Hey all, I am writing this in hopes of getting insight into my situation. I am sure there are others with experience and or valuble wisdom that will help me maneuveur some interesting waters I am in.
There are currently two girls that I am very interested in being with but within a reasonable timeframe, need to decide who I will proceed to date seriously.
I am a 27 year old male, they are both 20 year old females.
Girl #1
- I have been dating very seriously for nearly 3 years
- Graduates college in 6 months, has already lived through sorority life with me as her boyfriend
- We do not have much in common except for traveling, which we do together. Hopefully we will do this more after she graduates college. I do not resonate with her major (Criminal Justice Studies) too much or future career choices.
- We do not typically have "deep conversations" and never really have, it's weird when I reflect on this but hasn't occured to me until recently.
- She comes from a good family who I get along with very well.
- Amazing personality, beautiful physically, sex is great
NOTE: She does not want to have children (unless adopting) and children is something that I do want to have. She does not align with my religious beliefs (she won't discuss beliefs / is traumatized by death) which is important for me. She does not discourage my beliefs at all, but she does not like to be involved at all.
Girl #2
- I have been friends with for about 2 years, became closer friends about 6 months ago and now have become sexual partners about a month ago. This is unique for me because I have never had someone be a friend, then a lover, this is a new paradigm for me and feels very natural and as if we have been together for years (even tho only been dating for a month).
- Just transferred to University from Community College, has about 2 years and just joined a sorority.
- I am a big fan of her studies (Real Estate Development) and future career path, it aligns with my interests and goals. I am a big finance buff and investor.
- We have actual insightful conversations about what we like about eachother, dislike, future plans...etc. This obviously may be because we are at the early stage of our relationship.
- Amazing personality, beautiful physically, sex is good (maybe not as good as above)
NOTE: I am best friends with her brother and he is essentially one of my mentees / spiritual little brothers. She does want to have kids and we have similar goals with children. She does not align with my religious beliefs perfectly (I am Christian) but isn't too far off (Jewish).
I am having a hard time at discerning between the two relationships because they are both at totally different stages in terms of the life cycle of a relationship. I do not want to discount that I may be favoring Girl #2 because it is the "new and fresh" thing.
This is probably very confusing and may be ignored, I figured I would give it a shot.
TLDR: I am stuck between two girls and do not know who to choose, long term relationship vs the newer thing.
Thanks
jacques_cousteau007 5y ago
Girl #2
If you were really interested in a future with girl 1, you wouldn’t have even considered girl 2 to begin with.
Assuming you’re already red pilled, her brother would be grateful his sis isn’t dating some beta bitch.
It works out for everyone.
[deleted] 5y ago
Exactly. Starting this thread should give you enough reason to move on from gf #1
HurricaneHugues 5y ago
From one oneitis to another oneitis
Son_of_Gatsby 5y ago
It's the beta's way
Grandpaonfire 5y ago
"Mentees/spiritual little brothers..."
Millennials...
aItalianStallion 5y ago
idk, what do you call someone younger than you that you have helped educate and develop over the course of 3+ years?
Taking them from an anti-social, depressed beta to an impressive social butterfly alpha?
Grandpaonfire 5y ago
Okay quai gon jinn, just make sure they stay clear of the dark side
vandaalen 5y ago
http://archive.is/yxzC1
cliffhung 5y ago
Girl #1 sounds like a plate. A good fuck and not much else besides the length of time you've been together. Sunk cost fallacy in action.
Girl #2 sounds more complex. At first glance, she seems like a far better option. Shared interests, goals, and compatible personalities. The problem with girl #2 comes with boundaries and relationship dynamics. It's far too easy to get sucked into the allure of a 'unicorn relationship' and forget the RP basis behind relationship interactions. It would be very easy to fall headfirst into the trap that is girl #2. Before you know it frame is lost, boundaries are broken, and a pedestal is erected underneath what is perceived as a high value partner. This cultivates an unwillingness to walk away and removes abundance mentality from the attraction equation. The fact that you see her as a good friend leads you to attach more meaning to and invest more heavily in the relationship than you would otherwise. Having a partner with high value traits in aspects other than physical appearance is desirable, but you walk a thin line.
BoilingBleach 5y ago
Dude either you are missing something or you posted this in the wrong place.
Do whatever YOU want, and if you made a mistake there are more plates in the world
W_O_M_B_A_T 5y ago
If kids are a major goal for your future, then don't compromise on that. Go with girl #2.
This is a legit reason to end an LTR.
My opinion: "Meaningful conversations" means a lot less in a first mate than loyalty, attraction from her, a great sex life, responsibility and moderation, domestic competence, etc.
I don't need a woman to understand it appreciate my hobbies and interests, I need intimacy, respect, loyalty, companionship, and for her to generally do what I ask her to do.
aItalianStallion 5y ago
Awesome insight. The problem is that Girl #1 definitely fulfills all of my needs in terms of intimacy, respect, loyalty, companionship and literally does anything I ask of her...but then again, if I don't plan to compromise on the kids thing, that would end up being a roadblock down the line. Better to end it now huh
FieldLine 5y ago
Why not both?
DulceDeLecheMardel 5y ago
TRP doesn't encourage cheating.
boy_named_su 5y ago
If girl 2 knows about girl 1, then she's a cheater and will cheat again
aItalianStallion 5y ago
interesting point