I'll make this as analytical as possible :
Female friend told me she ended a LTR. Never orbited or been friendzoned by her. Kinda hot but not LTR material.
After that she told me 'haha so now I can come to your house as often as I want'. At some point after that she told me I look handsome.
Yesterday I told her the way to do something for a school project, she said 'Thank you so so very much, you have to let me reward you somehow.. do you have any plans in these following days?'
Saw all these things as IOIs so I decided fuck it, she's a friend but she's hot, let's escalate, maybe she'll become a plate. I didn't wait any longer so I told her 'Let's meet tomorrow'. She excitedly said 'Omg yes let's, I'm free at any time'. I said 'ok I'll call u when I wanna meet up' she said 'yes perfect, just not too early in the morning, I wanna sleep until late'.
Today : I call her in the afternoon. She says she doesn't feel like leaving her house because she is sad (cuz she ended LTR) BUT that I should come over at her place for the night. I'll be unavailable tonight so I tell her 'Nah I can't, you come to my place first thing tommorow morning' (gave her an exact hour too). She says 'of course I'll see you xoxo'. Then she sent me a text saying 'Thank you it's so sweeeet of you to let me come over'.
Okay, so I'm having a bit of trouble with interpreting it :
Pros : -she obviously wants to meet up ; she showed those IOIs; literally asked me out after ended the LTR;
Cons : -she is (or wants to appear like she is) sad over LTR; that 'thank youuu it's so sweet bla bla bla' sounded.. idk.. suspicious, but I can't tell why.
Conclusion : Should I let this girl come over tommorow? Will she start bullshitting me about her ex or does she wanna fuck?
Relevant info : I don't wanna LTR her I just want sex ; I used the word 'friend' for the lack of a better term, but it might mean too much. She's just a schoolmate I am friendly with. Never went out with her, called her over to play video games or generally spent time with her outside of school.
OmLaLa 6y ago
My recommendation would be to not think about it.
"If something happens, cool. If not, whatever."
Should be your mindset. If it's not, you'll mess it up.
Reason: She was flirty with you right after the breakup (haha so now I can come to your house as often as I want...Thank you so so very much, you have to let me reward you somehow.. do you have any plans in these following days?...etc)
But all of a sudden she's sad and needs company? Her "sorrow" is her plausible deniably; her rationale for why she's coming over there at 2 in the morning.
Just let it play out and don't overthink it.
askmrcia 6y ago
So there is two ways this plays out. For one. You handled this great so far. If she comes over you screw her and that's good.
If she doesn't and shows alot of lmr then I soft next. You don't need to be her little buddy while she's is looking for attention because she got out of a ltr. Unless she wingmans for you then yes, I soft next.
So conclusion, yes have her come over. She don't put out, then you soft next. She do? Congrats op
TheMistakesWeMake 6y ago
She might be DTF, but I'd say she's testing your boundaries. You re-arranged once (fine), but if she flakes again you need to soft-next.
As usual, actions > words. Ignore what she says and watch what she does.
dr_warlock 6y ago
This. And a reminder, never be as excited as she is about the whole ordeal. Imagine daddy taking his daughter to the park, that's how you should be.
Blackhawk2479 6y ago
This is going one of two ways;
1) she’s DTF and is already spinning the hamster up to position you as a shoulder to cry on so things can “just happen” when you’re there for her and she gets to fuck you guilt (and responsibility)-free so soon after ending her LTR
Or
2) she’s positioning you as a shoulder to cry on so you can be her emotional tampon and beta orbiter to make her feel better about herself until she snares the next cock to ride on
IronJohnKwando 6y ago
escalate. Prepare for LMR and shit tests about her ex-LTR, not being ready
Doomy88 6y ago
Yeah it's kind of what I'm expecting that could ruin it. There's nothing to do about this type of LMR, is there?
[deleted] 6y ago
Get her over but as soon as she pulls this shit about being sad, kick her skank ass out under the pretext that she clearly needs some alone time. Then delete block ghost.
[deleted] 6y ago
If it was me in your situation, I would make sure this was what I thought it would be before allowing her over.
I would say something like "I know you just got out of a LTR, and the way we have been talking makes me think you want to sleep with me at the very least. I want to know if that's what we are doing or not."
I would say that because I hate the "games" and having my time wasted. I'm also too old for the "cautious" approach, and she isn't too close to you that her being offended by that would matter too much. (Also you can have her intent in writing just in case something does go down, she regrets it, and tries to #MeToo your ass).
damaged_goods420 6y ago
I see the logic in what you're saying, but unfortunately this is a very quick way to dry a pussy up. It's almost as bad as asking a chick if you can kiss her or not. If you're getting IOIs, just escalate and you'll find out real quick if she is truly DTF or not. No time wasted and straight to the point.
SuperCrazy07 6y ago
Just wow. You have lots of success pressuring a girl you've never even been on a date with to verbally commit to sex before you 'allow' her to come over?
You can hate the game, but you still gotta play.
[deleted] 6y ago
Show me where I "pressured" a girl over.
I asked what are her intentions. If her intentions are not to have sex, she has no business coming to my place. And with abundance mentality, you shouldn't give a fuck if contact ends there.
Newsflash: you can be direct with women and still fuck them, you cuck.
P.S. why the fuck did you put "allow" in quotes? It is MY place, not her's, so of course I would have to allow her in.
mrpthrowa 6y ago
don't do this. This is horrible advice.
[deleted] 6y ago
What exactly does he have to lose here? A chance at hitting some used pussy?
Stop being a bitch.
blurtard 6y ago
All pussy is used you dweeb. The point of this sub is to fuck girls, he wants to, and you’re telling him exactly how to fuck it up.
[deleted] 6y ago
So if his objective is to fuck pussy, why would he invite her over to his place to potentially waste his time and resources without even knowing if he would get said pussy in return?
Only a dumbass invites a woman to his place without her even acknowledging that she would give him pussy.
mrpthrowa 6y ago
guys we found an aspie!
[deleted] 6y ago
Calling me names is the best you can do?
mrpthrowa 6y ago
yes bonehead
[deleted] 6y ago
Congratulations