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redhawkes 2 5y ago
Tell her how you feel ^/s
Game ten other chicks and stop being her girlfriend, for a friend she sees, a friend you shall always be.
Izakthegreat23 5y ago
Book of pook
prrraveen 5y ago
Follow this man. I had the similar situation. We we're friends for two years. She was dating other person when we met and then she was single for 4 months. I was very attracted to her. I knew she doesn't have have feeling for me. I told her how I feel. It felt 100 kg lighter. She was fine in the beginning but then she started getting annoyed on every little thing I did. Eventually we stopped talking. I feel bad about it but I think this was the best thing I ever did. I am seeing other two girls now. TRP helped me a lot.
Whisper Moderator 5y ago
Dumbass.
You know what the cure for oneitis is. But you somehow think you're special.
You're not special. Man up or get the fuck out.
crespo_modesto 5y ago
Ahh I was experiencing this, denied by fake number, sadness. Pathetic. Oh well.
SirKolbath 5y ago
This question gets asked so damn frequently that I literally have macros on my phone to deal with it.
Sir Kolbath's statement on oneitis:
"If at any time you are focusing on one girl, you are by definition ignoring the remaining 3.66 billion girls."
MattyAnon's law of /askTRP:
"If the original post contains any reference to 'this girl', the diagnosis is oneitis."
Read the sidebar. Lift. Game other girls.
imPwP 5y ago
Hey, what does macros on a phone mean
SirKolbath 5y ago
My phone keyboard (SwiftKey) allows me to save text to a permanent clipboard. I have dozens of TRP replies saved there, ones I got sick of retyping seven to twelve times a week such as reminding the kiddos that there are billions of women in the world and to stop being whiny and sandyassed because one of them swung to another cock.
SwiftKey is primarily an android app, but I recently moved to an iPhone and found it in the Apple store. So far, I'm not as impressed with the iPhone version, as a lot of the functions I liked, such as active arrow keys on the keyboard (makes it much easier to correct typos) are not available, but it beats the asshole off the original iPhone keyboard. (Although it is a pain in the ass to have to switch keyboards to use voice to text because Apple is a bunch of fuckin' Nazis when it comes to allowing developer access to their higher phone functions.)
Ramesses_ 5y ago
Buddy nooo. You have to keep reading the sidebar and especially try to get through the rational male. The understanding of relationships you're presenting is textbook Hollywood. And not how it works at all!!!!!
Women want men they are attracted to. Not men they like and connect with. Men they are attracted to.
Think about it. You're exactly the same. You could have the best connection in the world with some 2/10 landwhale but would there be ANYTHING in the world she could do to make you want to go out with her? Yeah one thing: lose weight and get hot. No amount of her appreciating you, liking you, professing her feelings to you is going to do shit. The only way you'll consider her is if she gets hot.
The situation for you and your friend is exactly the same. Assuming you guys are fairly young and she's fairly pretty she is automatically top 1% of all women in the world. Maybe not all women her age or in her social sphere but certainly in the world. Women are only powerfully attractive for a short period of time and she's in this window. So are you her best available option attractiveness wise? Fucking highly unlikely and that's why you two are just friends.
I can't stress enough how non valuable you loving her is to her. She doesn't give a fuck. You pedestalising her does nothing but turn her off. Women exclusively prefer men who they perceive to be superior to them in some way. No ifs or buts. If she doesn't perceive you to be superior to her then she cannot be attracted to you.
Your only hope of pulling this girl is to raise your attractiveness to the point that she perceives it as being above hers. Obviously you can start with getting in really good shape and having a good body. The next most powerful method is preselection. I.e. Pulling her friends or other girls she thinks are equally as hot or hotter than she is.
But this process could take years brosef. Far better off concentrating on improving yourself and building the same level of connection with a girl who starts off already being super attracted to you. Good luck.
newbieboxer 5y ago
Hey man, appreciate the comment! A little about us - I'm actually the more attractive one withing the pairing. I have a pretty high SMV (not because I think so, because I've been told so). I keep myself in shape, however I'm not the biggest dude or the most ripped one. So I already have that part down. I'm also better looking than her ex.
I'm everything she could ever want. I listen to her, I help her get through stuff etc. However, I'm not a cuck either. She knows she can't take me for granted. I don't understand what I'm doing wrong.
Ramesses_ 5y ago
Oh I see. Man that's awesome. Way better than expected.
It all depends on how you're getting rejected? Need a bit more info on what the issue is or what the context is.
The key to closing is continuous gentle escalation - all action, rarely words.
Isolation first, so getting her alone. Then start with incidental touching. Sitting close, legs brushing, playful punches, hand on shoulder etc. Eventually all this is leading to you making a move. Physically you want to go slow with women and vary the pace. Some touching, some pulling away. Two steps forward, one step back. And slowly escalating to the kiss or whatever over the course of a night. You need to warm them up and they take longer to get turned on than we do.
Now if you've done all that and still getting nowhere then she's simply not attracted to you. Such is life. Attraction isn't a conscious, logical decision. Sometimes for someone reason you're just not into someone even if they seem perfect. Not much to be done with it, simply move on and look for the ones who are into you.
newbieboxer 5y ago
We've been alone, plenty of times. Sometimes we do end up cuddling or smthn (she's not a very touchy person mind you).
I really do love her, not only romantically but as a friend. It's so hard to move on from only one aspect of hers. I have rejected so much pussy because of her. Because I can't mentally picture it with another girl. I've had girls pull my hand and say "lets go hookup right now" and I've said no. Do I come across as a fucking loser? Maybe but it doesn't bother me. All I want is her.
