This tends to happen at family events and such where they concistantly ask me "have you got a girlfriend yet?" Or "are you seeing anyone?". Truth is I haven't found any girl during my plate spinning that's even close to being worth of ltr status/time investment. I'd rather continue to further myself in my goals and have the power of being able to freely take my life in any direction I want without having to think about some ltr. Of course I don't spurt out redpill theory to them or even the fact that I prefer non exclusive relationships because we know how that shit storm would go. I normally brush of the question with some joke and try and move on but after a while they just don't want to drop the topic. It's a little frustrating and I was just wondering how you guys deal with situations such as this. Thanks.
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Jabbermouth 5y ago
Plate your mom, that will send them a message.
Frebaz 5y ago
If he’s still new, he can break his arm and cross his fingers lol
Enlightened_Chimp 5y ago
Alternatively, "Agree and Amplify".. have gay sex and send them a video
mrpoopistan 5y ago
It's very hard in 2019 to prove gay sex. He may just be a straight-identifying man having sex with other men.
Atheist_Utopia 5y ago
You really shouldn't be caring.
m4t31 5y ago
True but it does not answer his question of how to deal with someone insisting on the topic.
xddm2653 5y ago
"Why dont you set me up with one"
Free plate, or if it's a family friend maybe an LTR
WindIsMyMusic 5y ago
A family friend for an LTR? I don't think it's the brightest idea tbh m8. Imagine your relationship not working out. It'll be way more drama if it's hard to avoid one another from there on.
BreddyCougar 5y ago
Pump and dump a family friend will probably stop the incessant "wHeReS yOuR gF??" though hahahaha
WindIsMyMusic 5y ago
Haha I didn't think about it that way lol
peerschenk 5y ago
Exactly
WoodWizzy87 5y ago
Here’s your problem. If you’re plate spinning that much and you can’t find a girl that even worth a short term relationship, you need to up your standards like a lot dude.
Always just say your casually dating, and say that you haven’t found one that’s a right fit. Because as you know, most girls besides like 5% are trash
CasaDeFranco 5y ago
Indeed, honestly even plates I find frustrating to be around; after sex one asks to watch netflix. I usually decline but one afternoon acquieced, she proceeded to have the most vapid conversation; I can't concieve how men choose to commit to these women. She was pretty but had the personality of a child. Most women below my SMV, that agree to being a plate tend to only bring physical attractiveness to the table and not much else, virtue or character wise.
INNASKILLZ2K18 5y ago
Crabs in a bucket, fuck it. Most people want to live in their bubble, and expect life to be handed to them. Hold frame. Tell them they can join you at the gym if they want to lose the love handles.
Or 'I see where sitting on their ass gets people', and give them a sly wink.
ShinyRedKetoPill 5y ago
The people asking this feel so much sadness for you. But if you look at yourself and look at them 5 years from now you will see you chose the right path.
When they are in their sex-less marriage with their second child on the way and 40 lbs of body fat gained and you are doing your thing. Unshackled and empowered.
thewrestler 5y ago
What about in the 65-90 year-old stage of life, when you don’t have kids/ grandkids to look forward to seeing and you’re literally alone?
Impulsive666 5y ago
https://www.google.com/amp/s/therationalmale.com/2011/09/12/the-myth-of-the-lonely-old-man/amp/
classylassy28 5y ago
This has no scientific merit. It's been proven time and time again people do not like being lonely. It's against our biology.
Also working in health care I can tell you, the happiest people have familys that visit and are around all the time. The most depressed are the ones with nobody, some haven't had a normal in depth conversation with another human in yeaaars.
StopGaming1234 5y ago
Yep, when my grandmother was in a hospital, family members visited her atleast twice per day. I could tell the other older womans were visibly miserable that no one came to visit them.
You literally made their day with small talk.
macheagle 5y ago
OP, I have the exact same issue with my family and relatives. All my bluepilled cousins married “early” with toddlers and more kids on the way, and all I get asked at the family reunions and BBQs are when I will have an LTR, because you know, apparently my time is “running out” at early 30’s LOL. Seriously it is becoming such an annoyance that I actually wonder whether there are certain things I can say to make them understand my POV without explicitly spilling RP theory on them.
I’m focusing a lot on my career and physique, and while IMO some of my plates are LTR worthy, I have a good feeling they there will be more of them and likely even better ones as I hit my SMV peak probably a few years from now. So I am not at all rushed in any way. However literally no one in my family circle understands this. My parents are actually ok with as I am redpilling them gradually (it’s working), it’s my relatives that are completely clueless.
BurnoutRS 5y ago
"Have you got a girlfriend yet?" yes
"Whats her name?" which one?
Impulsive666 5y ago
This. They don't care about a gf, they just want to know if you can pull girls.
BurntYams 5y ago
This is great, saved haha
xddm2653 5y ago
Ask them for an arranged marriage
berna_maia 5y ago
Don't spill them redpill theory, but just clarify to them that you have other goals in mind and a LTR isn't a priority to you, avoiding will just make them more curious and make them talk about it more. Be honest and tell them you aren't looking for one right now.
