You know how, when you get on a plane, the flight attendant tells everyone that in the event of an emergency, make sure you put on your own oxygen mask before assisting other passengers? That's good advice in any case.

Its the second one, no one gives a shit about you.

Everyone wants to win, if together is how they have to do it then they'll do it together. If not, if its a zero sum sort of situation, then its adversarial.

Do you smoke pot or take any drugs for depression or ADHD?

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Is everyone out to get me

Huh?

Scarcity mentality. We live in a country and time of extreme abundance. There's more than enough success and women to go around.

Other people generally don't give a shit about you, much less have a desire to actively sabotage your efforts.

People who think otherwise tend to be losers who sabotage themselves, just to validate their own scarcity beliefs.

Don't hang out with overly competitive losers.

It's kind of both. Everyone wants to be better off, and one of the easiest ways to make yourself look better is to bring down people around you. Look up crabs in a bucket.

The truth is that some people do want you to succeed, but most people are apathetic to you. And that's ok, I doubt you spend most of your time hoping everybody else you know is doing wonderful. Humans are egocentric because that is the most productive way for a species to function. Nothin wrong with it, and yes people are out for themselves. Make friends with these people and they will make sure not to hurt you in their pursuit.

Everyone? No.

A few people will at times, but is pretty rare and they are normally easy to avoid. These people are either insecure, have a personality disorder, or have a scarcity mentality. For example, a close family member who is codependent may sabotage your success or your relationships in order to keep you dependent on them.

Looks like 15% of Americans have personality disorders. Things to remember, it's their world too and they are a part of life, learn to deal with them productively from a distance. Also, these people stick out the most, and you might even deal with these people the most. Ie, you are more likely to notice and compare yourself against a narcissist than someone who isn't. Remember you also have about 1 in 7 chance of having a disorder, so know thyself.

Most people don't care. But, you also never deal with most people.

Life is about love.

But also leverage.

Some people are weak, jealous, petty (iE THEY as Dj Khalid would say)

While people mostly look out for themselves , I have also found people disproportionately value high value people.

For example , I have around 10 friends I consider family. I would do anything for these people because ik they would do the same which makes all our lives better .

Just food for thought

People want the best for themselves and their family, were "family" does not necessarily mean relatives, it could be friends, relatives, kids, spouses, etc.

Some people step on others to reach their goals. Some people refrain from stepping on others. Some people only step on others selectively.

Relate the choice regarding this subject to the way each person chooses to live. Some people work for others, some work for themselves, some are honest, some con others, some steal, some kill. These situations can be mixed and matched selectively.

The world is filled with all kinds of people. Behaviors, characteristics, world view, social factors, outcomes and many other things can and do vary between people, ranging from slight non obvious variations to extreme ones.

Consider all this and adapt accordingly. In the end, how your mindset evolves depends on you.