"Selfishness is morally neutral, and the sooner we accept it, the sooner we can build arrangements with mutual benefits."
I figured out a couple years ago that high levels selfishness and selflessness were essentially the same thing. What I mean is, if you are the extremely smart kind of selfish, you realize that the best way to get what you want is usually to give someone else what they want and mutually benefit. The short term may not be as beneficial but the long term almost always is. This is wisdom.
The Beatles sang it best. "And in the end the love you take is equal to the love you make."
"The meaning of Inner Game is displaying your intentions, desires, interests, thoughts, and feelings without fear, and staying true to them no matter what "
Before I found the Red Pill and started changing my perception of the world, the times I realized this truth in the most powerfully relevant manner (in relation to women) was on MDMA. It brought to me a different kind of focused, hyper confidence I've never experienced before along with an outcome indifference attitude, and women *definitely* responded to it. At the time, I figured it was just the drug, but as my perceptions continue to sharpen I realize it was more the confidence and shamelessness it brought out they were attracted to and not the drugs themselves. Still, it served as a great reference point and definitely helped me understand on a primal, instinctive level many of the principles I'm beginning to grasp in a cognizant manner as I continue along.
" ...just because some random hoe regretted society calling her a slut and decided to ‘metoo’ you."
I've emotionally overcome a lot of RP truths, but this one still depresses me. I know of so many stories involving women who, JUST TO SAVE FACE, destroyed a man's life. I have friends that this has happened to, personally.
None of us would play Russian roulette, but we still fuck women. Sometimes I genuinely wonder if it's worth the risk. After orgasm, the answer is usually, "no."
" I treated this girl like shit 10% of this weekend. Got mad, called her out, teased her. I did it because I got annoyed and she laughed it all off. I lost even more respect. Dont let your girl walk on you fellas. It will only make things much, much worse. "
This is one of the most recent lessons I've learned in my RP journey. Showing irritation in any way that isn't framed perfectly results in a net loss or respect. Basically, you have to keep your emotions completely in check when expressing irritation. Women will come at you *flailing* with their emotions and we're expected to deal with all of that shit, but we break our stoicism for one moment and it's all over. It's ridiculous, but it's reality.
I think *the* hardest lesson of Red Pill is the fact that falling deeply in love with a woman will so frequently kill the passion in the relationship. It seems absolutely ridiculous on the surface, but that's really the way it is.
I hope you post again about the results of the first girl returning and how she responds to your new attitude. She sounds like she was a friend with benefits who now needs her status permanently reduced to plate due to shitty behavior. I'll bet when she finds out you're getting some on the side again, she'll want to fuck your brains out.
I like Paul. I don't agree with everything he says, but he taught me a big lesson about frame before I even found this subreddit. In one extended interview about how men got the shaft in the legal system, he said... "I can feel the anger welling up in my now as I speak about this."
I thought to my self... "Huh... whenever I get mad, my external expression always changes. He's hasn't changed the way he's speaking to the interviewer throughout the entire thing. Wow." That alone was enough of a life lesson from one person to make me respect them.
The funniest part about this is that a women can't ever make this happen by themselves. They literally don't have the power to do so. Either men *willingly* give up their power on their own or look at the woman, laugh, and say, "In your dreams, bitch."
TRP isn't about hiding emotions, it's about finding the proper place for them. Don't mock a man for expressing himself honestly. I really appreciated the OP's post, because it's accurate and empowering.
"If you’ve ever had this experience yourself you’ll know that this feeling is so overwhelming for a woman that it can send her into a trance that lasts long after sex has finished. One of my partners often was unable to talk or even move for 20 minutes after sex that started, continued and finished with this predatory intensity and mindset in action on my behalf. "
I would absolutely hate it if I was on the receiving end of this. It would make me feel murderous thoughts toward the person who did it to me. This is of course why as a blue-pilled man I never dreamt in a million years it's what most women secretly crave.
Nice post. I get what you're trying to say, but I wanted to challenge one point:
"You cannot change the nature of others."
Think about this: Wolves are volatile and can potentially attack humans. Dogs are loyal. So I'd like to use that as the basis of this example.
Women are more like dogs than wolves or scorpions. I totally get the point of your full analogy, but I do disagree with a small nuance. Our nature *can* change over time *especially with conscious male influence.* It wasn't women that turned wolves into dogs, it was men.
Mother nature is organic, both literally and metaphorically. Nature is *adaptable* and bound to change over time. So while things may be a certain way in the present moment, and it's good to acknowledge that, it's also good to remind ourselves that life, including humans, CAN and DOES change/evolve/adapt. More importantly in regards to our personal power, that change seems to be accelerated exponentially through *conscious* influence.
Use your influence, gentlemen.
Even the craziest female dom-bitch wants to cum and has a fantasy that makes her do it... and being a dom is not it.
Yeah, but today is Halloween specifically. That's all.
" In some cases I've even exited the club with the girl but then suddenly she hits the breaks before getting into taxi after reading some messages or having a conversation with "someone" "
I can't tell you how many times I've pulled out my phone and pretended I was using it just for image points or to get our of an awkward situation. If she's getting these "messages" last minute, there's a good chance she's a skillful pretender who is using her phone as a prop to get out of a situation while totally saving face. The truth is, if she wants to get on your cock, NO MESSAGE WILL STOP HER. Remember that.
" (Cue up the MGTOW Tabernacle Choir, singing A Mighty Fortress Is Our Cuck. Guys, I don't care, I really don't. You don't have to play, but I have had my fun.) "
I belly laughed. Bro, are you Ex-Mormon?
ETA: Great article. I'm seeing this pattern at work more than ever now around me. (I'm not in a LTR, but my dad is and you nailed him and his girl perfectly, among others I know.)
I'm trying to imagine what kind of disciplinary action would be taken if high school three boys were publicly and constantly name-shouting to a girl classmate. The double-standards in our society are so obvious and yet most people are so blind to them.
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