EdvardMunch 5y ago
Yeah.. I date girls who say its weird Ive only had one LTR and it was 4 months at 28. Im gonna jump into a bit of a tangent if this hits home to anyone else.
I was an obedient worrisome overthinking analytical church kid who never partied or dated and I was late to it all. TRP kind of illuminated things I thought I saw but couldn't understand. Before finding TRP though I had learned my confidence in my field (even while a bit delusional) was powerful. And I was often dating very attractive women with which dudes seemed upset to see me with. I didnt lift, I did wear nice clothes, my hair was a left over beach dude haircut and I was skinny fat. But when I walked into a room my mindset was none of that mattered because I was somebody important.
Fast forward 8 years and im in great shape, complimented on my looks, wear nice clothes, have great hair but im self conscious. Im too old to be in circles or have the money to be around younger stunners before they're taken. I date mediocre ladies and it never goes anywhere. If anything very attractive women I feel often avoid me. Im not model worthy but because ive become a dangerous ladies fantasy of sorts thats usually all im seen as. In my experience im not considered LTR material by any means. This could be do to my current income and pursuits though.
You do your best you know but none of this much matters. The lifting, clothes, etc. Its really all about frame. Great salesman dont need abs and dashing looks, and if you think its predicated on those things you're in for a rude awakening.
Maintain your frame above all the shit that comes your way. All these worries mean nothing. Life will not make sense. But if you lose frame you will ride life's waves and end up beat upon the rocks. Just be the rock. Discipline yourself. Things will come.
Life is like a grocery store. And ive changed my checkout lane so much only to see I could have gotten through somewhere but I keep changing lanes. Thats women, jobs, location, possibilities. Maintain frame and like a predator in the bushes you will get your meals. Just stop moving around.
TRP8myfeels 5y ago
I just had very short 'relationships' but that was mostly out of personal laziness and convenience. I'd 'commit' to shitty girls but never really invest. They'd be more like a crappy live in maid that I fucked for a few months then I would get sick of her and ask her to leave.
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It helped me recognize and deeply understand that few people have the ability to change. Most of who a person is, is set by the time they start having sex, true adaptive souls are rare.
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Tell them plainly that you are looking but you haven't had the one. I'd say I was saving myself for someone that fit me.
warburgio 5y ago
have you got a girlfriend yet - yh, ive got few gf. End of story
StopGaming1234 5y ago
I always answer with "Which one do you mean?" if they ask how my GF is.
RedKnightTime 5y ago
If you've done the required reading, then you have the tools to deal with this. Start with fogging.
Zegiknie 5y ago
Some people just want to watch the world burn.
If you are one of those people, ask them to set you up with a nice girl. Then plate her.
htowntrav 5y ago
Weak frame?
StopGaming1234 5y ago
You probably make too big of a deal out of it.
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Since I started having one girl after another I get way more respect everywhere, especially in my own family.
When people ask "How's your girlfriend" I usually answer "Which one?" or "Which of those?". I always get a smile and positive reaction.
Dad is proudly telling everyone that I am spinning multiple plates at once (Of course he doesn't use TRP vocabulary).
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I always thought you would get looked down for "cheating" or having multiple partners. But even my own mother suprised me when I once showed her a picture of my latest plate WHILE I was being in a relationship and all she said was "What a bomb!" with that proud look. One of the best moments in life as a son.
Just1515 5y ago
I dont. Realise that they are PLUGGED IN. They all WANT a relationshio, and or kids etc. They want to find “the one”. A relationshio and maintaining one is of it ost inportance for plugged in men and women at all times. Not just for sex or their sexual fulfilment, but even a shitty relationship. Its a status thig and also a blue pilled goal.
They probably genuinely feel sad for tou are are genuine worried. You are not seemingly succeeding in this extremely important blue pill want and goal, and thry assume you want it(how can you not? Thats the way it is!) because they believe you are plugged in too.
You cant show someone the other side with words. At best they will just look at it through same lens but change it a little for your situation.
Dont bother. Just say you would perfer not to deal with a relationship or kids for now. It’ll mindfuck them.
U cant convince them. Blue pilled plugged in people will have ego identification with their relationships, even the shitty ones. A sexless mariage, with overweight wife, annoying kids and no time for yourself or your goals is “making it” to them because if it wasnt they would be forced to stare at the red pill truths in the face and it hurts.
HumanSockPuppet 5y ago
Depends on the context.
If the people in question can impact your prospects for career advancement, then feed them a pleasant-sound Blue Pill flavoured lie ("I just haven't found The One yet").
If the people in question have no impact on your ambitions or prospects for advancement, you can mostly ignore them.
good-look 5y ago
brah just tell em u havent found the one yet maybe theyll hook u up w new plates too
WindIsMyMusic 5y ago
Plating somebody whose family is friends with yours is really NOT a good idea, my friend. I barely dodged a bullet there, I know what I'm talkin bout.
And one of my closest homies didn't dodge, shit now generates various inconveniences to this day, even tho the whole drama took place back in like 2012 or so
good-look 5y ago
dont be autistic, socially calibrate
WindIsMyMusic 5y ago
Tf u mean? Being on bad terms with somebody who you got a number of common friends with means creating inconveniences for the said friends. They now have to pick which one of you to invite, they now need to be careful around even mentioning the other one in conversations, yada yada yada.
