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[deleted] 5y ago
Through pain comes strength.
Literally this only makes you stronger, in a couple of days you will look back and be like
"wow that was weak lol oh well"
Find beauty in pain.
BrodinsOats 5y ago
“Only great pain is the ultimate liberator of the spirit….I doubt that such pain makes us ‘better’; but I know that it makes us more profound.”
— Nietzsche
futterwackenformed 5y ago
I couldn't agree anymore... right now I'm with a twisted ankle and deep cuts on my elbow and forehead. although it's only physical, it makes me feel more alive than I had felt in a while. can't wait to recover and hit the gym.
HadALifeWouldBeElsew 5y ago
It's actually not always true. A traumatazing event could impact your psyche and let it more vulnerable. Do not hesitate to look for support of a therapist if it is too hard to overcome alone.
Jackrabbit710 5y ago
Happened to me after an attempted mugging. My ankle took some damage and it totally threw my whole life schedule off track. Stopped running, off work, paranoid around my local area.. been 5 weeks now and only just putting things back together
daffy_duck233 5y ago
Here is one of my favorite Seneca's quotes, i meditate on this whenever i fuck up:
PlzBuffBeamu 5y ago
Saving this thanks
JohnDick2k 5y ago
Of course it's expected. Life's not a fairy tale. Accept that moments like that will happen. Grow from these experiences, and be a MAN! https://www.sosuave.net/forum/threads/be-a-man.16903/
VasiliyZaitzev 5y ago
Stop torturing yourself. Set realistic goals and build up some "wins".
BusterVadge 5y ago
Dude... It's OK to break down. Just don't stop getting back up.
MRPFag 5y ago
5 weeks ago, I cried myself to sleep in my new apartment feeling very very low.
Then I woke up, forgave myself for being a bitch and got to work.
I've since gotten promoted, picked up new business outside of work, gotten stronger and lost 11lbs.
I can't believe I even doubted myself and felt that low. The shit times happen but they change quickly. Don't fight feeling shit because it will just come out some other way. Let yourself feel it and go through feeling shit until it's gone. But while you're feeling you must do the work. Just keep working, one or two positive experiences turn things around very quickly.
[deleted] 5y ago
You did good. Hitting the iron was a good idea. Yesterday I was toying with the idea of shooting myself, probably wasn't gonna do it but I went to the gym on my rest day and was fine after that
person8445 5y ago
Theres a quote which I can paraphrase (badly), i believe the original context was the societal level, but for me I think about it for my individual life as well.
"Good times make weak men, weak men make bad times, bad times make strong men".
It will make you stronger. Dragging your ass to the gym when you don't want to go is more of an achievement than going because you enjoy it.
voxiqs 5y ago
Your brain is like any other muscle in the body. Give it rest by meditating and strength by enduring. You need to rest your mind to maintain frame.
[deleted] 5y ago
This is also a little like depression so you might wanna look into some mental exercises for that as well.
Bad days definitely happen but what matters is how we react to them and now that you know that you have the potential to break down-you need to build resilience and push back against it.
When you break down again then just try to last longer than the last time and the time before that. Slowly but surely is always my rule when it comes to these sorta things..
DadOnDabs 5y ago
I go through the exact same thing as you and went through a pretty bad breakdown at the beginning of the summer (21 y/O if it matters).
I'm very skilled, very driven, and have always been good at whatever I set my mind to. I've known since I was a little kid i would excel in life and that has had both positive and negative effects on me.
I went to a therapist to get help and she said it perfectly, "Do you feel like you're your own worst enemy?" Yes. 1000% yes. Everyone around me has supported me all the way and the only one critical on me was myself. This drove me to excel harder but ended up getting me down when I didn't achieve goals I wanted.
I had to make the connection that I was supposed to be MY BEST FRIEND not my worst enemy. I forced my thoughts to be positive and shut down and negative thoughts I had.
Here are some tips I can give to help you out.
