Damn you're paranoid. When a dude is that paranoid and controlling it's like you're just inviting a lady to step out. Do you expect her to tag-a-long every time you hang out with guy friends? Creeping up behind to make sure you don't ever look at another woman? Or are you in some sort of couples-only activities bizarro world of eventual doom?
The thing you eventually realize is that everyone gives strangers the fuck you eyes once in a while. That shit is fun. I've never cheated on a girlfriend (being the other man is another story) but I'd be lying if I said I'd never eye-fucked another chick when I was wasted. It's hard to keep that under control forever. It slips. She never cheated on me. I could smell her fear and lies!
I'm sure my girl has leered at some dude she thought was hot. Whatever. No big deal. As long as she doesn't fuck other dudes it's like whatever. Who cares. What I don't witness in this regard doesn't hurt me. As long as a girl is loyal and you can trust her, let her enjoy her man-candy the same we enjoy hot chicks at the bar. Sure I'd be a jealous bitch if I absolutely knew she was making a habit of it or if she did it around me. That would piss me off. But absolutely no flirty looks at the opposite sex ever while having a night out with your pals? How boring.
If just the idea of her looking at some dude she would fuck while single and appreciating that for herself momentarily truly gives you pause, you gotta get real. Men and women are the same in one regard. Just because we're not out there fucking other people doesn't mean it'll absolutely never cross our minds. You've never gotten into playful argument about the one DTF woman she would have to make an exception for if you were miraculously given the chance? I guess this would suck if her hypothetical cheating pass dude looked totally opposite you in every way and she went out of her way to rub your face in it. Otherwise who cares. Taking everything too seriously is a bummer.
Is the idea of her cheesing at one dude over the course of a significant LTR an absolute deal breaker? Get real. We all would be up for a little strange now and then. Doesn't mean looking at someone makes you a cheater.
On the other hand, banning her from going out to bars/clubs without you could be a very possible unconscious sign that you're really not into this chick and that you're not very confident as regards to the volatility of the relationship. If you feel like you need an excuse to break up, do favor for her (and you) - just end things. Unless you have true alpha swag I don't see shutting ladies night down this completely going well.
blahblah TLDR let her perv out with her lady friends once in a while. it's good for the sex life!
I mean the reason I'd look forward to her going out was the surprise wake up for sex after I passed out. I mean it was totally because I am just that fine a piece of ass and she could not resist disturbing my slumber. Of course it was!! But if one of the times that happened it was after she ran into some Chris Hemsworth looking bro on the subway and it got her feeling frisky, oh well. IDGAF. Just happy for the wake up sex. No need to feel like you're taking advantage of a drunk chick if she's the one peeling your boxers off and you've been dating for years. Who gives a fuuuuuck
holy fuck that is a wall of text
Sure they will if you say it properly. You can get away with anything with the right delivery if she's into you. Or maybe she's just saying it to shut you up?
I guess I wasn't reading closely enough and overestimated your attachment to the girl
this is an interesting angle.
This is my guess.
because he too has a habit of serial dating 20 somethings
The key part of exiting the friend zone is usually alcohol. With me was most often the case of escalating drunken flirting and not an elaborate beach handjob spiral after some chick gets all drunk and insecure. Congrats on your splishy splashy HJ!
I just wonder if it's kinda wack to be proud of taking advantage of some drunken fool while also cheating. I mean a drunk HJ is all good fun but the cheating is a lil childish.
My point is that they're all SUVs now. Now that I think about it I've only ever had sex in minivans and SUVs. I guess I never really was in it to win it enough to go for car sex. A car works for a BJ or HJ but sex is a little ridiculous even when I'm skinny. 6'3" isn't ridiculously tall but it's tall enough. At 190 maybe it would have worked. Rocking my extra-size 230lb blubber these days... do not see it happening any time soon. Probably would have just as little luck making it work even if I converted the 230 to pure muscle instead of flaberation.
Kinda wanna drop 40 pounds and see if I can bang in an Escort now. Bragging rights. U ever fucked in an Escort, bruh? Pimpplayerplatinum
I wonder how things would have worked if I had this approach in HS. And then the entire time i spent in NYC was in two straight LDRs. Ugh.
Yeah my hot ex was totally in control. Welpppp
At least I got to have good sex with my best friend all the time for five years
I always thought of sociopaths as more catchall phrase for a spectrum of wacky folks who are generally more impulsive types with regard to their anti-social behavior
as opposed to a psychopaths who can be totally cool and calculating.
Ah. They're both blanketed under the antisocial personality disorder tag in DSM V. I wonder if the Psychopath Checklist is still a thing other than turning up in prison studies now and then.
This is kind of what I was getting at with a very much ignored post I dropped an hour ago.
I was wondering if there's some sort of balance between super overdrive SJW types and the MRA crowd? I was hoping to provoke a little thoughtful discussion but maybe I came off as glib or trolly? https://www.reddit.com/r/TheRedPill/comments/9iwi7z/quick\_question\_about\_the\_red\_pill/
My only real take away is that I miss being a handsome sex god. Either gotta lower standards, adjust game, or drop 40lbs again. Just in time for fall/winter when my exercise of choice is cycling. Biking in the rain on a fixed gear (silly impractical death machine) was fun enough while getting paid for it. Without the carrot it is hard for me to become a stick again.
Ok so do I somehow get the motivation to start eating properly or can I overcome this self-defeating mindset at my current size? I don't want to stop eating garbage. My inner game is between a bag of Takis, a quart of Strawberry Ice Cream, and that Damn Bike on the wall staring at me.
Whatever man lol
Dope! That would be rad
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