What direction should I pull the date now that she's wearing a prom dress (lol)? And how should I text back?
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innominating 5y ago
She agreed and amplified your shit. She will not wear a prom dress. Don’t wear a suit.
Brickles09 5y ago
This
ich_bin_doch_geil 5y ago
No. Wear a suit, then shame her ass all night fot dressing like a slob.
artbyrez 5y ago
I wouldn’t do suit, button up shirt with nice shoes. Clean jeans
Ricklogical 5y ago
See you then.
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You might want to dress up a bit too LOL.
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I'm going to need to hear about this when it's completed. That's awesome dude.
duskyMonk 5y ago
I was only planning to wear a tailored shirt, but looks like I'm breaking out the navy suit. Wear a tie? I never actually went to prom, pre-rp days...
Ricklogical 5y ago
Lol sounds like a great photo
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duskyMonk 5y ago
I'm wearing a suit. Date's in 5. Wish me well, boys.
artbyrez 5y ago
Flake
Bruchibre 5y ago
How did it go ? Update please ?
JW_2 5y ago
Post in one hour: “Bros I showed up to a date in a three piece suit and she had on jeans and a blouse, now she won’t reply to my text, did I goof??”
duskyMonk 5y ago
Nah. A suit means business. A three piece suit means you intend to take over the business.
duskyMonk 5y ago
Update:
She texted me that she would be late just before I got there (her thing went long). She came 20 minutes late in a heels and a dress that was in fact hot, but not a prom dress. I gave her some shit over being late. We got gelato and walked around town chatting for 45 minutes.
She mentioned that my bumble profile listed swing dance as a thing that I do and talked about how she loves to dance. So I asked her back to my place so that I could show her how to swing dance. Of course, I had walked us towards my place so we were 5 minutes away.
We got back, I poured some wine, and put on Sinatra. Taught her the basic swing steps and some moves in my room. Sat her on the bed after a few minutes and made out with her. I slowly moved my hand up her dress but she told me to watch it when I got to her ass. I backed off and we made out a while longer.
She then made a comment about not expecting to be kissed by a shy guy. I was kind of surprised and biffed that one saying something dumb like I'm introverted but just demonstrated that I'm not shy. We chatted some more and then she said she had to go because she has an 8am class tomorrow.
justarandomguy: you're probably right that my tone was too much. I actually know her though because I TA'd a class she was in 2 years ago. When she matched with me on bumble I asked if that's why she swiped for me (yes). So I was going for a bit of an authority vibe.
ibhova 5y ago
Well played, this sounded like a good date-except the lack of the f-close
EvanPetersDouble 5y ago
Awesome
look_good 5y ago
this post sounded autistic as fuck but it kinda makes sense. girls like being told to do things by an alpha. continue to work on your frame and exude a more sexual vibe on dates (be a guy that fucks)
JW_2 5y ago
What about it sounded autistic?
look_good 5y ago
dressing in formal attire for an ice cream bumble date. not an ideal scenario to fuck a random, on second thought, wtf op lmao
nofilmynofucky 5y ago
Dude that was fucking text book.
I think you're falling into a common rookie mistake - the 'wait, that actually fucking worked?' response.
You'll get used to it, but until you do, try not to second guess yourself so much. She played right into your frame here, the fact that she's trying so hard to determine if you're joking is a very good sign: she's not writing your request off, and she's also showing that she's eager to please but doesn't want to make a fool of herself just in case you were joking - which is a good sign again as it means she's concerned with how you perceive her.
Keep it up, I'd say you've made more progress than you realize
markinsinz7 5y ago
Hold up though that did sound like a legit question I mean dress for Gelato? Like yes no shit it's a jeans thing. I get that it's about frame but it didn't have to be a dress, could have like make sure those jeans are tight af or something
nofilmynofucky 5y ago
Fair, it was a ridiculous request - but he's clearly high value enough that she's willing to go through with it
Really just shows what girls will do if you're alpha enough tbh
markinsinz7 5y ago
I think u mean 'high value enough' is more like it. It's hard to display all alpha behaviors in a short time frame like 10min get # and what not. sure some guys who've been slaying for a long time have it but those r not the guys who ever even need to approach.
duskyMonk 5y ago
Thanks!
