dude I know TRP advocates acting aloof in order to get girls to want to fuck you, but the moment they say "wanna fuck" it's time to go for the kill don't you think so? Did you think she was your little bitch and would wait for you for two hours with her pussy wet? Now you have to start from scratch again, her slut shied is up.
Jsieijejeieokkd 5y ago
I agree with the others. Strike while the irons hot.
uptimex 5y ago
This could be written when you have already banged her. If it is the first time and she made a move, you should show "equal" interest. Not disinterest while she is interested. You just punished her for her interest and willingness. You basically banged her ego.
But it is not a lethal mistake. You can now go with "Hey, I had a little headache yesterday (that day), what about a coffee today" it will show that you had an objective reason of "being cold". 40% you will regain the lost interest from her side. 60% she will think "I want to punish you for your disinterest to my person, I will make you hurt for that".
p.s. I personally don't think that she hooked up with someone else. She seems heavier, she took your words seriously and punished you.
recursoinominado 5y ago
Unpopular opinion: She could just be tired/too drunk etc. Women are flaky, we all know that, if she is horny and interested now, doesn't mean that she will be in a few hours of dancing, drinking etc. Altought it can seem a little too eager, i second the opinion on strinking when the iron is still hot, you could make it seems like you were already going home or something, not like you dropped everything to go to her.
sirdaaz 5y ago
who cares? she fucked someone else. you should too.
you did nothing wrong.
ibzzi 5y ago
Okay someone says they wanna fuck you and your response is yeah. I'll let you know when to come over. No excitement, no hyping up what y'all gonna do to eachother. Nothing. Gain some personality for crying out loud. And then you just hit her with you can come over now. Lol. Are you a fucking robot? No wonder she lost interest.
-earthmover 5y ago
What would you have said instead? Mind you, I know everyone is basically saying to strike when the iron is hot, and I get that, but I did not want to appear needy to get some.
ibzzi 5y ago
Would have shown excitement and just been honest. You wouldn't have appeared needy, you would have appeared interested, which is what she wanted. You didn't necessarily have to go "okay let's fuck rn", but something along the lines of "I can't wait to be done with this party so I can pound the living fuck out of you" would have done wonders. She probably would have suggested you guys ditch your parties and just fuck, which wouldn't have made you look needy or pushy since she would have been the one suggesting it, heck even if she didn't suggest it, at least you got her wet and hyped for meeting you afterwards.
PossiblyBreathing 5y ago
She probably banged someone else.
iwviw 5y ago
Or she felt dissed that op didn’t respond aggressive enough. I know a lot of girls who are super insecure and take any little thing as a personal attack
AscensionExperiments 5y ago
Yeah. First of all, if they've been making out on the regular, how do you NOT turn that into an f-close? I've never fucking had that happen. Also his response should have had some element of teasing in it
sebastianconcept 5y ago
I agree with this. You didn’t fucked up
dr_warlock 5y ago
Dude, why not just invite her to the party youre at, Flirt and touch a bit, then reolcate for a bang? Return to the party after.
effyouasshole 5y ago
You didn't fuck up at all. She's just a flake.
Your move now is to soft-next her. Personally, if/when she comes back, I'd immediately respond with: "You're coming over tonight at 8pm and getting your pussy stuffed. Don't wear underwear."
On the down side, being this direct has maybe a 40% chance of success. On the up side, either way I don't have to deal with flaking anymore. I just don't give a shit. My time is valuable, and I'd rather roll the dice on someone else. But again, that's just me.
MattyAnon Admin 5y ago
Next.
It's that simple.
360_no_scope_upvote 5y ago
But-but-but
krunchtimer 5y ago
IMHO, I would have replied with some kind of "I'll pick you up later" approach rather than expecting her to come to me. I just don't ever trust that a woman is going to be pro-active and DO something.
It also sucks that you may have not pursued an opportunity with another girl at the party because you may have thought you have a sure thing for later in the evening.
jy432 5y ago
Yeah but at the same time is offering to chauffeur her around when shes already probably been over to OP’s house in the first place (driven herself) the right thing to do?
Short term yeah Long term probably not
HumanSockPuppet 5y ago
No. Even picking up a bitch for sex is needy.
If she's not coming over enthusiastically, she's not into you. Next.
Drakane1 5y ago
yeah no this is stupid next you'll tell me telling a girl she's pretty or asking a girl to hang out is to needy she should ask you out, game happens when the girl is in you're presence. girls dont want to be seen as sluts
bluefingerblue 5y ago
I kinda get the feeling she was toying with you. You said you haven’t f-closed yet.
