Same shit happened to me, basically she broke shit off with me before truly giving me a chance because she all of a sudden had feelings for her ex came back. 6 months later she comes in and says she is sorry and was just going through a hard time yada yada yada. I end up taking her back and last month (5 months after she re-initiated contact) she decided to break things off again.

On another account I posted basically the same post on askTRP. Looking back on it now I mainly just asked because I was hoping the answers would tell me it was ok to take her back, not telling me what I actually needed to hear

Trust me, if you give her another chance, whenever it ends youre going to be kicking yourself for letting her back in. Some things just aren't meant to be, and I've had to learn that the hard way. Leave it dead.

"No doubt I still love this girl"

You are in a dangerous position here. Ghost.

If she meant any of the bullshit she spewed she wouldn’t have followed up with angry texts after you ignored her. This is all about attention/validation for her. Block her.

"Whose this?"

I can't believe how accurate the sidebar is.

you can't go wrong with a birthday cat emoji

gets pissed. well turns out she wanted attention, and a pat on the back for her apology and the "hard work" she did getting over it.

Give her props (mentally) for apologizing though.

How long have you been on this sub? What's the advice that we give to literally EVERY SINGLE ONE of you bastards about your magical ex?

Delete text thread, delete number, delete across all social media, block if you have to, and then go NO CONTACT for life

Not your problem. Hasn't been for along time. Ignore and move on with your life.

You still need to build more self confidence, esteem. And focus on your own needs. Otherwise you wouldn't have bothered posting this, because you would have had been able to make your own mind up about not bothering texting her back.

Made you doubt yourself or the relationship..... Pure projection.

She wants to find out if you still got dem feels for her.

She’s not entitled to have you answer. She’s not entitled to closure. Block her without replying. If you feel bad about it, Think about how she made you feel like shit, and how many ducks she rode, and then block that shit now.

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Sounds pretty similar to this post: https://www.reddit.com/r/TheRedPill/comments/7erd7v/revised_ex_wife_reaching_out_awalt/

Here's a great comment from there:

This text is a study in narcissism. It starts, logically enough, with the reason for her change of heart: she's back on the dating market and realizes how good she had it before. It continues with a reflection on all the advantages you provided her while married. It concludes with a brief apology, preceeded by cheerfully stating that she can now "laugh and smile" at times past. It closes with a hope that you'll give her some more attention.

At no point does she express any concern for you, or regret for damage inflicted to your family. She feels elated that she can now smile looking back on things, and asks you to move on too, without even a perfunctory attempt to see if you are on that same page. She graciously grants you her respect, and takes yours for granted.

This has the format of an "I apologize to you" letter, but it's actually an "I forgive myself" one.

The fact that she turned hostile after you didn't respond should speak volumes. This text was disguised as an apology, but her follow up texts suggest otherwise.

What a fucking bullshit message. She knows damn well that saying all that would tear you up.

Ghost like you never got the message, and block her number.

ANY reply at all, no matter what you say will be validation for her. The great vacuum of silence will drive her little hamster into the insane asylum.

i’m not sorry we ended, i’ve found parts of [cocks in] myself the last two months that i’ve lost the past four years, and i look forward to rediscovering so much more about [cocks in] myself

Is that someone you really want to talk to? Fuck her she doesn't give a shit about you, sooner you realize the better

She's looking for validation. Unless she's asking to meet up ignore her.

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She sucked random cock enough and feels she can settle now lmao

To do what you should have done six mnonths ago: Block her everywhere and accept that she is dead.

Ignore her. Basic translation of what she said is, "I rode the cock carousel, met a Chad, he alpha widowed me, now I need a beta bucks. Come back to me!"

Ignore

Step 1: Message from her to make you “validate” her “recognition” of things.
Step 2: “Fuck you” for not validating.

Girls who break things off to “find themselves” are either already fucking a new guy or just about to. This message to you was her way to alleviate some guilt by just saying it was something she “had to do.” Of course she doesn’t regret breaking up with you. She swallowed Chad’s cum. Maybe many Chads.

How dare you not acknowledge that she needed to consume Chad in order to know she may want you someday when all the Chads have had enough of her sluttiness.

Let me help you with your struggle. Should you get back with her at all, even for a night of fucking, you will taste Chad’s cum in her kisses. If you go down on her, you’ll be cleaning Chad’s cum out of her pussy. In other words, before you were a cuck due to circumstance. This time you’ll be a cuck by choice.

It's a trap, send no transmission.

Iron Rule of Tomassi #7

It is always time and effort better spent developing new, fresh, prospective women than it will ever be in attempting to reconstruct a failed relationship. Never root through the trash once the garbage has been dragged to the curb. You get messy, your neighbors see you do it, and what you thought was worth digging for is never as valuable as you thought it was.

I can give you a full in-depth analysis of her text message, but the short and sweet of it is: she's been pumped and dumped by multiple chads, her ego went to into panic mode and to quell it she needs to prove to herself that she's still capable of getting commitment, so she's testing the waters to see if you're still a good little beta bitch boy that she can use for emotional support and validation.

Verdict: do not answer her, ghost her ass, pass Go and collect new plates

"No worries"

That would be my reply. You got the text, you read the text, you think she's apologizing for something she shouldn't apologize for because you're doing great. You're not a terrible person so you aren't going to ignore it (this is someone you cared about at one time), but you aren't going to waste the energy talking about it or thinking about it.

No worries, have a great Thanksgiving. Any reply after that shouldn't get anything but a one word answer, or even better just a 'k'.

Remember, the opposite of love isn't hate or bitterness; it's apathy. Treat it the way you would treat a text from a coworker you care nothing about one way or another. Simple response that conveys that you don't care anything about having a conversation with them.

Ah, the "wise and strong woman" act. Not only will you instill in her mind that you're plan B beta, you'll also admit to these babies:

• "i hurt you"

• "i made you doubt yourself"

I don't know if she did, but by answering to her, you're handing out power for free (essentially playing into her frame), so don't.