I'm sheltered, and very proud. I'm 26 - not very mentally tough at all. How do I get it? I've never really wanted for anything, but I want to be a good crisis man and I was too awkward for frats and knowing that I'd never have made it makes me feel ashamed.
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900PercentSaltIntake 7y ago
Face hardship. Get put under lots of pressure and remain calm.
Mental "toughness" can't really be trained.
falecf4 7y ago
What do you mean it can't be trained?! That's exclusively how it comes about!
You may not become mentally tough by choice if you come up in a certain environment but you learn it through experience. You think Marines and Navy Seals start in the same place they end up as far as mental toughness? No, it is trained just like the physical.
To OP, you can learn mental toughness. Martial arts is a good start and if you talk to the instructor about why you're there they can help push you. My Tae Kwon Do instructor was awesome at gauging people's limits and pushing them almost to the breaking point. It's like lifting, you push yourself to do something harder than before. If you only lift 20lbs and never go up in weight you never progress.
Other things involved in mental toughness have a lot to do with your perspective on everything.
900PercentSaltIntake 7y ago
You're very close to a real situation and having real pressure put on you.
What I meant by training is sitting at home, it's not a challenging environment whereas MMA is.
let_terror_reign 7y ago
Where can I find that stuff as a professional now?
Sure, it happens with life, and I can't control that, but I wanna get better at this stuff. If there are ways to push for it, I want to hustle NOW rather than regret not being better.
Beastmodding 7y ago
Lift heavy
midnightrequest 7y ago
Fake it till you make it. Find a role model that's mentally tough, observe and imitate. You should make some progress.
DarkisKnight 7y ago
Put yourself in difficult situations with no option but to persevere.
mcr00sterdota 7y ago
Experience. All experience my friend.
Soberskipper 7y ago
Totally disagree with anyone who says mental toughness cannot be trained. How do you think they make SAS black ops soldiers mentally tough. They use special methods that break down the mind before they build it back up. Here are some simple suggestions to increase your mental strength.
Do these 10 things for 6 weeks straight and I promise your mental strength will increase. Then you can set higher mental tasks for yourself to exceed in the future.
mdcrubengonza 7y ago
Fail a lot.
the_thinker 7y ago
Make tough but worthwhile goals and go all out to achieve those said goals without giving up.
Old_Memes_Never_Die 7y ago
It's like with weight training, you take on a light challenge, overcome it while remaining calm and then you add more and more.
Obviously just like the body of a fatty would break when benching 200, your will is going to break easily since it's not trained.
Face hardships and seek situations where you're not comfortable.
Coldshowers only (at least for the morning, but even after a workout they feel pretty damn good afterwards) and approaching/talking to strangers is a good place to start.
Naebany 7y ago
Do some extreme stuff or just stuff you're not comfortable doing. Let yourself be stressed and challenged and endure it. Approach girls, go to survival camp, do some embarrassing stuff etc.
50339 7y ago
Frats? Did you go to a really good American party school??
let_terror_reign 7y ago
SEC. I did. But poor/not a hustler/too proud and too scared for that stuff.
Regretting several of those characteristics.
50339 7y ago
Oh true damn that sucks...at least you were there in the first place though. Im stuck in Canada and Canadian universities are a far cry from American ones :( Have you considered trying to break social norms to improve your confidence? Like do something embarrassing in public and it'll take some of your fear away for other things