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ThePounder 6y ago
I think you’re on the right track. Lifting heavy, eating well and eating a lot, putting yourself out there, and being persistent puts you ahead of 90% of the other guys.
Just keep at it. You’ll make it. Be persistent, push the limits and keep improving yourself.
bobaisdope 6y ago
Things will be be better. I promise :)
RedPillIsTruth2 6y ago
R u indian as well?
[deleted] 6y ago
I’m an Asian man living in the US if that wasn’t made clear in the title
StrongAffordance 6y ago
FYI in the UK “Asian” means south Asian (indian Pakistani etc)
[deleted] 6y ago
Ah, my origin is north Asia (China). I should have made that more clear in the post.
lurkingtacopiller 6y ago
Does it really? That's vey interesting. In the US if you ever hear Asian the assumption is one of Korean, Vietnamese, japanese, or Chinese.
StrongAffordance 6y ago
Yeah. I’m in the US now but I lived in the UK before. They say East Asian or north Asian for what’s considered Asian in the US.
ETA: I was in London. Might be different other places in the UK
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mattizie 6y ago
Nah, Europe just lumps them in together so that they people won't realise who the muslim rape gangs really are.
seracct_72 6y ago
Not a coy answer here ... money.
Manducor 6y ago
Money won't make him alphafux, it won't fix his insecurities, it won't make him more masculine. If his mind set stays the same and all he manages to do is accrue money he'll only make himself another prime target for women looking for an easily manipulable BB.
Money is a great tool for agency, and coupled with the right attitude would make a man more intimidating because of the ease he would have of carrying out his will.
yeahmaybe2 6y ago
Read the sidebar, follow the instructions. Eat right, lift, hang around men as much as possible in situations where they're just being men. Listen, learn. Listen to comedians to help with banter, find a local improv group and practice being fast on your feet. Keep/cultivate some facial hair. Wear "manly" clothes, don't dress like a weenie. Get lift shoes and put lifts in them. Bulk up. Do some real work, look like you work at something productive. Watch old American westerns, imitate them in private, then allow it to gently bleed over into your real life. Get old and tired so you DGAF. Live hard for a while to get some age and rough edges.
[deleted] 6y ago
CBT for your anxiety. Super effective.
Free CBT online here: https://ecouch.anu.edu.au
jasondougies 6y ago
only advice i can give you is to lift consistently, consistency is king. I too have similar problems as you do, I am also Asian, but I'm taller at 5'10/175lbs. However, lifting doesn't fix everything tho since it's only appearance, like the top comment here has said, men are judged by what they accomplish life; so have a mission and be passionate about it.
UncleWarwick 6y ago
Yeah... 21 year old girls are fickle creatures. Wouldn’t put much stock into what they think as much as you want to bang them. It’s difficult, I know, but trust me on this.
So long story short you’re on a good path. You’re going to have to sacrifice some of the “fun” that other 21 year olds are having but you’re going to be setting yourself up for success years down the road.
Remember, women want a man who other men respect. What earns other men’s respect? “Do I like you and are you good at what you do?”
For the latter, get good at something. Be of value. Men respect muscles, jobs, success, anything that they know you have to work to get because they know you put in that work to get there.
For the former, develop the IDGAF mentality. Men bond by fucking with each other.
Example: Him: “Oh short Asian man trying spit some game over here. You: “That’s Mr. Short Asian Man to you buddy. Better watch out or that blondie you’re eyeing is coming home with me tonight” Him: “Oh man Asian shorty got some teeth let’s drink”
This is how you need to approach every interaction with guys. It’s shit testing. It’s “can you handle hanging around the cool kids.”
BigNoseForTheHoes 6y ago
Lift. 5'7 is not too short, you can still look dominant if you put on some size
Manducor 6y ago
The first thing you gotta do Op is get fucking mad at yourself for allowing this self loathing mindset to infect your brain. When a man takes the pill his mind shouldn't be "I'm sexually undesirable, how can I fix this?"
My friend, take the advice of the greatest philosophy to have evolved within your home country: Zen (Chan)
You are assuming that your thoughts are something separate from yourself. How can you be taken seriously when your mind is constantly telling itself that you're not something worth taking seriously?
The problem is an internal one, fix that first and everything will fall into place.
185poundsofhatredWIP 6y ago
Bullshit. If a skinny manlet approached me at the gym and started telling me how to lift, he could have zero doubt about himself and genuinely believe he is the shit and I still would not take him seriously.
