I thought of this analogy earlier. It seems like most women just log on to sit there having messages flood their inbox asking them questions or throwing praise and jokes at them. When the one sided conversation dies down they just move on to the next without a thought. What do you think? It seems more and more guys are recommending getting off the apps. Have any experiences on them made you think they're not worth the time? Are they just like social media sites now?
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mallardcove 5y ago
A lot of truth to it. But at the same time it doesn't hurt to try.
Many men don't even try. I think every girl is open to meeting up with the right guy they come across on a dating app. You have to be that guy. I've been successful on Tinder and Bumble. You have to stand out and be different, not just in photos but in how you have conversations once you match. Most guys are too predictable, slow, deliberate, and boring.
metallica11 5y ago
yes, just perpetaute the the need for only men to continue to be more inteerersting, funny, stand out, until we basically you have to be a stand up comedian in order to land a 5/10 girl..
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don't be a part of the problem!
soundnpound 5y ago
Oh I don't doubt that. And I'd agree, most men probably show little interest, are awkward or don't have good photos. I've had a few dates off of POF myself, but have had more frequent success with better looking girls offline. It seems the majority of ladies just have it incase a guy way out of their league happens to hit them up, or use it for the constant attention and ego boost.
RedSkeller 5y ago
Wasn’t all of that obvious already?
INNASKILLZ2K18 5y ago
I've had success...but this has been my own personal conclusions...take what you will...
Fuck internet dating. There is something, to me, that just doesn't gel with my frame. Every effort to take a better photo, come up with an 'opener', say the right shit, all makes me feel like I'm hugely approval seeking. That's all time and effort I would rather spend on improving my value and smv in real life. Time for mission.
After the shit I have done, seen and survived in my life, I flat out REFUSE to try win the approval of some random bitch, comparing me to a bunch of guys who wouldn't have 1/4 of the frame I have.
Now, some guys will tell me I'm coping, or blah blah blah. Zero fucks given. I KNOW that if I took better photos and took the perfect selfie of me falling out of a plan, shirtless, with cash streaming out of my pocket...I'd get laid.
You know what also gets me laid...being one of the few mothefuckers with a REAL LIFE frame strong enough to approach and have women. I can do so much more in real life, and you gotta play to your strengths.
I don't Tinder, so its up to me to have a solution to creating new options. So I attack real life.
I grew up in the 90's, before this crap came about. I feel bad for dudes who have social media ingrained in them.
IF you have the right pics, and women are hitting YOU up, read OmLaLa's Guide to Tinder. Give it a search. He rocked it.
Otherwise...build and build what you can do in real life. That'll make you, much more than Tinder. Return of Kings, cousin.
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Throwaway5hfy88k99 5y ago
I agree on most of this.
billybetasnan 5y ago
Real talk
anonymouz333 5y ago
True. I just had a tinder match that I forgot about we matched like last week ago it said, she messaged me today with hey boo
And I replied with some witty shit, and she continues back and forth with one word or short answers not being fun so I was like
What you trying too do? She said what?
I say You're being boring so I thought you was just trying to fuck
Then she sends me a paragraph like when did I say I would have sex with anyone blah blah blah shit test
I reply back with a simple ok
She replys, like what
I reply , what
She unmatched lmao
Bitch wasn't bout too use me for validation
(I held frame like a g)
HurricaneHugues 5y ago
A week is way too long to be in my matches. 2-3 days tops is how long they last. If they take too long to reply I unmatch. Don't have your time wasted.
anonymouz333 5y ago
I never messaged her , she messaged me first today. We matched a week ago and I forgot about her, cause I had a bunch of matches
HurricaneHugues 5y ago
I wouldn't know. I unmatch if they're not receptive and with the shits.
Scorchyy 5y ago
Check tinder subreddit and you’ll realize it within seconds. But we can’t blame women, it’s literally impossible to talk to 100 different guys and do a decent conversation, one word answers are already very time consuming when you need to send them to 20 different people
TheGillos 5y ago
Yep.