And if the family or clan ties get involved, shit gets even uglier.
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embracingtheredpill 5y ago
It hurts at the beginning to say to the people you love and who are your friends to be against them. The best thing you can do is be quiet, nod and agree and then do what you want anyway. It's just one of those things of becoming a TRP high value man.
On a side note, the idea that plate spinning is an audition process for finding the One is of someone that's still plugged in and needs to die. Read Plate Theory I.
WindIsMyMusic 5y ago
Say "not your fucking business" in the nicest and least offensive manner possible.
The skill of doing so will serve you very well in many, if not all fields of life.
StopGaming1234 5y ago
Butthurt answer
DirtyBastard13 5y ago
"'I'm too busy to with work/school to date", "I haven't found the right one, I guess", "So many out there who aren't marriage material" tends to work.
SexualOnion19 5y ago
Don't talk about TRP like you need to impress others or get buy in. Just say you don't like monogamy and you're all about self improvement. If someone asks enough of the right questions, redpill that faggot and save a life. But don't go looking for reasons to talk about keeping frame and spinning plates.
nevalutionary 5y ago
I went with my dad to meet some old friends of his. A man, his wife, their adult children, and children's children. I haven't seen them since I was a little kid. They're doing the usual, commenting on how much I've grown (sub-communication: damn you're a stud now)
Towards the end the wife says, "When are you bringing us a wife?"
I turned to her with a smirk and said, "I'll bring you several."
She laughed and that was that. We said a lot with a little.
Moral the story:
1) You're young and you're still taking people's inquisitions seriously. Maybe on some level you haven't truly broken from their approval. Ultimately what they think doesn't matter, and many people, especially people much older than you, are out of touch with the realities of dating today.
2) Confidence and frame wins. You choose your life. Do it righteously. Have fun. If people think you're losing rather than choosing, maybe on some level you're communicating that you're losing. And this may loop back to point #1.
UEMcGill 5y ago
"All the stripers I date just keep stealing my money."
"There's only so many single moms I find attractive."
"You know any girls I can save? I love fixing girls!"
This isn't about them not wanting to drop the subject, this about frame. If people want to ask intrusive questions give them absurd answers. You joke because it's uncomfortable, and want to change the subject. Instead of that, own it and make them uncomfortable. Eventually, people will learn not to ask stupid questions.
thisisnotme__-- 5y ago
They probably think you're gay and are too afraid to come out. Seriously.
RedSkeller 5y ago
You'll get shamed well into your 40s, better get a good line for it.
alpha-zach 5y ago
Hold frame and treat it like a shit test.
It’s only annoying because you are in their frame. (Which may make some sense because they are likely your elders)
Just latch onto the knowledge that as you improve yourself you’ll be improving your SMV. One day you’ll walk in with a smokin hot girl 5-10 years younger than you, well vetted, and submissive. Their jaws will drop, and it will have all been worth it.
Victorious666 5y ago
Just tell them you're happy being single and to mind their own business. If they insist on setting you up, take them up on it, pump and dump, and they will eventually stop setting you up with their friends.
youngbull24 5y ago
Redpoll information makes you sound crazy. They are going to find the info themselves because they’re open for the info to seek in their head or stay plugged in because it’s more comforting it’s a choice
WiredT 5y ago
Keep walking your path and make a great life for yourself and eventually theyll stop asking that and ask if you can give YOUR advice. Thats when you speak, or at least thats the point im trying to get to. But until then, other people have better advice to side step it.
trppr 5y ago
Tell them you're gay with a shit eating grin
Nov51605 5y ago
man, be a diplomat , be smooth and "naive" . Luckily youre young enough to where they wont scrutinize as hard.
use lines like , "well if the right one came along, id get married", "just dating right now", etc...
We all know there is no "right one" - they are all hypergamous whores due to long programmed evolutionary biology, but just use the "right one" even when asked by women regarding if you are married or have been married before, etc...
_Anarchon_ 5y ago
I've had a number of friends tell me I'm the smartest guy they know for never having been married. I don't have that problem. But, if I did, I imagine I would challenge them on it. The problems in their marriage will be obvious. If they start pressing you, press them...and point out how miserable they are, how much less of a man they are, how cucked they are, etc. They won't bring it up again.
KaiSmashSmashSawmash 5y ago
Spit the truth. I got a few girlfriends that all know about each other.
traveling_introvert 5y ago
I state my views without apology. Then I indirectly put them on the defensive.
Examples:
-I say "if I had a dollar for every married man who has confessed to me that, while he loves his wife and kids, if he had it to do all over again he'd choose my lifestyle over his I'd be a millionaire".
-I say "it seems to me that a lot of women are just treading water with the relationship they're in until something better comes along"
-I say "I get the impression that a lot of people in relationships just tolerate each other. I've never heard a single man complain about being single but I've heard plenty of married men complain about being married"
That usually shuts them up real quick because nine times out of ten it's the people who fit this description who talk the most shit.