1) shut down all negative thoughts. The moment they come into your head say to yourself, "the thoughts are not right, I'm doing an amazing job, I love myself and I am my own best friend. Keep up the good work." Or your own variation of that.
2) keep a log of 3 goals you want to accomplish every day. These are meant to be small goals just to improve your daily life and show that you are accomplishing something. Examples being cleaning your room, taking out the trash, or abstaining from a bad habit like a smoke break or video games. Also have one or two small goals to improve your life in the long run. My personal examples are reading for an hour a day, meditation for 10-15 minutes, drawing for an hour, etc. Make sure you keep this in a log and cross off each one after you do it. Crossing it off your list really does give a sense of accomplishment.
3) keep a journal. Every night before you go to bed write in that journal, doesn't matter what you write just let the pen flow. It will release all of the clustered up thoughts in your head and get it out on paper so you can see what is really bouncing around inside your head all day.
4) meditate. This more than anything else. I skimped on this for the longest time but ever since I started back up I've felt so much clearer and at ease.
If you have any questions feel free to message me.
[deleted] 5y ago
One of the most impactful motivators for me is an old Japanese proverb:
"Fall down 7 times, get up 8"
It sounds like you're depressed. I've been through exactly what you're going through man. I know what it's like. Here's what you can do immediately to help.
Continue to exercise every day if you can.
Go outside and get 20-30 minutes of sunlight a day minimum.
If it's cloudy all the time where you live look into getting a light box to get the sunlight you should be getting. Costs around 50 bucks and you just sit in front of it. Researchers believe the type of light it emits causes a chemical change in your brain and lifts your mood. It's usually recommended for people suffering from Seasonal Affective Disorder (winter depression) but I've found that it helps me all year round. I always try to get natural sunlight but if it's cloudy or rainy all day I try to use the light box.
Omega-3 vitamins
You can't change the past man. But you can sure as hell change your future.
Like other posters have said, set reasonable goals for yourself and accomplish them.
SkorchZang 5y ago
Probably is going to work out better for you in the end, than holding it all in would.
If you have a good buddy to talk to, see if you can meet up just so he can hear you out. Thoughts and issues change their actual structure in your brain when you communicate them, can make them manageable or remove the anxiety altogether. In other words, bullshit that bothers you is much stronger when it is left unsaid, pushed down.
Next best thing if there is no one to go to, is to write about it in a journal. Write streams of consciousness for about two pages at a time, even if it makes no sense and you repeat. Every day at a certain time. If you don't know what to write, then write "don't know what to write" over and over.
youcantdenythat 5y ago
Too much creatine makes me all emotional. The other day I accidently took two doses and then watched forest gump later and cried like a little bitch.
Moral: If you're taking alot of creatine, cut back or even stop for a few days and see if it helps.
[deleted] 5y ago
Listen, brother. I am the same as you. I read through TRP stuff and sometimes get overwhelmed by how much info there is out there. I see people who are worse off than me and others who are faring much better. So with that much input, you kind of break down and feel like you're never going to string all this shit together to get the confidence and happiness you want. Something in your brain gets triggered and you think all the joy of life is set aside for others, and NOT you! You just have to relax. Slow your brain down. I've tried to rush some of this stuff, but it takes a lot of time to sink in. It takes a lot of repetition and a LOT of failure. I don't know that any of that will make you feel better, but know that you're not the only one out there who hits a wall and feels low. I see others like myself at the gym, trying, failing and trying. You'll be alright. There are hundreds of thousands of men of different ages, shapes and sizes who are going through the same shit whether they admit it or not.
room_303 5y ago
Put the weights down and stop the gym for a week, get off reddit and especially TRP so you can get some focus.
MuhTriggersGuise 5y ago
I find exercise one of the most beneficial activities if down in the dumps or struggling with anything emotional. Putting down the weights is the last thing he should do.
room_303 5y ago
Because we are all doctors here.
MuhTriggersGuise 5y ago
Well, some of us are fussy little bitches, apparently.