So I was out at midnight-ish and a girl from Tinder seems down to hangout. She's in my city one last night and she lives quite far so I assume this is an easy "travel lay" and try and get her out asap. I tell her I'll pick her up and show her a cool part of town.
First she gives me resistance on coming out for a walk that she doesn't want to meet a stranger off Tinder for the first time. After a bit of teasing she agrees to meet for a walk near her hotel. This works for me, I can't bring her to my place anyway because I live with parents. As soon as we meet I ask her if she's staying with friends to see if her room situation works in my favor. It doesn't, she's sharing a room with friends and they're sleeping. So in my head I need to work out a private room or something now, but whatever I continue.
So we start taking a walk. She has her nails done, and I grab her hand to check them out, tell her I like it when a girl has her nails done. Continue with small talk for a couple of mins.
My tinder bio is "most likely my ass is better than yours" or something of that nature, and she had opened me with "no, my ass is better. :P"
I stop her, and tell her she claimed she has a nicer ass than me. So I turn her around to take a look at her ass. Tell her that my ass is definitely nicer, and grab her ass a couple of times. She seems to be enjoying it but claims its nicer. I tease her that I'll have to actually see it then. It's only been 5-10 mins since we met at this point.
Keep walking, light teasing, 5 more minutes pass by. By then we're in some dark quiet street. I stop her, put her against a building wall, and start making out with her. Feeling her ass, her body, etc. I try going for her tits, she doesn't let me. No problem, continue feeling up her back under her shirt, and her ass.
Continue walking and she tells me I'm fast and teases me that I'm a player. Tell her I'm a virgin with a smirk and continue. We walk for a bit with some make outs every now and again for about 30 mins to an hour. I tell her we're getting a room, but she really doesn't want to. I try to grab her hand and take her but she doesn't let me.
So I back off a bit and tell her let's go sit in some park. We go sit, and make out some more, at this point she lets me feel her covered tits while making out but doesn't let me go in her bra. I try for the room again, nope, she's not budging. Back off again, try to tell her let's go sit in my car at least. Nope, doesn't want to. I'm getting a bit tired of it because at this point I've tried a couple of times and it's becoming a pain in the ass because I have a hard dick that needs sucking at the very least.
Eventually it starts getting cold, so I tell her we're going to my car and she hesitates but comes.
So we're in my car now, I make out with her some more and pull her shirt down to expose her one of her tits and start playing and sucking on it. She ended up biting my upper lip at some point (p.s. it's swollen now)... and I teased her how she's a very naughty girl. She seems to be getting worked up so I try and go for her pussy again. Nope, still not fucking having it. Tells me to stop and moves my hand away.
I grab her hand put it on my dick, she's starts playing with it. I start to pull my dick out and she keeps telling me stop. I pull it out anyway and put her hand on it. Nope, she doesn't want to. End up zipping my pants back up and losing the vibe. So I sit her and she's playing with my hair telling me I've gotten quiet. I'm teasing her how she's very naughty, trying to keep the positive state. In reality, I'm thinking of how the fuck I put my penis in her vagina.
Again, make out, tit sucking here and there, her hand stroking my dick over my pants (wtf srsly)... our make out session goes on for 20-30 mins, no exaggeration, and my dick at this point is ready to explode, she has fucking puppy eyes at this point, deep breathing, and I think she's ripe, go for pussy again, fucking NOPE. Denied again. I've never dealt with that kind of LMR.
It's like 3:30am at this point and I have a 30 min drive home and I'm tired. So I tell her I'll walk her back to her hotel. She wants to hang out 5 more mins. I'm a bit fed up at this point so I don't wait, and tell her let's go.
She holds my hand on the way back, and I try my last attempt at her hotel to get her in a private room. Nope, but she wants me to kiss her. She waits but I tell her turn around and walk to her hotel. She teases all giddy "why don't you turn around and walk back?". I turn around and walk away. Noticed her face become all surprised while I was turning around.
Man, I had the biggest blue balls that night, legit my nuts were hurting on the drive back. Was I just unlucky here, or is there something I could have done better to actually fuck her?
LordThunderbolt 6y ago
She had personal boundaries. No doubt she wanted to smash, but she just isn't the type to give it up that easy. I mean if you consider yourself attractive and you truly had her all riled up you have to give her props for being able to control herself. There are girls like that out there.
It doesn't sound like you did anything wrong at all. She just didn't want to smash that night or do anything too sexual.
fuknlmr 6y ago
I had her riled up for sure, her eyes were gone. And it amazed me she resisted, I've never encountered such high LMR so it was a bit of a mind fuck for me. Nowadays, you try the second or third time and sloots put their defenses down...
It's good for her that she has her personal boundaries, but you're in another city on Tinder and you're down to hang out at midnight. Seems like it should have been an easy smash to me.
Part of me thinks if I had better living logistics maybe I could bring her over to "hang out" and in a private environment she'd be more comfortable to go with it.
