Relatively new to red pill. Thought I had plates on the go but one went home with someone else tonight. I’m 22 but it was as if every love song I’ve ever heard made sense. Why do I feel crushed, how do I stop it
AlwaysOnTheFence
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cufflad 5y ago
you were her plate, she wasn't yours.
you were over-invested, and lacked abundance.
FANAT1CAL_ 5y ago
Nailed it.
AlwaysOnTheFence 5y ago
Ah fuck
RedHoodhandles 5y ago
Does it really matter who was whose plate. He fucked a woman and got butthurt because jumped on perceived better dick.
Not so long ago we would have fought each other to death. Primal instinct. Winner takes it all.
RedKnightTime 5y ago
Quit falling in love with hoes.
And I don't mean women. I mean hoes.
LettersFromAStoic 5y ago
Stop "falling in love," period. Feel it, sure, but "falling in love" is for women and your job is to make them fall for you.
0io- 5y ago
The standard player advice of "Go Fuck Ten Other Women" applies here. It's the only sure-fire known and proven cure for one-itis.
Usually if you play it cool and actually GFTOW like you're supposed to, she'll probably come back around again. If she does, don't fall in love with her again. It's your turn, now it's someone else's turn, that's how this works.
It's a cycle that repeats itself.
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Edit: When you say you had plates on the go, are these women that you actually had sex with? Or are you counting women that you're attracted to but have not had sex with. Because if you're not having sex with them, they don't count as plates. The way you write it almost sounds like some girl you had a crush on went out and fucked Chad and now you're sad about it.
AlwaysOnTheFence 5y ago
Been with these two girls over the last few weeks. Barely emotionally interested. Enter girl three and I feel like a teenager again. Even though we were having sex I felt like I had a crush. Couldn’t help it. I was letting it slip accidentally here and there that I was the more invested one.
Another comment summed it up nicely, “she wasn’t your plate, you were hers” and that’s exactly how it felt.
W_O_M_B_A_T 5y ago
Stop being so goddamn dramatic. Feelz =/= facts.
You're doing alright. You just don't want to admit that you're doing alright.
This is like a recovering alcoholic dealing with sentimental thoughts about all the good times he had while drunk, and reminiscing about all his drunk friends. You know, before they dried up, to kicked his alcoholic ass to the curb, or got picked up for DUI's. In other words, it's high-grade denial.
Part of you thought or at least hoped subconsciously your bitchy XGF was the same as your mother figure. Maternalizing women is a defining trait of betas.
Nobody likes the idea that mom is eventually going to kick you out of the house, tell you to man up and get a job. She can't stand your immature behavior any more.
Nobody likes the idea that mom is eventually going to die or else otherwise leave your life permanently. Nobody likes thinking about what they're actually going to do when that happens. This is an existential fear every teenage boy has to face and he can't be a man until he does.
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CasaDeFranco 5y ago
If you only have one plate, she's not really a plate.
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Acquire more plates and invest less emotions.
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Carry on, keep lifting, spend time with close friends; this is just part of the game.
embracingtheredpill 5y ago
Look up mentomorpheur's recent post on the main sub of becoming Chad, covers exactly this and helped me immensely getting over this insecurity.
RuleTheOne 5y ago
Yep the rest of the comments are correct.
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Detach yourself from her. Matter of fact, don't let her back in if she comes back. She's out of the game.
Acerhand 5y ago
Ur feeling jealousy and lack of abundance.
Maybe you emotionally invested with her, if u spent A lot of time with her and doing non plate things like hugging and hanging out. Understandably.
You just need more experience, to have abundance, learn how jealousy works to sabotage you and finally how to vet a woman you dare invest emotions into
Ronaldo-CR7- 5y ago
Hahahahahahahahaha
rus9384 5y ago
You are paying too much attention. She is your plate, do not get attached to plates. As long as they fuck with you, good. Why care if they fuck with someone else? Because many plates also have multiple plates.
If you don't want to share a plate, dump her. That's a plate, after all.
kayfab 5y ago
You are so young bro at your age i would have done the same.... i am 46 now but i did so many mistakes, i am fn red pill now and don't give a fk about women.... pump and dump and that's it.
DerpJungler 5y ago
A woman will never be yours. It just your turn. Accept hypergamy, move on.
INNASKILLZ2K18 5y ago
Changing on the outside, not the inside.
You need to gain self awareness and stay aware if the redpill principles have become truly internalised.
It sounds like you were running on autopilot, without awareness that you still thought 'she was yours'.
How many times had you fucked her?
thrownawayisland 5y ago
Hey bud maybe give some extra details. Did she go there with you at first? How’d she go home with the other dude. We can probably break it down from there.
cafeitalia 5y ago
You were wrong about being rp. The girl proved that. Continue working on yourself and on 3-4 years you will probably get to start of rp level.
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