Potential LTR disclosed that she had been cheated on before and then asked me directly if it ever happened to me. I paused for a moment and then decided that it a girl cheating on me isn’t really reflective of me, at all. I admitted that it had happened to me and we sort of bonded over it.
I think the general consensus of TRP is that if a guy divulges this information, he loses a certain amount of respect from a girl. However, I’m very dominant over this girl, sexually and emotionally so I felt it was appropriate to be honest.
What is your experience with this?
Psychological_Radish 5y ago
It is okay to disclose past relationship traumas, just don't go overboard with a gigantic feelings puke. The way you frame it is crucial. You want to portray it as a learning experience and put some sort of positive spin on the situation.
Remember, girls constantly probe you for weakness. If she suspects you were a Beta in the past, she is going to shit test you about it so she can see if the "new you" is genuine or a facade.
BeeBopJoe 5y ago
As long as you dont give off the impression that being cheated on affected you long term in a negative way then you should be good. Like Psychological_Radish said, the way you frame it is what counts.
VolatileEnemy 5y ago
send_it_for_the_boys 5y ago
If a girl were to say “no wonder that girl cheated” I would tell her to kick rocks without any questions.
W_O_M_B_A_T 5y ago
Anything you say, can and will be used against you later. Understand this. This isn't to say that you shouldn't necessarily talk, but understand that what you say and what your woman says to you about it doesn't matter as much as you want it to.
Don't talk about shit that you're not ready to be ridiculed, criticized, or shit tested about in some way.
Be willing to A&A about anything you've told her.
MakeMenGreatAgain44 5y ago
Better not
BusterVadge 5y ago
I am honest about it. But I say that it's not a big deal. Because it's not. People cheat and I have no scars over it.
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BeeBopJoe 5y ago
OP, this guy is overreacting. Ignore his advice.
ihavemanyquestionsz 5y ago
We’ve seen each other for a month. She seems very interested in a relationship but is def playing it as cool as she can. What do you mean she is borderline?
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PlzBuffBeamu 5y ago
Although I’m not sure if her saying she was cheated on instantly classified her as borderline. IF SHES BORDERLINE YOU GET THE FUCK OUT.
I dated a borderline in highschool and it fucked me up mentally for fucking years.
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VolatileEnemy 5y ago
How is it any more phenomenal lol?
PlzBuffBeamu 5y ago
Worst part was since I was pretty young I was so fucking confused and had a lot of issues following it. Without TRP I honestly don’t know if I woulda fully recovered. Actually thought I had mental issues at one point, my shit was fucked.
I can agree still to this day she had the best head lol
bozza213 5y ago
Damn now I feel crushed that I didn't at least get to get my dick drained before having my mind completely fucked in the same manner.
VolatileEnemy 5y ago
This is bullshit... by 5-6 months, most women will reveal pretty much everything to you unless you're just really bad at conversation and connecting.
Most hot women (just by being HB8,9,10) will sometimes create warnings like "don't ever lie to me" and "don't ever cheat on me" because they have experienced this and it has hurt them.
Doesn't mean they are borderline. It just means that hot women date lots of assholes.
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VolatileEnemy 5y ago
I'm not sure sometimes a conversation is directed in a certain way and someone recalls something from a past relationship and they talk about it.
BPD red flags are usually very drastic, like she says something scary or threatening or drastic mood changes that seem insane and hysterical. Says something suicidal like "if you cheat on me I will kill myself!" things like that.
But saying "i was cheated on, it sucked" is not red flag.
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spiritletshereit 5y ago
All of this only matters if you care. I was with a girl once who basically verbally abusive towards me whenever she got jealous. People would ask me why i kept seeing her.
I cared so little that it was just water off a ducks back.