So a flatmate at University I live with is a close friend.
We party often together (sometimes as a group, sometimes us two only) at Uni clubs
and we don't really look alike.
He's a good talker and fun once you meet him (also is fine with chatting up girls), however his appearance
is mediocre; doesn't lift, doesn't dress well and looks like a nerd in general. He's also not proactive in clubs, mostly follows me around.
I've given him some pointers on that from what I've learned on TRP (however its gonna take time to implement).
How can I make the most out of the situation? make sure he doesn't sabotage my efforts in clubs etc.
it_takes_the_redpill 5y ago
Just make sure he's not a cock block. He does that once, ask him about it direct. If it sounds like he's gonna keep doing it, drop the fucker.
I had a "friend". One day I saw a chick and feeling confident in the moment I said "I'm gonna go ask her out."
He was like "whoa dude, she's eating lunch."
I was like "And she looks bored alone on her phone, and has been sitting alone ever since she sat down 15 minutes ago."
He said "whatever man, just don't push yourself too hard on her. I wouldn't. Please don't." And proceeded to explain how it was basically never okay approach a girl in public in his book.
Never spoke to that negative asshole again.
tomic888 5y ago
That's the thing, I need someone who likes risk and who's always up for approaching girls and having fun. Friend tends to question a lot of things and kill the mood that way, or he 'doesn't feel like' approaching...
it_takes_the_redpill 5y ago
I'd tell him that and see how he takes it. You can post it as "I hate when I go to the club and a friend does X Y Z instead of A B C."
You dont quite call him out, but point out the negative behavior and why it puts a damper on everything. Hopefully you'll see a lightbulb go off in his head.
I ditched the friends that wanted to keep me down at their level instead of rising with me.
Some people are content to be crabs in a bucket.
88VILLI 5y ago
projecting his insecurities on you so he doesn’t feel alone in them. fucking hate that shit. lift yourself up, don’t drag others down.
it_takes_the_redpill 5y ago
This. Dude was in a long distance relationship for 4 straight years through college. Probably just a giant emotional tampon, probably never talked to a girl besides her. Fatob computer geek. I can just imagine all the dudes running train on his GF.
Chad1738 5y ago
Approach women solo in the club and then introduce your good talking friend to them. As long as both of you are having a good time, thats all that matters.