She's my endgame. I'm ready to wait for however long. Here's the part which perplexes me - she gives me attention like she gives noone else. She's pretty detatched in a way and I'm also admittedly the only person she texts first - almost everyday. I move away for university in a week and the majority of our conversations boil down to her asking me how much I'd miss her.
If you want more of an idea on her, she's the kind of person who everyone rants to, tells their troubles etc. Basically the "therapist" of her friend group. I'm the only one who listens to her rant because I know she needs that. And I know I'd do all this even if I didn't love her. But, sadly I do.
clausternn 5y ago
Do you seriously wanna beat yourself up the rest of your life? Do you really want go on reddit when you're 30 years old, read a "if you could go back to any point in your life, what would you change?" -- and answer "I would have kissed Joanne when I had the chance."
Is that what you want? You want to feel this miserable for the foreseeable future all for the sake of your friendship?
Get the fuck outta here. Learn to make friends with men so this shit doesn't happen again.
In the meantime, decide on one of these course of actions. And remember, if you choose not to decide, you still have made a choice.
Pick a moment when you're being intimate -- i.e. while cuddling her or whatever -- and kiss her, make out with her, and have sex with her if she's into it. Basically, escalate hard and then go from there.
Open up to her, tell her your feelings, ask if she wants to give the two of you a chance. If she says yes, you win. If she says no, tell her you need a break from her to figure your shit out, then go no contact for a long time, as long as you need, months if need be. During that time focus on going after other girls... or go monk mode... or focus on a hobby or a mission, whatever, anything to try to get your mind off her.
newbieboxer 5y ago
Man, it's really hard to say.
I'm planning on slowly reducing my contact with her. Distracting myself with work, fitness and other responsibilities. Maybe slowly I'll fall out of it, that's the aim. I can't risk my friendship with her - it's all too precious.
Ramesses_ 5y ago
Yeah ok but where is the rejection? You've cuddled, have you made any moves? Hard to figure out from your post why you aren't banging her. Have you legit just not tried?
MottledThread301 5y ago
Was in the same boat about a year ago. Don’t tell her. Start lifting, focus on your hobbies/school, and game other girls. Keep her around but don’t be her girl friend. That’s how she sees you even if you think otherwise. She’ll eventually get jealous and start paying you more attention in which you have to take advantage.
jagdecat 5y ago
There is no such thing as a girl best friend. It's someone you're being "nice" too in hoping she sees you as her prince charming someday and in the process you turn her off.
Solution, start decreasing the attention you give her and spend on others. Once she sees she has competition only then ball will roll in your court.
TheBadGoy 5y ago
I suggest you stop being her friend, once she starts telling you how Chad treats her bad despite them having sex everyday then you'll pretty much die inside. It will be painful but we will make a man out of you.
HurricaneHugues 5y ago
You only have 2 choices really:
You push for more than friendship. Not by talking about it or trying to negotiate like some sexual terrorist, but by generating attraction through your actions. Your goal would be to have her interested in you sexually. You wont achieve that making corny sex jokes or sexual innuendos either. First, you will distance yourself from her a bit, become less available to her, talk to her less often. Second, you will start taking care of your physical appearance more (lifting weights, getting a better haircut, wearig better and nore fitting clothes etc). Third, you will start working on having better hobbies or hobbies in general that are productive and take up your time (so that you dont have to fake not having time for her, and so that you can buikd your confidence and character). Fourth, you will approach other girls, be seen approaching other girls, and be seen with other girls. Fifth, when you do see her, you will talk less about yourself, you will take little jabs at her, you will be more physical with her (poke her in the stomach, tap her upper arm, grab her by the wrist when walking through crowds or when changing directions during walks), and you will make your encounters with her shorter but more intense.
jayouth1991 5y ago
Start raising your smv and give your attention to another bitch your oneitis will get jealous and probably give you the pussy.
[deleted] 5y ago
As somebody who did exactly this, thats how you do it. She knows OP is into her and is using him.
ArcheHoe 5y ago
i think a lot of the answers here are trying way too hard to sound alpha and aren’t looking at the situation realistically and at what’s plausible emotionally
my motto for relationships has always been “fresh love over old love”. i’m not gonna tell u to fall out of love with ur friend because that literally not possible, it’s too fucking hard. but if you wanna keep your sanity without driving her away your best bet is start finding a distraction, and hopefully one day this distraction will be a girl who shows you the better side of the world and will trump the love you feel for your friend.
don’t lose the friend because in the end she will always be the one you can fallback on, she’s also the perfect candidate for you to start discussing girls with. just never ask for her approval of a potential plate. hold your head high and know you’re better than everyone.
try to find something else and the old will fade away, and who knows—maybe when this happens your best friend will realize what she lost.
edit: i’m a pakistani guy lol, so if she’s a desi girl i can help you a little more cuz i’ve been with brown girls all my life
yamseveryday 5y ago
Get it off your chest, tell her you don’t want to talk anymore, and then move on.
You two have different conceptions of friendship. Unfortunately, from you she is essentially just getting free attention and free affection, without any of the sexual/intimate stuff that you want. It was a broken deal.
Even if you got her, it still wouldn’t be good for you. Because she’s not hot for you and that’s what you want from a girl.
You’ll begin to see women don’t make very good close friends.
Luckily, you’ll able to start new with a bunch of girls that have the intention clear right off the bat. This is the world of opportunities.
I’ve been there! Congrats on starting fresh!
flapjacksrbetter 5y ago
U can do it or regret for the rest of your life
lastdumra 5y ago
She knows you are into her, she is just pretending not to know to keep your ego intact, but she knows.
[deleted] 5y ago
Okay, now I'm starting to see why asktrp comments are hostile.
You really need to read the sidebar.