I’ve been taking the pill for over a year now, and am only beginning to see it now. At the beginning, I’d get shit tested was when I’d approach a girl. I lost weight and raised my SMV, and now I’m in my first semester of college and every interaction feels like I’m negotiating the Cuban missile crisis. I expect for someone to throw shade at me in any interaction now, the problem is when I try and do the same I end up coming off the wrong way. I thought the whole point of frame-strengthening was to prevent people from trying to fuck with you but the more I strengthen the more people want to break said frame. I know I need to work on flipping the pressure but I feel as if I can’t even speak with a group of people without them aiming their flak guns at me. It’s not even done in a necessarily negative way - They’re still my friends, but for some reason I’m always ganged up on to try and break my frame. Haven’t broken yet, and don’t plan on it.
If I need to explain the situation better, let me know. It’s more of like a friendly conversation then in comes the shit testing. Nobody shit tests anyone else though, just me. I don’t get it. Maybe I don’t notice when others are getting tested however? I am glad in a sense though because my frame is solidifying because of it.
BlackTemplar1989 5y ago
I'm now assuming you actually encounter shittests and it's not just overreacting on your side.
Several possibilities:
(i) There are people who knew you before and see you improving. Shittests are to be expected from them.
(ii) When college starts a lot of new people get thrown together and form groups. Shittests get used to some degree to assess the social hierarchy within these groups.
(iii) Your smv has increased faster than your self-confidence. The body can improve rather quickly but confidence takes time to settle in the subconciousness. Until it has caught up you may send "mixed signals" to others: you act according to your smv but still have some kind of cues in your behaviour that get picked up by others subconsciously and scream "insecurity".
If that's the case there's not much to do for you other than keep improving. At some point your inner confidence will catch up, you will feel like the king of the world and the shittests will subside.
Peter_B_Long 5y ago
Also, I recommend avoiding people when your frame is weak. Your frame can ALWAYS be weak. You could have serious finance troubles that you just became aware of. You could have a death in the family. You could've tried to fuck your first HB7 last night but you couldn't get it up and now you're insecure as fuck and you're trying to hide it from everyone.
FIX YOUR SHIT FIRST. DO NOT go out in public and pretend like a problem you're having isn't a problem. Be genuine. You need to genuinely have a strong frame. You CAN NOT pretend a strong frame.
riot2100 5y ago
Thanks for the much needed slap in the face. A strong mental frame requires a strong physical one too, need to work on that.
ArdAtak 5y ago
Frame doesn't prevent people from fucking with you. It gives you the tools and midset to properly deal with said fuckery.
derrtderr 5y ago
There’s a reason why they call this life on hard mode.
riot2100 5y ago
If it’s not on hard mode then there’s no test of skill. I’m sure all of us here will be glad we chose this mode in the long run.
derrtderr 5y ago
Well life isn’t a video game. The reality is: this is the only mode. Some men don’t understand the game, some pretend they don’t have to play. Either you practice the skills and get better or everyone bounces their ballsack on the slack jawed mouth of your dead body.
axeldesign 5y ago
You either play the game or you don't if you don't you are making it easy for the one who plays it
self-medicate 5y ago
People will always try to fuck with you. Esp. women who are interested in you. Idk why you're mad, dealing with shit tests is fun if you know how to do it
riot2100 5y ago
I’m phasing in and out of the anger phase atm(no pun intended). I’m gonna admit that I should’ve done more lifting to keep up with the mental development, I’ll try and keep that in mind and have a little fun along the road!
self-medicate 5y ago
If the work you have to do to get girls to hook up with you is making you angry then you want them too much
dobbekz 5y ago
These people are probably trying to stop you from breaking free of "your place"
byronshadow 5y ago
Women will ramp up the tests if they suspect you’re a false Chad.
I’d read up on body language. You might have some beta mannerisms left over from your fat days. Self-improvement is great but it’s a struggle to get yourself in the same mindset of a natural Chad who was a surrounded by girls from a young age.