I believe Problem is, once us guys are done licking our wounds and mentally revisiting the pain of our past relationship, a feeling of loneliness will set in and hook-ups will seem empty and hollow.

It seems like you are actually after an LTR where deeper feelings actually mean something. Simple hook ups and plates aren't going to give you those feelings because its all about some quick no strings attached sex. Perhaps it is time for you to vet a new woman to be in an LTR with.

The dating scene hasn't changed that much in the past 5 years.

Your mindset is what's holding you back, I feel.

You suggest that the women you meet are more or less vapid and "just want sex", but usually the things we experience in life are reflections of ourselves.

It sounds like you desire a woman with substance who displays qualities worth making her a LTR sometime down the road, which is fine if that's what you want, but your mindset of that not being a possibility is going to keep holding you back from achieving that.

You make it quite obvious in your post that you're lonely when it comes down to it, but I would challenge you to switch your mindset and shake off the pessimistic attitude you have on dating.

You won't be able to find a woman worth an LTR until you're worth an LTR yourself, so re-align yourself with your purpose, become okay with being alone, and change your mindset to become more positive. Then the women worth a LTR will come.

I was exactly where you were just a few months ago. I’m a year out of a 4.5 year relationship. We were engaged and planning on having kids. Everything with new girls for the first 8 months after the break up felt hollow and empty in comparison.

You’re still not over her, not really. You might not be thinking about her proactively, but your brain is still in a mode where it expects and wants that deeper connection that you had grown so accustomed to.

The trick to find that deeper connection with yourself instead. Focus on lifting. Find a new hobby like photography, or computer programming, or fixing cars. Let your hobbies and your career fill that void in your soul.

Once your brain ceases expecting that romantic bond to be present in your life you’ll find casual sex more satisfying. You’ll be at a point where you’d rather just focus on you instead of seeing girls at all, but you’ll still see one once in a while because you have to get your dick wet occasionally, and it’s better than jerking off for months on end.

In the long term it’s healthier for men to always keep their primary “romantic” energy focused on themselves. Even in an LTR you should consider your girlfriend or wife a secondary priority in your life. Do that, and you’ll never have to go through this again.

Going through this myself currently. Was with my ex for 4.5 years like yourself. Only been 3 months. Have had sex with 2 girls a couple times each and got the same emotionless feeling afterwards you talk about. Same thing as you , before I met my ex I was meeting girls all the time , having sex with different types , races , etc it was great. But I think after I had sex with my ex and realized not only was I super attracted to her physically , we also had an emotional bond that really took sex to another world for me. Where as now, as soon as I cum I just start looking at the door.

Holy shit... I could have written this myself. 3.5 year LTR, broke up 6 months ago as of today. I've been playing with plates and having a ton of fun but the emptiness is REAL.

I think it takes more time to return to normal the longer the relationship was.

Feminism worked

Here we go again another guy crying about getting laid with new hotties. This world drives me nuts sometimes.

E: u did bounce back fast good for you. I find u must be good lookin or quite high SMV in ur area considering your bounce back

Like others said, it sounds like you want an LTR but are acting otherwise. Even the wrong LTR may leave you wanting more. Find someone solid.

My LTR loves being called a slut and loves getting spanked, You got a problem bro?

You don't find LTR cold approaching sluts in a club. If a girl fucks that easy is she really LTR material anyway?

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LTRs are easier if you have some female friends , easier said that done if you have anxiety.

Lots of women dont want to kiss. Yah plates are hollow because you are supposed to find fulfillment in yourself and finding your life goal

After a while everything becomes mediocre

Plates, FWBs, hookups, and booty calls are great when you actually have shit going on in your life. If you're super-busy, have a demanding job, hobbies you enjoy, and shit to do, then it is super-convenient for a girl to show up at 9:15 and leave by 10:00 so you can shower and get some sleep before work tomorrow.

You need a real purpose in life beyond finding a relationship. Stop thinking of casual sex as some kind of relationship simulator and recognize it for what it is: a need. When you're hungry, you stop for dinner on the way home from work. When you're horny, you arrange a hookup after work.

Sure, intense, connected, passionate sex with a lover is "better", but sometimes you don't have a 200$ ribeye in front of you, so you have a hamburger instead, which can still be very tasty. Casual sex is the fast food of sex. It fills the need, then you can get home and get your shit done.