Hello,
I’ve been reading TRP for two years. Its effect on my life has been incredible. Since the main sub shut down, I haven’t been reading much. Let me be clear, this is a lesson for myself to stay updated so that I don’t get rusty, hence the following.
I’m currently spinning 2 main plates, one of whom went traveling last week, and one who just got chlamydia (nice). In other words, I’m entering what could potentially become a dry spell, for at least a couple weeks.
Question: I met a girl off Instagram two weeks ago, who I’m considering inviting up again. First date went like this; she came to my apartment, we had wine, fucked, she slept over (lives 1,5 hours away), fucked again, had a good time. She’s 19, I’m 25, I never run game off text, which is why I’m asking you for advice. The day she left, I messaged her on Instagram something like “thanks for a good time, let me know if you ever stop by my city again” to which she replied “thank you too, I will do that;)” She’s been active on my posts (I’m a kinda getting big dj so I update frequently) & we’re left on a good note.
Could I message her to come by again, or would it seem desperate when I kinda left it up to her in the previous message? Or what should be my go to move. We had a good time, and it seems fitting to hit her up, while my other plates are on standby.
Thank you.
SlyGradient 5y ago
Main sub is not shut down:
Reddit admins quarantined us, but we are not outright banned (at least not yet). Go to an actual computer, on the desktop site there is a warning and you can click to view the community anyway.
You can also get to us on mobile by going to old.reddit https://old.reddit.com/r/TheRedPill/ ... either way once you click past the warning once you should be able to skip the warning in the future. There is also a backup of the forum at https://www.forums.red/i/theredpill , if we are ever outright banned.
Gretschish 5y ago
Better option: amass more plates.
TheChadded 5y ago
I’m in the process, but again, this one should be easy to see again, hence my question.
Gretschish 5y ago
You’re missing my point.
Your question comes from a place of scarcity. This is resolved by adding more plates to the rotation.
TheChadded 5y ago
I get it. However, to get a plate spinning, you must see them more than once right? This one has already been nurtured, already been fucked, it should be an easy set up to get her spinning, while I, of course, also work on other new plates.
Gretschish 5y ago
Alright dude. The answer to your question is to leave it. Do not broadcast scarcity to this girl. That’ll break a plate fast enough to make your head spin. It’s a lesson I’ve had to learn the hard way.
But let’s examine the situation holistically, because I see bigger concerns here. First, you do not have dates with plates. Eradicate that word from your vocabulary as it relates to plates. Secondly, plates do not spend the night. That’s a hormonal breeding ground for building intimacy, which when combined with scarcity, causes oneitis. I guarantee it.
Leave her alone, focus on you, and bag more plates.
TheChadded 5y ago
I get what you’re saying.
Do you personally never see a girl more than once then?
Gretschish 5y ago
Sure I do. But I recognize plates for what they are and my sexual focus is always on the next draft pick.
TheChadded 5y ago
And that’s cool dude. I know how to handle plates, I’m not new to it, and have been rotating frequently.
I get your point with scarcity, which frankly, YES is true, since my two plates aren’t spinning currently because of what’s written in the original post.
There’s still something that speaks logically to me though, when I already saw this girl once and would assume she’s down to meet again. It’s an easy, temporary solution until I get more going.
So to sum it up, I agree with you and understand the principles, however keeping what I just wrote in mind (that she should be easy to rotate) what would be my go-to solution to have her visit again, WITHOUT coming from a place of scarcity (in her eyes). That’s it basically
tikitheman 5y ago
You fucked her twice. Just invite her over who gives a fuck if it doesn't work.
It was dumb of you to leave it up to her. You should be leading. So lead.
TheChadded 5y ago
Very true, thanks
pokergentleman 5y ago
You’ve nothing to lose. “Hey, you should stop by xxx and we’ll (refer to something funny from last time”
FereallyRed 5y ago
1 - The main sub is not shut down.
2 - Sure, tell her to come over, but a 3 hr round trip is a big impediment.
3 - Time to go hunting.
TheChadded 5y ago
Thanks!
TheChadded 5y ago
Where can I find the main sub? / TRP and / theredpill doesn’t work
FereallyRed 5y ago
It's quarantined.
The tips I've heard are use a desktop, use "old" reddit and then you get the "agree to visit a horrible place" clickbox.
There's a sidebar link here.
Here's a screenshot from right now, to skirt crossposting rules. Copypasta url?