When she said “wanna fuck later?”, I think she was being sarcastic. I think she was trying to tell you that’s how she interpreted your invite to come over.
Problem is, you haven’t fucked yet so her ASD is still activated. It doesn’t seem like her attraction level is high enough to agree to a sex invite.
I would just soft next for a week then hit her up with plans the following week. Go out with her one on one. Make sure you escalate and try to fuck. Let her tell you no. But at least try.
MatthewHull07 5y ago
hahahah there is a subreddit for these kind of questions. Who the fuck knows? without asking her you will not get a clear answer. All these wanna be "alpha" males can try to provide reasoning, but if you want a direct answer ask her.
nross368 5y ago
You missed your window. I had the same happen to me but I actually fucked. She hit me with the wanna go to the beach or hookup or something. so i hit her back with come over. It's not being needy if she is asking you to fuck and you respond with where r u or now or lets meet
MonkMode2019 5y ago
Sounds like a pitty fuck, unnatural. Likely lead to guilt or regret on either or both parties.
Wouldn't hurt to test it and see. Then you will know. Regret vs. remorse deal. Live and learn.
Alejandroses 5y ago
Nah she was just trynna find someone to fuck her right then and there and since you were busy she maybe found someone else. You didnt do anything wrong its happened to me before.
Next time just make a move though and see what happens. If she shows no interest then just next. I think she will come around eventually tho.
If you ever do smash just make sure you give that thot the dick of a lifetime. Let her go back to that day where she flaked on you and think "Damn I missed out on this A1 dick" lolol
muscleg33k 5y ago
She probably found a guy that would do it almost instantly
Nighthawkdragon8 5y ago
Not a shit test to test your personality. More of her making sure she didn't seem like a slut in her own eyes, if that makes sense. So when you said yes to "wanna fuck", it made her uncomfortable, since you haven't had sex yet. It made it seem like there was too much of an agenda, and it wouldn't just happen organically. It would have been best to say something that makes her comfortable, like "Idk if I want to do that, but I do want to see you tn." or something to change the topic, not exactly sure but I hope you get the general idea.
jy432 5y ago
Lol this shouldve been a slam dunk dude.
Get done with whatever your doing. Get home, shower... eat whatever. Invite her over. OR i guess if you really wanted some ass you couldve done what the other guy said & tell her you can pick her up but idk about that one... i mean if she has a car & shes already been over to your house in the past then why offer to chauffeur her around - comes off as needy & like you dont get pussy often
-earthmover 5y ago
Okay so basically what I did.
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jy432 5y ago
Just reread it. I personally dont think you did anything wrong... totally dropping what you were doing to fuck some thot is kind of lame. Especially if you were having fun at this party.
TrolsMan2 5y ago
Exactly. All this guys answering would drop everything if a girl was down to fuck.
MrTheFalcon 5y ago
You don't need this kind of hassle. Shes living in the moment. Just ignore anything that isn't logistics, and enjoy it when you hang out in person.
TRP8myfeels 5y ago
Maybe a lot of things. She forgot or got caught up. Accept in the future and dont expect her to show. Do something you enjoy anyways. Dont wait on her.
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forsaken_in_the_dark 5y ago
I am sorry but your messages reminded me of this:
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=3OS5wFSzEdg
Are you from Manitowoc?
VigilantSmartbomb 5y ago
I took it as you didn’t seem interested. Game, but have fun, it’s a game! Lol
send_it_for_the_boys 5y ago
I’ve had similar scenarios before and had them go both ways, I’ve had some that treating as a shit test worked and didn’t work. I even had a girl sending me videos of her fingering herself and she was begging me to throat fuck her, all kinds of shit, and I started escalating it and guess what when I got around to taking care of it she flaked. No reply. Not trying to brag but ive noticed that when some of these bitches just get your attention they feel they have won and that’s it for them. Carry on.
no_condoments 5y ago
Usually we translate what girls say, but apparently we need to translate for you too.
Translation: yes, I'm interested but do not come over or even text me until I text you first.
This was a logistics problem, not a frame problem. She ended up doing something else or meeting someone else or getting too drunk or whatever. You never should've texted that to begin with.
_Anarchon_ 5y ago
I don't deal with chicks that forward. I gotta drive. I would have told her to pound sand the minute she asked.
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It's also kind of a shit test. If you drop what you're doing to bang her, she knows she's got you. If you delay, she ghosts you and fucks someone else.
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HumanSockPuppet 5y ago
Faaaaaggot lmao