I think my daily plans fail because there's nothing good waiting at the finish line. Had 8 effective hours? Had 4? Had 1? What's the difference, after those hours I'm still at the same spot. There's nothing to look forward to at the end of the day.
How do I make goals that are actually appealing to achieve?
I get up at 6AM, have some coffee and read a book for some time. How do I then not turn from - Lets get 3 hours in on school / that freelance project - to let's jerk off for an hour, let's watch that star wars film, let me browse reddit and youtube? And then I'm pissed off at myself for wasting time, and I end up wasting more time. And the cycle repeats.
I'm aware I lack discipline but I do not know how to build it. I think the only reason I managed to get my degree almost in time is the fact I don't go out and party and that I leave a lot of time for my tasks which can be done in a lot less, if I was motivated, which I'm not.
BrutalMan420 5y ago
Do????You????Even????Lift????Bro????
moneymakingmiguel 5y ago
Yess, 4x a week, but these last exams took the will to breathe out of me, all I wanna do is lay down and be a lil pessimistic bitch boi
Abeham10 5y ago
Do you lift? Maybe you need more fun hobbies.
moneymakingmiguel 5y ago
Any ideas besides lifting? I like cars and programming. My mates told me I should start a youtube channel and they'll all give me their cars to review. I'm kinda up for that, since I could make a site and/or an app so I could have a wider reach.
JarHeadJoseph 5y ago
Jiu jitsu it’s great but also on the expensive side
[deleted] 5y ago
I feel you OP. On my days off I still go to the gym, cardio, brush my teeth, wash my face, do random stuff like laundry or vacuuming, but there are still huge chunks of the day wehre I'm just surfing the internet or gaming. It feels like I'm just back to the same waste I was years ago.
monkey_typist 5y ago
Develop a habit, do something with progression that you can get better at. By all means jerk off and watch movies, but these are passive recuperative activities, because they don't offer progression.
Progression is something you can get better at. Like working out, martial arts, sports, playing musical instrument... etc. Find something that interests you. If you can spare the money, take a class. Because once you paid for a class and have a schedule, you'll be incentivized to stick to it. Once you stick to it for a month or two, it becomes a habit. Then the progression you get from doing it and improving, will create a positive feedback loop, and it will make you a more interesting person.
If you like Star Wars, maybe try kendo. Some of the lightsaber combat is borrowed from kendo. It is an expensive sport to get into though. Or, perhaps you can try video editing, and try adding lightsaber effects to random internet videos. Just trying to think of Star Wars related things since you mentioned it.
What reddit and youtube videos do you like? Maybe you can develop the subject matter that interests you the most into a hobby.
Summit75 5y ago
There is an old book "How to Live on 24 Hours a Day." You may find it useful. (http://www.gutenberg.org/ebooks/2274)
moneymakingmiguel 5y ago
Thank you for pointing me in the right direction. Mind if I message you when I finish reading it?
Ricklogical 5y ago
Don't jerk off so long, 5 minutes tops. If you don't orgasm don't touch it for a few days man.
Don't watch videos or movies or anything that you have already seen. Get off of reddit and youtube totally for a week or two.
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Do I give a fuck what you do with this 'time off'? No, go outside or go somewhere new or read a book or do some fucking yoga or engage with a live human being or work out more or prepare and cook your meals.
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Don't have anything to look forward to? What do you fucking mean? Like you are having an existential crisis or something? See a fucking psychiatrist don't ask a bunch of fuck boy meatheads how to get motivated, WE ARE ALL MOTIVATED HERE that's why we arrived here, we are fucking hungry for something.
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Want to be hungry?
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FUCKING STARVE YOURSELF. Do it, take everything away like you are a little fucking child. Don't reward yourself, don't placate yourself till you straiten the fuck out. Take cold showers till you find a solution. Don't eat junkfood or listen to music. Don't jerk off, not ever. Stop it.
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Take all pacification bs out of your life and eat clean till the solution enters your mind. If you have nothing to look forward to you are a walking fucking zombie just like the man wants to you to be. Get a boring shit job, meet and mate with a basic bitch, have 2.5 kids and be trapped into buying an over sized overpriced home stacked on top of other similar robotic fucking existences.
FlyingSexistPig 5y ago
The things that you do might have a reward, far in time, that your brain knows about.
But your body has a much more direct way of telling you what to do: The glorious dopamine release. You eat food, there's a dopamine release that tells you you did the right thing.
So, the key is to figure out how to get that reward for doing the things you should, rather than the things that bring you immediate pleasure. So, when you work on your freelance project, think HARD about what rewards it will reap for you. This can trigger your body to give you the same sort of instant pleasure as other, more visceral activities.
Good luck
moneymakingmiguel 5y ago
I read in a few places that envisioning a goal is actually bad for your motivation, because when you're done envisioning the goal, you're back in reality, where that goal is still out of reach, so you're bound to feel even slightly demotivated. But I do respect that advice, since some entrepreneurs like Elon Musk always talk about envisioning your goal. I assume they think about it 24/7 lol
FlyingSexistPig 5y ago
I didn't mean it in the classical sense of, for example, the runner who envisions himself crossing the finish line first, or something like that.
I meant seeing your current activity (lifting, working on the things that actually improve your life long-term) as directly benefiting you immediately.
EL_Miore 5y ago
Because time does not move linearly.
Abeham10 5y ago
The reason lifting is so great is because your body not only changes but it turns into a hobby. Yeah that’s a great idea do what you love. You could also play sports like football and if you feel like it’s a day where you’re gonna go back to an unproductive day head to a coffee shop and do some work there.