Manducor 6y ago
Reading a book is equally important to lifting, and since you seem to be lacking in the critical thinking department I suggest you pick one up.
I'm not suggesting OP should imagine himself to be something greater than he is, that would rightfully be as you put it: bullshit. Like most other guys who take the pill and realize where they stand on the totem pole they take on that same self defeating attitude "I'm short, I'm ugly, I'm not white" You think anyone who whose constantly berating themselves with useless shit like that is going to make progress?
When guys who are already at a disadvantage in the SMP keep thinking this way they stunt their growth as a human being which is a million times worse than getting rejected for things you can't control.
Merwebb 6y ago
You are commencing the good road, just keep going no matter what.
Dont measure your success by getting looks or getting respect. Those come by themselves AFTER you keep working and accomplishing.
Do it for you and you alone
StrongAffordance 6y ago
Focus on style. Many physical inadequacies in men can be overcome with physical fitness and style. You’ll hear more about fitness than style around here but don’t forget the importance of dressing well.
Small frames can be compensated for with well fitting suits and other structured clothing like blazers and topcoats. Dress shoes often have a small heel so it’ll boost you a bit over sneakers. Wear work boots with slim fitting pants for even more footwear advantage.
Embrace the hairless face, this is not uncommon for Asian males. Use facial accessories to accentuate, like sunglasses. Wear accessories like tie clips, pocket squares, and well chosen belts bracelets and watches to curate your own style.
For more, feel free to PM.
WhorehouseVet 6y ago
Get your testosterone level checked, you sound like low T. My advice is if your test level is shit, consider steroids.
[deleted] 6y ago
Advice? Get to work.
[deleted] 6y ago
I've met some really intimidating short Asian men. Wear well tailored professional clothes. Don't smile much. Be aloof. Work out and or do martial arts. Work on developing your professional life and girls will be asking you out.
I was a groomsmen at a short Asian man's wedding in December, he was just ambitious and charismatic that got him his wife.
_flashpoint 6y ago
There’s a lot of bullshit in this thread but you’re young and on the right track. You’re lucky enough to start early and have the knowledge that will shape your life over the next decade. Be grateful for that.
Focus on lifting, eating well, upgrade your wardrobe where you need to, and focus on school. Success breeds confidence. Until then, fake it til you make it. Put yourself in uncomfortable situations. Fail. You will fail. But failure is the best teacher.
Don’t worry about feeling inadequate in social situations. Take baby steps and focus on building your conversation skills and making connections with people. With life experience will come aptitude to navigate social situations.
Get involved with some group activity or volunteer. It’s a great way to meet people and get better at interacting. Focus on your mission. Adding value to your life will make you valuable to be around. Don’t focus on pleasing others, that’s a fools errand in the long run.
Keep at it and build momentum.
Soderbergh 6y ago
Women are judged by what they look like.
Men are judged by what they accomplish in life.
Besides working out make yourself exceptional in something and you will get the respect you crave.
185poundsofhatredWIP 6y ago
Bullshit. Literally everyone is judged by what they look like.
Soderbergh 6y ago
Beautiful women go after the powerful and successful men not necessarily the most handsome.
montereybay 6y ago
Different factors, like appearance, can be made up with other factors. Granted, OP has a pretty shitty deck to work with, esp for the US. That just means he needs that much more in accomplishments and deeds.
I've been where you are, and I won't lie, its a really hard road. MY advice would be to not even think about women until I've built up those other things that I can control (accomplishments, resources, fitness, social standing, etc). I dumped a lot of resources into pointless dating and half-assed displays of wealth. I regret most of it.
One thing I don't regret is practice socializing. Do all the socializing you can. Ask women out, but also just hang out with them with no goals or expectations. Try not to let the rejection get to you, just see it as conditioning.
FriendlyAdvisor-v2 6y ago
Initially but men’s looks are not taken as well into account in our primal instincts
Arhamzubair 6y ago
Since you don't look masculine you need to develop your "edge" or inner "shadow" as Carl Jung would say.
Lifting is great, but I would recommend a martial art (BJJ, wrestling or anything used in MMA is good). Goodluck
GreenPiller 6y ago
Shoes with lifts on them, monoxidil for beard and after getting a beard use toppik to fill in the patches. Also lift and get better clothes, Asian people have no style.