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duskyMonk 5y ago
Signal, it encrypts your messages between other Signal users
BurningOrangeHeaven 5y ago
And you can lock screen shots or make messages self delete, really handy.
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duskyMonk 5y ago
Uses your phone number, works like a regular text app with the normies, encrypts with your fellow cryptoilluminati
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duskyMonk 5y ago
Android, think there's an apple version too
BurningOrangeHeaven 5y ago
Its like getting a different keyboard app for your phone, this one can replace your default sms texting app.
Wanted to add - it only stops people from screenshoting if you both have signal.
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BurningOrangeHeaven 5y ago
Oh idk anything about apple i've never owned any of their products haha.
derrtderr 5y ago
I’m curious to see how this turns out.
Ramo029 5y ago
The ending wasn’t a shit test man she just wanted to know if you were serious about her dressing up (because who actually dresses up for dates?) so she wouldn’t look like a fool if you were actually serious. You didn’t need to act like a sperg and avoid the question when it wasn’t even a shit test
dukes1998 5y ago
Yeah that was sarcasm bud. You were trying way too hard and it came off as cringey as fuck, and not only that but she set herself up to fake on you too with that last text.
Next time don’t try so hard.
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I don't know why the text game on TRP is kept cold and a matter of logistics and shittests and whatnot.
You should be as flirtatious and hilarious on text as in real life bro. Why are you acting like you own the girl? Sure. That's how it's supposed to go but I'd assume you barely know her? But still, never talk to a girl with a tone, "You're here for MY PLEASURE".
"Are you gonna impress me or not" in my opinion was the wrong move. And you don't just tell her what to wear. I usually tell girls to "dress right" and when they say why, I just say, "To impress everyone in the room and make them jealous of me :D"
One girl went like, "Oh, I didn't know you seek people's validation that much. You seemed confident".
I responded with, "Well, if I'm with the best best looking girl in the room, ofc they'll feel jealous, there's nothing I can do to keep this validation from coming... Am i right?"
Ans then we both laughed it off. She finished work, went back to her apartment for the sole purpose of wearing and dress and then came to see me. "So will I make other guys jealous tonight?"
"Mehh, not really. But I think that'd do".
Atghh fuck you face.
Keep it light. I just didn't like your tone. There are time to be dominant and times to be light and sweet. Setting up a date, hanging out...etc etc is all times to be a sweet lad. You should always be deseicive and convicted in whatever you do, but also keep that playful mood going on, even over fucking text.
I usually chat with girls like in my blue-pilled days but the only difference is that I use this for building rapport and then closing with us agreeing on where and when to meet.
Your screenshot seemed to me like you're desperately endeavouring to say the right thing. Your messages look like they're well thought over and mediated. Just keep it playful!
Yonski3 5y ago
There are good reasons why the recommendation is so stick with logistics. Many times noobs will have a horrible “text game” and will basically going to turn off the girl from wanting to date them at all.
Second reason which should apply to us all: ideally you are living a busy life and spending very little time on your phone and therefore keeping your messages to logistics only.
darkdarkDog 5y ago
Update us
renateco 5y ago
I think you did well. Now an option would be to just say "see you there" and stop texting (as someone else suggested). When in doubt be silent or ignore her need for an answer. Builds some mystery and will leave her thinking about what you said for hours
dtyler86 5y ago
“Oh... oops. Wrong recipient”
Let that marinate in her mind ????
Morphs_ 5y ago
You tried to make a cheap date into something elite, of course she's going to be confused. She wasnt shit testing you, your request was just weird.
Especially as you kept pushing. Being a social robot is not the same as holding frame. Next time suggest something that fits the saying "dress to the occasion".
Ohboohoolittlegirl 5y ago
There was no shit test, none at all. If any, she passed your shit-test by first agreeing and amplifying and then setting you up for a no-show. I'd gone for a : Dress up sexy, instead of dictating her entire attire..That's cringey as fuck. I expect you to dress up, just for her not to show up at all.
ThickSoild2802485 5y ago
First of all, you should only be using text for logistics.