So I've been fucking this girl for 3-4 weeks 3-5 times a week. And I would like to keep doing so.
She's one of those girls with mostly guy friends, she does the activities with them and afterwards sleeps at my place. She probably fucks some of them once in a while.
It's always like "this guy keeps asking me" or "he texted me he loved me". I usually just brush it off or amplify and joke around abit.
But yesterday she told me she accepted a date and was going just because "he was so nice" and I said:
"I feel sorry for the dude it's shitty behaviour on your part to keep playing with these dudes."
She got abit quiet and responded "you're right" and cancelled it.
Did I handle it right? I use some dread also, a lot of the girls here like me but I don't throw it in her face like she does all the time. Don't want to turn this into a dread war.
styxus90 5y ago
Dont know about everyrhing, but feel like this was a really strong line. You usually give not shit, and you dont get jealous in this new case. But you have a strong opinion and if she asks, are not afraid to tell her - without hard feelings, just letting her know shes a shitty person. To me, that is manly as fuck.
ElegantCyclist 5y ago
She's just a plate. Find more plates. "Mostly guy friends" is a red flag and I have met such girls before.
itsjustsimon- 5y ago
I had once a fuck buddy like that. She was constantly talking about exs, guys who hit on her, asking me if she should date this guy and talking how all the rich guys hit on her but she’s ‘not that kind of girl’.
I never shown any jealousy or anything. I don’t know if I failed here but I just wanted to fuck her so I really didn’t care. I just knew from TRP she’s not a wife material.
Let me tell you that all that resulted in one of the most toxic relationship I’ve ever had. She tried to fuck my two best friends and so much bullshit and drama. I wish i never fucked her.
That’s my experience.
graszitrone 5y ago
Wow AWALT, you could be talking about my ex LTR
ChadTheWaiter100 5y ago
Lol. She tried? What makes you think she didn’t succeed? You should keep your friendship with males at arms length as well. Any man could and would fuck your bitch behind your back if given the chance.
StartAnewMan 5y ago
That’s a lie, your boys wouldn’t do you like that. Especially if they respect you. They’ll ask to know where you stand and then make their move on her based on that. Obviously if she’s a plate, she’s fair game. Now if you’re boys don’t respect you... different story altogether.
ChadTheWaiter100 5y ago
After I spent years as the “leader” of my friends, growing up, my “boys” (2 out of 3 of my “closest friends”) both fucked my (at the time) girlfriend behind my back; while I was in intensive care at the hospital. I found out months later.
StartAnewMan 5y ago
Sounds like she was plate material from the start mate. And also a shitty choice of friends on your part. Being a “leader” doesn’t guarantee respect. Leaders are often resented or envied. What your “boys” did is just a classic example of why hierarchies don’t work in male friendships. Each of us have an explicit understanding of what’s cool. If anyone violates our agreement, he should be prepared to gear up in the ring. That’s fear and respect.
I will say this tho, we definitely lead our own lives and don’t bother to game girls together much anymore since we’d rather hang out and go hike/bike/kayak/climb/etc.
ChadTheWaiter100 5y ago
Take what you want from it. Don’t care. This was 10 years ago.
If you were married to a high smv woman would you trust her alone with one of “your bros?”
That’s a rhetorical question.
Can you honestly say to yourself that if one of your bros was married to a woman you found to be a perfect 10 (OBVIOUSLY hypothetical) that you wouldn’t fuck her if you had the chance?
I’m not saying don’t have friends; I’m saying look out for yourself first. “Bros before hoes” is some high school shit and you won’t think that way forever. It may NOT be with women either but wait until you live long enough- you will get burned.
Also- in real life, people don’t “gear up in the ring”. Literally and metaphorically. People don’t fight fair. Life is not fair.
StartAnewMan 5y ago
Yeah I can’t get behind this.
FieldLine 5y ago
Girls can't use dread-game on men. Trying to just pisses men off.
The point of dread-game is that it's game -- the idea is to make the other party more attracted to you.
The biggest lie that feminism ever sold society is that men enjoy the chase and are attracted to women who act aloof. Any guy who believes that never had a girl totally and unambiguously infatuated with him.
It sounds like this girl is completely in your frame and would agree to do whatever you said.
oyoungpadawan 5y ago
"unambiguously infatuated "
The last girl I was fucking for a longer time had this but I had to cut her loose because of it....
Ah well, good while it lasted. And as you said, an absolute eye opener. First time it had happened to me.
volvostupidshit 5y ago
Yup. Triangulation is a better suited word.
ibhova 5y ago
She is not yours, it’s your turn!
