We met at university, I'm currently a junior, as is she, and we're both successful in our majors. She's a good looking girl, and I have been completely red pill the last two months. She held out on sex till date 3(about a week and a half), but since then sex has been fantastic.
She has given me absolutely no bullshit, and is definitely looking like LTR material. Asked me to one of her sorority date parties, I wasn't interested, said no, and she gave me zero shit for it, went by herself and enjoyed herself and I still got laid that night, so yeah that kind of stuff. I do my own thing when I want and she has no issue, and in two months have probably spent <25$ on her. I've been establishing a Captain/First-mate dynamic and so far so good. Only problem is that I've been dealing with personal anxiety issues/attacks recently, which is why I might be overthinking this situation.
So yeah, I know RP's first instinct will be "move on let her go", which I understand, but god damn its hard to rationalize that when things are going great.
stephcurryftw 7y ago
You are definitely overthinking this.
bittr_n_swt 7y ago
wtf is the problem, just carry on as it is
Gippy88 7y ago
If things are going well stop overthinking it man. Enjoy it. You're fucking a girl you find attractive and that finds you attractive. You don't have to spend much money on her and things are going smoothly...
Are you a masochist or is there something else about her actions that you aren't revealing? Other than that, sounds like you need to get out of your own way or you're developing feelings for her. In that case, tread softly.
If you're worried about her sleeping around and y'all haven't agreed not to... Then, personally, I monitor their ovulation cycles, that way I know that when they are the horniest, they are coming to me for a good dicking. Other than that, I don't really care who they pity fuck on the weekends.
All in all, sounds like you're the problem from the information you've provided.
desno 7y ago
I don't see what the problem is. If you want a plate, who cares what she's doing when she's not with you. If you want an LTR, then don't. You've only been seeing each other 2 months. Try to keep the plate dynamic going.
scrodzilla 7y ago
Meditation will help greatly with the panic attack and anxiety situation.
quicklogaccount 7y ago
Man, I usually advise guys to try to better understand the source of their gut feelings, but usually the guy wrote the source on his post and simply refuses to acknowledge it.
Well, it doesn't seem to be your case. You have a bit more going under the hood, and you should get it solved.
When it comes to the possible cause of your "gut feelings" towards HER, IF I disregard what's already under the hood -I'm actually betting on the closed doors- two mixes pop in mind. Oneitis plus jealously, meaning, you're bothered by the fact she's not yours, and oneitis plus polygamist drive, you feel like you're ignoring your hard wired strategy and you're in angst.
Well man, not a lot to do. Even when we're being paranoid and when they're wrong, it's really hard and often harmful to ignore your guts. It's probably your case, but you don't strike as someone who lacks abundance, so... Do what you must, figure your shit out too.
cashcow1 7y ago
Are you fucking retarded?
You're leaving a good, no bullshit woman because you have fee fees?
Work on your anxiety issues (get some cognitive behavioral therapy to learn management techniques). But don't leave a good woman.