So after this embarrassing beta post that I made a day or 2 ago, (it's in my history if you want context, it's titled: "I realized tonight that I'm an incel"), I realized that 90% if not 100% of my problem is that I was being a little bitch about my anxieties in general, whether it be clinical or approach anxiety. So I decided that I'm gonna go out and do some solo daygame, you know-the jump in the pool and swim sort of thing. I'll be doing social circle game too, which should be easier since I'm starting from no friends, but I want to work on cold-approach and build that skill too. The more the better.
Of course, I don't want to walk into shit blindly, seeing as #metoo is fucking rampant and I could end up entering the wrong scenario. I'll be careful, I promise, but that's not what I'm here to ask.
Aside from reading the sidebar (which is what I plan on doing right after this post) what do you think I need to know when going out there?
Some notes:
- Just to give an idea of logistics: I'm going out after classes are done cuz I'm in college, so I'll be out mainly during afternoon hours between 2-5. I also might end up taking longer commutes to different areas so that I don't get too comfy in one area. Oh, and I'm 19. That's also a big one. (Approaching older women might be different, etc)
- Please no "YOU CAN DO IT" posts. They're really appreciated, but I'd much rather someone be harsh and give me valid advice than someone give me feel-good ego stroking as a garnish to their advice. It doesn't help, I get too comfortable with that. Go raw or not at all.
- "Just lift" posts aren't welcome either. I'm not the most buffed guy out there, but I do work out, I am toned and working on gaining mass, I'm just thinner than I'd like to be at the moment (5'8 and 140 lbs, 18% fat, 43.5% muscle, and working on lean bulking). I've got both that and hygiene under control; just focus on advice on game.
- I'm worried the most about the creep-factor, which is something that motivates most of my anxiety. I realized this after I sat down and honestly thought about it. Any ways for me to get rid of neediness, perceived or otherwise?
- When a girl shows any remote amount of interest in me, I tend to throw caution to the wind and find myself doing things that I wouldn't normally do had I held on to my rationale. Sometimes it works but fizzles, and oftentimes it just doesn't work. Any way I can get that under control? I need to be able to recall and assess what I might have done wrong - going solely with my emotions tend to get in the way of that, as you can see in the post I linked above.
- Speaking of which (and this is my last note, my bad for rambling): I'm going out solo. This is huge for me and I may not even approach for the first week or so since it's so nerve-wrecking to think about much less do, but when I DO approach, I need a way to accurately assess what I might have done wrong. Getting advice on the TRP and over here is pretty good, and is best done with a journal (which I plan on getting), but what about otherwise? Are there any soloers out there that can give me advice on how to improve on my own without developing bad habits?
Alright, thanks for listening, and remember - don't be nice just to be nice. It's kind of demeaning, I'm not a toddler.
derrtderr 5y ago
This whole post reeks of neediness. Read the sidebar first. Then go game. If you have problems, then seek out assistance.
iiOgetsu 5y ago
Confused - how does me asking for preliminary advice constitute neediness? I was gonna go out and game whether anyone answered me or not you know. Plus, I already said that I was going to read the sidebar. I’m reading the sidebar. Did you answer just to get an answer in because I come across as a chode or do you have anything of actual value to send my way?
derrtderr 5y ago
Mostly the first part.
You don’t know what you’re doing.
You haven’t put in the time to educate yourself.
You want those of us that have taken the time to spoonfeed you tailored advice to improve your results without you putting in the effort.
We can’t read the sidebar for you any more than we can lift the weights for you.
Posts like this do nothing to push forward this community.
iiOgetsu 5y ago
Well....that’s not true. The reason why I was bitching about being an incel in the first place is because I have knowledge of so much Red Pill and Game theory in my head with no practical experience. I feel as if I’m all talk, and I feel like a complete loser for it. I’ve been looking at and researching Red Pill theory since I was around 14, but I only really digested the Pill recently, like a couple of months ago. During all that time, I never went out and applied game at all, that’s why I was sperging like a beta in that post.
Secondly, of course I don’t know what I’m doing, not entirely. Why bash me for not knowing what I’m doing and then tell me to go out even while I don’t know what I’m doing? That’s contradictory. The reason why I made the OP wasn’t to get all the work done for me, I’m the one going out, not you. No matter what kinds of advice you give me, it’s up to me to apply that advice and achieve my own success. Advice is only words, and only taking action leads to success. Am I asking you to take action for me?
Lastly, the advice I’m looking for isn’t on what to say, it’s based on critical things. For example, I’m going out solo. How the fuck at I supposed to know what I’m doing wrong without guidance from someone nearby? I don’t have money for a bootcamp and no friends to go approach with. And before you tell me “get friends”, I already said that I would in my OP.
So I’m still entirely confused, how is me trying to get a quick 101 of what to expect during day game being needy and in essence having the date work done for me? Knowing theory doesn’t mean shit if you don’t apply it; if anything that’d be a waste of and insult to your hard work.
derrtderr 5y ago
I’m not bashing you.
I’m kicking your pussy ass out the plane.
Does this hurt your feelings? Tough shit. Welcome to earth. You’re just a kid with no experience who’s wasting his time trying to capture 100% of the knowledge before making a single practical move. I’m saving you a lot time. School’s out bud, go forth and start failing in the real world.
The light is green soldier, jump.
iiOgetsu 5y ago
Sigh...I don’t think you get what I keep saying: advice or no advice I was going to go out anyway. I just wanted tips on what to be mindful about, and how I can improve on my own. Your attempt to spur me to action is going nowhere, and is entirely wasted by not understanding my premise. You’re being a dick just to be a dick, I’m no soldier and you’re no general.
I’ll ask one more time: do you have anything of value to add other than “get off your ass and take action”? Because I was going to take action whether you liked it or not.
derrtderr 5y ago
Cool. You’re all set. ????