LordThunderbolt 6y ago
The logistics might have been a killer too.
cnzs 6y ago
You just pushed but didn't pull. That moment when u got "quiet" you should have kept quiet and build up tension or pretend you're leaving. She knew you wanted her and were down to put up with her bs so she took advantage of that. She was looking only for emotional intimacy; ie boyfriend experience but without the fucking.
fuknlmr 6y ago
I did this when I was quiet. She started touching me again trying to get me to kiss her and playing with my hair. Took her hand and put it away. Waited a bit for tension, she keeps staring and me and slowly started working at it again.
Might be right on that.
1Pink1Stink 6y ago
Some women just don't put out on the first date, guys. Let's be realistic here, unless you're chad, you're not hitting a home run every fucking game.
fuknlmr 6y ago
I guess. It confuses me that she was on Tinder and she's not from around here so I see no reason to make me "wait"
NexusReflexX 6y ago
When she would stop you, what was your reactions/thoughts like.
From what ive read, when she did this it may have seemed like you got annoyed or kind of pissy.
I find that if i go to escalate amd get stopped, i pretend like nothing even happened amd take a step back for 20 seconds or so, and go right back to what i tried to do before getting stopped.
If you give off the vibe that youre annoyed by her shit, it weakens her attraction towards you.
You cant get annoyed at the nature of girls. Its like getting annoyed at water for being wet.
fuknlmr 6y ago
I didn't get pissy, I stopped for a few seconds, and tried again. In fact, I was rather teasing her about it. "You're so bad... getting me riled up and not taking responsibility."
I did get quiet to build tension, but no malice. During the quiet times, I was just trying to figure out how to break past her defences.
I only got "annoyed" at the end when I just had enough and was too tired to continue putting up with it. Even then I wasn't pissy nor did I have malice. I walked her to her hotel. Gave her a smirk and didn't kiss her though, which is something she wanted.. I doubt that part came off as butthurt but who knows.
NexusReflexX 6y ago
That first paragraph is where you fucked up.
Its a mistake, a lesson, so learn from it and move on, but heres my take.
Stopping and telling her your getting riled up and her not takong responsibility.
No shit youre riled up, why state the obvious. Speak through your actions, not words. Treat her as if she is irresistable and your instincts are kicking in and you cant control yourself. If you find it hard to do this, stop watching porn and masturbating.
You are holding her responsible for your satisfaction. You are responsible for your satisfaction. Girls dont want to be responsible for ANYTHING, you need to take the lead.
If i was experiencing that kind of LMR, wherr you stopped and explained, i wouldve taken my hand away from wherever i was trying to go, and insteas feel her up somewhere else. You said you were grabbing her ass, so i wouldve moved my hand back to her ass and grab it a little firmer and more of it, pushing on her with my body. Then after 20 30 seconds of that go back to where i was going at first.
Subconsciously you were probably butthurt for not getting what u wanted.
All of this happens, ive had worse experiences where i fucked up an almost guaranteed lay. It happens. Feel free to comment on what u agree or disagree with.
fuknlmr 6y ago
Disagree with 1 and 2. I wasn't actually holding her responsible. It was a joke and said in a very teasing way. And she knew I couldn't keep my hands off her, and in fact it was mostly my instincts working their magic.
Maybe 3 is true, but even for that, I think I was very much in the moment. She kept telling me to stop looking at her like that, kept touching my hair and trying to get me to look away in a fun way.
RedSkeller 6y ago
Had something similar happen before, girl was into getting hot and heavy but had boundaries. We had a first date where I was all over her and she excused herself because she had boundaries. Whatever. She texts me the next day saying she 'didn't want to send the wrong message but was looking for something serious' to which I replied 'I could handle that' and then immediately set the next thing up. I was banging another chick at the time so I took forever to respond and she kept having personal boundaries but I never got mad and it worked out on date 5 or 6. You did fine, not all chicks are first lays.
Aeroxis4 6y ago
Had a similar situation so waiting for answers.
[deleted] 6y ago
Could be anything dude. I don't get LMR often either and it is weird in that particular situation.
walawalawa 6y ago
I recently got LMR...the girl and I made out. She went on a trip. I texted once after that to see if she was ok after the London bombings.
Later when she returned she had turned cool. She either has another guy or ...well that's basically it.
She said she was up for drinks. I texted to meet up and suggested dates I was free. She didn't respond.
So I just left it. I'm banging and hitting up other girls in my rotation.
If this one comes round---ok. If not...ok.
wheresMYsteakAt 6y ago
Dude you have alot of self control, as soon as my dick went back in my pants I'd be starting the car to drop her off. Either that or I would have kept it out with a childish look on my face and go "you are being mean to it, say you are sorry" then the moment she bent forward at all even slightly I'd grab the back of her head and shove it down. At that point she'd start sucking.