Unless you are looking for an LTR,I don’t see why you are judging this girl. Wear protection and have your fun
mrpoopistan 5y ago
"Other guys" is an attempt to demonstrate value, it's not dread game. It's an attempted humblebrag. Her self-esteem is about a -5 on a 100-point scale.
Women have this weird circuit that requires regular attenuation. It's like when women sit around telling their friends that they can't stand how many guys hit on them. They're not dreading their friends. They're trying to establish their status.
The problem is that women tend to use their core intrafemale social skills in every situation. In an intrafemale setting, it works because women aren't allowed to tell their friends, "Nice humblebrag, cunt."
When a woman uses dread, it's always with the explicit threat of removing herself from a situation. Social isolation is a woman's greatest fear, and she projects that onto others. Female dread game against guys is "you're sleeping on the couch" game.
I'd have handled it differently, but I just flat-out dislike this aspect of women's behavior. The last chick who tried that on me, I messaged her, "I'm bored with your shit." And then I deleted her from my contacts. But that's me. I have better shit to do with my life. Also, I enjoy being mean.
Ricklogical 5y ago
Are you acting like its exclusive? If she didn't promise that dude a ring I dont see the harm.
If she is just banging you sure you did the right thing but I mean if shes fucking these dudes they aren't being led on they are being led to bed...
Either way be careful with your feelings, sounds like you are pretty committed. How old are you? Maybe too soon to treat her like an LTR but sure FWB.
A cunt is a cunt and if she gets dates and doesnt fuck I believe that's some cruel ass karma shes developing lol.
Anyhow sounds like you helped her be a better chick, it's a red flag but shes talking about it so just know she will probably branch swing when she runs into a dude that's got more than you, more of what she wants...
Good luck, sounds like a strong run
dani098 5y ago
I woman is not obligated to fuck just because she went on a date though.
oyoungpadawan 5y ago
Ofcourse she's not obligated.
But I would never go on a date with a women I wouldn't at least consider fucking. A lot of women do.
That's why I never go on very time consuming or expensive first dates.
Ricklogical 5y ago
Tell that to dramatic nice guy blue pill Bill
Ceroe 5y ago
Just like it's not a man's obligation to pay for the date just because she came for the date.
dani098 5y ago
Precisely
graszitrone 5y ago
Use dread on her also, let her know you got options and show abundance.
HurricaneHugues 5y ago
Why do you care?
Are u fucking other girls? Doesn't sound like you are. Tell this girl to shut the fuck up when she tries to talk about other dudes.
Lukap295 5y ago
Whats dread
mrpoopistan 5y ago
Dread is the idea that the threat of competition can drive a partner to work harder and invest in a relationship.
Dread game works best when it's not overt. Such as flirting a bit with a cute waitress when you and your girlfriend go out.
AceMav21 5y ago
You’re toward the end of the plate period with her. FWB time is expired next. Keep it up and you risk attachment. NEXT.
patuloco78 5y ago
It seems that her game is working on you. Spend less time with her gradually and show her your value by giving her less attention. Flake on her. Focus on getting to know new girls
MrCongeniality1 5y ago
She wants you to be her boyfriend. It sounds like you have been spending a lot of time with just one woman for the past month, guess what that makes you?
I don't think your response was bad, but compare your answer to this: "Aw, maybe he will bring your flowers. He sounds like a really nice guy." Rolling on top of her and starting to fuck her.
She is going to occasionally fuck a plan B guy. Deal with it. Of course, once you actually don't care, you will be demonstrating enough frame that she might not actually fuck Mr Plan B because her shit-eating orbiters just can't get her wet.
chadjugo 5y ago
“There’s this one girl”
SirAttackHelicopter 5y ago
You just implied your own intentions towards her are pure compared to the other dudes she is fucking. Is she a plate to you, or is she LTR/marriage material? Because she likely interpreted your statement as thinking you want to marry her. You are falling for the very same trap that TRP is warning men about.
ChadTheWaiter100 5y ago
Did you handle this right? Fuck no. You should have cut her off when you discovered “she has a lot of guy friends”. If you want to- keep fucking her. But cut out this “spend the night after she’s done hangin with other guys” shit. That’s gay af.
BuckNekkid18 5y ago
I can feel the oneitis creeping up on you. From how I read it, the line you told her about playing with other dudes came from a place of jealousy. You're fine but don't fall for this chick.
oyoungpadawan 5y ago
thanks man you're right I'll watch out and put the breaks on this one for abit.