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146 - [TheRedPill] Why Successful Women Struggle to Find Love

[-] Roughneck16 40 Points 7 months ago

It’s true. I know a girl exactly like this who won’t even make eye contact with any man below her standards: he has to be at least 6’3”, athletic, make six figures, etc. Someone needs to tell her that if such a man existed, he would dating a much-hotter girl 10 years younger than her!

But then again, younger women can be a drag. I dated a girl 10 years my junior and her main focus the whole time was to please me, stroke my ego, and obsequiously serve my every whim. Some man fantasize about having a girl like this, but there was a flip side: she was incredibly needy, jealous, insecure, and immature. My fiancée is only a few years younger than me and she has her life together: a good job, strong work ethic, independence, and low maintenance. I definitely traded up.

No worries about doxing. This is my open-identity, non-controversial Reddit account. I have a separate account for posting...other things.

146 - [TheRedPill] Why Successful Women Struggle to Find Love

[-] Roughneck16 37 Points 7 months ago

What men look for in women doesn't change that much as we grow older. I worked with a bunch of men in their 40s, 50s and 60s. Whenever I mentioned that I met a girl, the next question was always "is she hot?"

Women, conversely, change their criteria as they grow older. Girls in their teens and early 20s want a man who's charming, handsome, charismatic, romantic, good singer, good dancer, etc. A lot of them like "bad" guys because they're exciting and mysterious. Older women who've experienced life and have to pay their own bills care much more about income, status, stability, and maturity (i.e. he won't have kids with her and then take off.)

The earlier women make the transition from judging like girls to judging like women, the better off they are.

One example, my best friend's little sister is a smoking hot babe who dropped out of culinary school. She packed up her stuff and moved to a metro that's a magnet community for young professionals. She got a menial job and used Tinder all day, only swiping right on accomplished men (not the pretty boys.) She ended up finding and marrying a guy who's already raking in six figures. Now she enjoys a high standard of living at a very young age.

146 - [TheRedPill] Why Successful Women Struggle to Find Love

[-] Roughneck16 22 Points 7 months ago

Sounds like she had a god complex?

146 - [TheRedPill] Why Successful Women Struggle to Find Love

[-] Roughneck16 17 Points 7 months ago

That's so unattractive.

I would just shrug off rejection and keep looking.

146 - [TheRedPill] Why Successful Women Struggle to Find Love

[-] Roughneck16 13 Points 7 months ago

Some guys get angry and butt-hurt and lash out at the girl in frustration. Women "ghost" the rest us because of such men.

The wise thing to do is to focus on self-improvement instead of bitterness. When people ask me why I studied engineering, I tell them it's because I'm not handsome enough to not have money.

I'm only half-joking.

146 - [TheRedPill] Why Successful Women Struggle to Find Love

[-] Roughneck16 13 Points 7 months ago

I think my article is familiar territory for TRP folks, but not everyone is so well-versed in sociology.

146 - [TheRedPill] Why Successful Women Struggle to Find Love

[-] Roughneck16 10 Points 7 months ago

While you do sometimes see high earning males date or marry attractive women who are, e.g., receptionists, it is more common to see them with either high earning or comparably-educated women.

I remember advising my 6'4" buddy to focus on tall girls. Why? It's simple: exploit your advantages. Because women over 5'10" or so have a much smaller pool of potentials and will jump at the chance of dating a taller man. In that same way, after I graduated college and landed a good job, I focused on educated girls because I knew they didn't want to "marry down."

High-earning females, on the other hand, would be mortified at dating beneath them.

I studied engineering in college and my department was about 15% female (I knew all of them by name.) The vast majority of those girls are now married, mostly to other engineers, which is unsurprising considering that's who they were around all the time. The few that didn't marry engineers instead went for doctors and lawyers.

To my knowledge, none of them married music or education majors.

146 - [TheRedPill] Why Successful Women Struggle to Find Love

[-] Roughneck16 9 Points 7 months ago

¡No te preocupes amigo! Yo te entendí todo. I can tell you’re Hispanic because your wording follows the rhythm of the Spanish language (yo viví en Sudamérica cuando era joven.)

It’s true — some women are in denial about what men look for in a relationship. I remember an obese female friend complaining about how men never pursued her. I told her she had to get in better shape if she wanted a better selection. She got angry and told me that weight, appearance, etc. shouldn’t matter in a relationship. Whether it should or shouldn’t isn’t the issue: the bottom line is that it does.

You gotta play the hand you’re dealt. Tenés que arreglártelas con lo que hay ????

146 - [TheRedPill] Why Successful Women Struggle to Find Love

[-] Roughneck16 9 Points 7 months ago

Oh, you're fine. It's a fair criticism.

146 - [TheRedPill] Why Successful Women Struggle to Find Love

[-] Roughneck16 6 Points 7 months ago

Yeah, women stipulate height on Tinder but God forbid men would stipulate a certain weight.

And unlike height, weight is something we can change.

146 - [TheRedPill] Why Successful Women Struggle to Find Love

[-] Roughneck16 4 Points 7 months ago

No it has a female-sounding username.

146 - [TheRedPill] Why Successful Women Struggle to Find Love

[-] Roughneck16 3 Points 7 months ago

I now have a hotter young barista and see it as an upgrade

I hope she has less student loan debt than her predecessor.

146 - [TheRedPill] Why Successful Women Struggle to Find Love

[-] Roughneck16 2 Points 7 months ago

First of all in statistics, people tend to find their partner a lot at university and at work or in their social circle, so that means they meet people similar to them.

I think that's changing now that most people meet on apps.

Still in statistics, people tend to marry similar IQ. If your partner is too smart or too dumb, it get your upset.

Be careful not to conflate education with intelligence or earning power. They're not the same thing. One of the smartest girls I ever dated was a drop-out who worked as a secretary. Maybe she wasn't the most academically talented person, but she was very clever and could keep up a conversation. I never got bored talking to her.

146 - [TheRedPill] Why Successful Women Struggle to Find Love

[-] Roughneck16 2 Points 7 months ago

Sure. There's this article.

I'm working on some more too.

146 - [TheRedPill] Why Successful Women Struggle to Find Love

[-] Roughneck16 1 Point 6 months ago

Like it or not, relationships are transactional: she wanted a stable family life, he wanted a hot babe. Both leveraged their assets and got what they wanted.

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