So before trp I was a bitch basically, a beta. I lift religiously and compete in men's physique now, because I'm ripped I just use tinder and okc. My theory on apps are if they meet me in person, they will fuck me. It's a science now, I always close a deal off tinder.
Now back in college there's a dime in my gym, squats almost the same as me and more than most dudes. Blonde hair, abs, the sexiest legs, my libido took over and I broke the ice talking about lifting obviously. I casually talked about competing since it looks like she does, and even noticed her check me out a few times. The conversation kinda went flat, I didn't want to bore her so I ended it and finished me set.
That was 2 days ago, today I was planning on taking her number down when I saw her. She smiled and said Hi when she came in the gym and saw me, I talked to her a few times during my workout but I never felt anything... I don't even think I was flirting, when I think back I feel like I was just making awkward small talk.
Is it lack of confidence maybe? I feel like such a pussy. Maybe tinder is so easy because I already know she swiped right, but the hottest girl at the gym talks to thirsty guys all the time.
I'm not an orbiter, so I won't just keep validating her when I see her, I'll just mind my own business and say hi. If she goes up to me to start a conversation then I'll try to escalate but that's it.
What are your thoughts reading this? Has anyone else felt awkward irl after using tinder for all your hookups? Am I just a bitch who rejected himself?
TL;DR Got balls to talk to hot gym girl, hot gym girl just seems like she's being nice, I thought I was smooth enough to get number but just felt wrong to even ask. Should I try again or focus on lifts until she starts a convince.
makethemflaunt 5y ago
>Am I just a bitch who rejected himself?
Sounds like it. You lost confidence, which you never do on Tinder because you know they swiped right and so you know they are interested. In real life situations, cold approaches, you have to assume interest and defend that assumption with your entire being. You have to assume that you are desirable and that they should want you, and bring them into your frame. You have to hold the frame that the tension you feel between you is sexual tension and not nervous anxious energy, and communicate that to her. Approaching IRL can and should be fun, when done right.
nananaNate8 5y ago
The moment I doubted myself she doubted me
makethemflaunt 5y ago
Yup. Tomorrow's another day though.
nananaNate8 5y ago
It's all good, I meditated on the red pill ways haha. I kinda hyped her up in my mind, mostly because this one dude who's way bigger and better looking than me tells me how hot she is, and I want it to 1up him subconsciously. Plus that booty tho.
makethemflaunt 5y ago
Lol.
oytrp 5y ago
A dime piece isn't going to be interested in a chump that can barely squat more than her.
Don't shit where you eat: The gym is your sanctuary. It's for lifting only.
nananaNate8 5y ago
Ouch, good burn. I'm not saying I squat light, she's just a beast, but very feminine. If I say don't shit where you eat, I feel like I'm just making up an excuse to why couldn't flirt for shit
oytrp 5y ago
A feminine woman can't squat more than 300lbs.
Less flirting, more lifting.
You don't nearly have what it takes to attract a HB10 anyway.
nananaNate8 5y ago
Physically I know I can attract HB9s, I've fucked a few but all of tinder..... None of them were straight hookups, I took them all out on a quick date just so I can get them home. Let's say physically, I'm able to catch the eye of a 10, I was in the Marines so I got perfect posture, I know how to walk around with my chest up, I didn't realize my cold approach just sucks. maybe I should cold approach some 7s or 8s on campus to practice
oytrp 5y ago
I'm sure you're just a stud muffin.
But, the gym is a terrible place for pick up.
Women aren't as receptive at the gym as they would be elsewhere, and it's distracting you from doing something much more important than pussy, lifting.
nananaNate8 5y ago
True, I never attempted hitting on girls at the gym. Libido took over and at least I learned that I have no cold approach, tinder was hiding my weakness.