Not your everyday request for advice..
Basically I lost an Uncle last month who is the closest person I have lost to this point in my life. Over the last two weeks, I've been constantly thinking about death.
My job also revolves around handling people's Estate when they pass away and I feel it's been a build up.
Today I hit an all time low and cried in front of my mother (her brother that passed).
I know it's the inevitable and obviously being occupied will prevent that thought but it's just a new experience for me.
How did/do you guys handling the death of a relative and the thought of death itself?
Filmguy000 5y ago
I really believe the concept of death is more horrific for the living. We all hate to see loved ones go, and see them in a big wooden box on an alter. Overall its a morbid thing to see and is more hurtful the more you care about the deceased.
But when our time comes, I don't think its the worst thing. It's actually a return to normalcy in the sense that we didnt exist before we were born, and we wont exist after our death. The few decades we have alive are kind of just a fluke in the grand scheme of things. I know it sounds morbid, but its natural.
_new-dawn0x2 5y ago
Best not to think about it, just accept it's coming for us all.
Throwaway-242424 5y ago
Your mileage may vary but taking loads of psychedelics in my early 20's really helped me come to terms with my own mortality.
buttgoogler 5y ago
I've been there, my man. Don't even think about drinking / taking drugs. Talk to your male friends about it, that's why they exist in the first place. Concentrate on yourself: lift harder, make more money, travel somewhere.
My condolences, keep your head up.
VasiliyZaitzev 5y ago
This may not help today, but it will, eventually:
End Game or Handling Life on Your Own Terms
-Take a Deep Breath and Make it Count.
AnyDoughnut 5y ago
Death sucks, there is no way around it.
Death is a reminder of our ephemeral existence. It is a great call to action that we need to live our lives with a sense of urgency, as we don't know when the grim reaper will come for us.
I'm not a religious man, but the serenity prayer is very fitting. "God grant us the serenity to accept the things we cannot change, the courage to change the things we can, and the wisdom to know the difference."
You can't change the fact that you and everyone you know will perish. You can change what you do with your remaining time. Let death be a call to action to strive to achieve your goals and do all that you want in life.
ethbytes 5y ago
Energy cannot be created or destroyed, it merely changes form... The elements in you me have been used by other creatures plants, before that they were formed in a Star that went supernova spilling nutrients to the universe... Lot going on above our simian understanding...
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Ekhochambeer 5y ago
Don’t let it get in the way of your life. Don’t suppress it but don’t be thinking about it every second of every day, you have to keep moving. This doesn’t mean forget about them. It fucking hurts but you have to move on.
ironchef-uk 5y ago
Death is a part of life, probably one of the only things in life that is truly certain. I lost a lot of people close to me and you become used to it after a while.
Contemplate death and what it is, how it comes for us all. Strange as it sounds it actually makes it easier to deal with.
Deathcon1337 5y ago
Everyone who is alive today will be dead someday. There's no changing that.
When they tell you to live each day like it was your last, that's born from the mentality that life can vanish in an instant. A sudden cancer diagnosis, a car crash, even tripping onto concrete.
My line of thinking is; if you can't change it, no point in worrying about it. By the time I die, I want to have as few regrets as possible.
My Grandfather died a few years ago, and it was hurtful that I didn't get to talk more with him. I never really did.
My dad is the only person I can say I truly love, without him I would be beyond lost. He helped build me up and created a good foundation in me by the time I found the Red Pill. But someday he'll be dead, so, I'm preparing for a lifestyle for when I won't be able to ask him for advice anymore.
If you have any unfinished important business with other people, now's always a good time to get it done, because they may not get to handle it later.