Thotasaurus_Rex 5y ago
Disagree. I find it very easy to get girls to meet you irl.
mrpoopistan 5y ago
I tend to take a "pain in the ass" approach to chats. I've found that weeds them out pretty quickly.
Then again, I am a pain in the ass to deal with, so it's mostly truth in advertising.
beiberwholee69 5y ago
What do you mean by this?
mrpoopistan 5y ago
Let's pick my favorite example . . .
A lot of women sexualize conversations via chat as a way of soliciting attention. I am a huge opponent of offering any sexual validation via chat. If she wants validation, she can show the hell up, behave on a date, and maybe I'll fuck her if she doesn't annoy me.
All chat sessions with women are like closed positions in chess. If you frustrate easily or insist upon being unnecessarily aggressive, you will come out the loser in the exchange, and then you'll quickly play away the rest of the game trying more aggressive moves to win your way back to parity.
My all-time favorite PITA chat was this chick who abso-fucking-lootly insisted she just couldn't judge whether she wanted to meet me without a good sexting session.
For me, sexting is a hard no. I fucking hate it. That's not even a game issue for me. I hate sexting, and I make it known.
But, she insisted upon sexting, so . . . LOLcat sexting it was.
We're talking 45 minutes of:
"Tell me what you're gonna do to me"
"I getz da poos-poos" and "Iz pulls ur foor on teh top of deh hed"
This is going so hot an heavy that I have to delete messages from my phone because it's running out of fucking memory and storage space. (She was also throwing in nudes to spice things up.)
Eventually she breaks and says, "I can't take you seriously like this. What am I supposed to do?"
I replied, "Show the fuck up for salsa dancing on Friday night."
We made a date, and she showed up early to the appointed place.
The point is: never give into her side of the equation. If it appears you're giving in, flip the script. Make it a joke. Fuck with her. Everything is a game, and you pick the direction it goes.
Women eat that shit up.
INNASKILLZ2K18 5y ago
Lots of guys need to read this. Don't lose frame, ever. Soon as a chick mentions sex, guys think they're 'in', and lost any semblance of frame.
beiberwholee69 5y ago
I actually really like this approach, what do you openers usually look like?
mrpoopistan 5y ago
"Hello" is underrated.
I usually work together something simple based on her profile. Most people have at least one thing they wish others would notice about them, and they often telegraph that in their profiles.
Like the last chick I messaged had a profile that said something about hating her job at a coffee bar but being able to whip up a mean cup of joe. So, I said hello and then asked her what her plans were to serve a tea drinker. Slightly contrary, but not dickish. Preferably, you want to say something that challenges them to respond.
I'm not a real pain in the ass until it gets to the validation seeking phase of the game.
beiberwholee69 5y ago
I like your style bro
thebestpossible 5y ago
Dating apps are mostly entertainment for any woman of quality
bcool87 5y ago
Tinder seemed to fall off a bit when I hit 30 (I'm 31 now), but Hinge is still a goldmine for me. When I compare my conversations to many of my friends (and we're mostly a socially aware bunch), it's night and day. They're being far too serious, far too literal, and far too slow. When a girl says "hi how are you?" there's no way I'm answering that seriously. If a girl asks me my sign as part of some arbitrary screening process, I'm not answering that seriously either. I just have fun, out banter the so called fans of "witty banter" and get to the number and logistics ASAP. Should online dating be your only pipeline? No way. But it's been a steady supplement for at least half a decade now for me.
throwitdownman 5y ago
What the fuck has the sub degraded into. Women treat dating apps as a way to find attractive men to have sex with / date. It is, and always will be, the primary reason people use dating apps. It’s why it’s called a dating app.
If you think women are on there solely to chat, you’re batshit insane. The chatting is FILLER, it’s the way to pass time before she swipes someone she wants to fuck. It’s like saying people buy video games in order to play the mini-games. Fuck sake, the mini-games may be fun but people buy games to play the actual game.
You might as well make a post saying ‘most women go to nightclubs, dressed skimpy, and have girls night outs solely for attention, not looking to hook up ’. Some of you belong in that incel sub-reddit. Insane.