We are classmates in college and good friends after she rejected me. However sometimes i feel like im a beta orbiter. Like im her boyfriend without fucking her. I still want to keep her as a friend but i want to reframe the relationship. How do i do this?
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Work_In_Progress92 6y ago
Don't reach out to her and don't be liking her shit on social media either. Let her reach out to you and don't give her attention.
RedPillFreedom 6y ago
Takes a little while but you'll notice they look you up over time. I got one that checks all my snaps even though I didn't add her back. she added me from a discontinued number from 2014 haha.
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HaywoodJablome69 6y ago
Why do you want her as a friend? That's what dudes are for.
The only girls you should have as friends are the ones you don't want to fuck (fatties, way older)
Patoocare 6y ago
Because of social proof. Like when we sit together in college a lot of random girls sit next to me and start finding excuses to talk to me. I think if i was sitting by myself this wouldnt happen
Scymnus 6y ago
Because they know you're a good little beta who will give them attention without expecting to fuck. Hanging around this girl doesn't benefit you at all.
Armydude19 6y ago
You're just trying to rationalize some reason to keep her around in your life.
You have oneitis.
Estrange yourself from her. You're never her friend. You're just the little man she goes to when she needs something done for nothing on return.
introvertp 6y ago
Social proof works when women see other women ATTRACTED to you.
If you're just sitting with them and you're not a sexual option then you're just 'one of the gals'. That's not social proof.
RedPillFreedom 6y ago
The Best Social Proof is Stronglifts 5x5. Then go walk with your chest out like you got D-Cups. Approach whatever the fuck you want. If you see an IOI, it's Game Over.
Recipe to my 1st Approach. I closed too big boy.
robodylan123 6y ago
Ok, so I just started using strong lifts at the beginning of this month and it's one of the best things I've ever done. If your new to weightlifting you'll double the weight you can lift in only a few weeks. It's so simple and I love it.
Luckylancer96 6y ago
I read a post that suggested this some time ago. Dont give a fuck nor invesment. Gain the benefits and dont think about what to do with her.
redditJ5 6y ago
Or way younger, or have social value or networking value.
cesafacinaicesafaci 6y ago
Why would one not want to fuck way younger women?
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Because sometimes they are more annoying then they are worth
cesafacinaicesafaci 6y ago
Well are you fucking or listening to them?
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bleuge 6y ago
This. Dump her, there are millions of girls out there. Dont fall victim of Oneitis
shitpommesfrites 6y ago
Fuck one of her closest friends.
equipmentpool 6y ago
NEXT.
oldslut 6y ago
you are
you soft next her and go about your life. and don't go running back declaring your love when she throws you a little attention, upon seeing that you've fallen out of her orbit
go get some plates and work on you
Zweihander747 6y ago
Start actively showing interest in other women, flirting with them etc, even talk to girl who fz'd u about other chicks you fancy and what she thinks of them
I did this to girl who fz'd me and at first she thought it was defence mechanism against her fz'ng me, but i just made like i didnt even care abt her rejection, and when she kept seeing me with other girls and genuinely having fun with them and too busy to give her any attention or validation any more, it mindfucked her, and i kid you not she was into me all of a sudden
Lol I remember this now, and chuckle at it actually being quite pathetic how impressionable women can be
cesafacinaicesafaci 6y ago
Don't be around her anymore. You want to keep her as a friend because you are an orbiter.
kyalord 6y ago
Classic one-itis. Remedy: spin more plates i.e. flirt with other girls. This girl knows you have no other options that's why she's flaking. You have no idea how much value you add to yourself when a girl knows you have options other than her
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You don't need women as friends.
FlyingSexistPig 6y ago
"I still want to be her friend"
You are her beta orbiter. That's your job, and you like it, apparently.
GuestsGetGreens 6y ago
Take a break from her. Give her space. Let her initiate the next hang out. Remain alpha during interaction. Giving space will also give you time to decide if you really are her beta orbiter or, if you can remain friends with this woman
CocoaPill 6y ago
Ignore. Don't block her from your social media but don't like absolutely anything she posts.
You must be absolutely clear with yourself about what you want from this girl. Do you want to fuck her or do you her to be your friend?
Once you decide that then you plan your behaviour.
AlphaGrad 6y ago
You just cannot be friends with a female.
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AlphaGrad 6y ago
You are speaking of associations, which are different from friendships.
TehJimmyy 6y ago
Don't game girls in your class.